belly grabbers already?

bainidhedub · March 2014

Has anybody else had somebody (stranger or not) try to grab their tummy already?? My coworker did after I told her, I ended up swatting her with the papers I'd just picked up from the printer & told her MAYBE maybe when there's actually a bump and not just leftover holiday blump, and get the fuck away from me. My SIL made a move the other day too. But probably I'm just going to punch people, I think.

MrsHamon09 · March 2014

Pretty much everyone is touching my blump its awkward and I do not like it

LM915 · March 2014

Both my mom and MIL did over the weekend. My mom said that she's my mom and has the right too (she was being silly) and thinking about it, I pretty much agree with her! Some day when my DD is grown up and pregnant, I will definitely touch her bump. I also do have a legit bump and it's not just bloat or fat. It's baby, so I don't mind. I wouldn't want anyone touching squishyness though. lol

MMason12 · March 2014

I would have reacted the same way. I won't handle people thinking they can randomly touch me well. Its not their body and there is zero reason why just because I'm pregnant people feel its okay to touch me.

bf43005 · March 2014

There were two people who did. The first person I asked several times not to do it at an adult birthday party and kept pulling away. He came up behind me and did it, I was furious because I asked him several times not to. But he was drunk and I tried to not make a big deal about it. The second person caught me off guard but I pulled away as soon as possible. I agree with PP, you wouldn't feel ok groping me if I wasn't pregnant so it's not ok now. Find out who you are ok with touching you and let other people know it's not ok.

kami09 · March 2014

My friend tried last week at a shower and I basically assaulted her. I feel like she was just touching a fat blob...on the other hand, my sister touches it & I don't really mind.

mrsdanielleM2010 · March 2014

At a family birthday party our 15 year old cousin came and started patting my fat. I hated it but she was really just curious so I showed her where my uterus was and explained about the current size of the baby. It turned out to be okay, but I was really uncomfortable.

Shanadoll · March 2014

Yup, several people. Luckily no strangers yet but it's still weird and awkward. It's amazing how they all think it's ok!

MrsLaLaBug · March 2014

Get used to it ladies, it only gets more frequent from here on out! Get your defensive moves ready now LOL! Or just tell people you are NOT a Buddha statue so GTFO.

aliciak316 · March 2014

I always find a way to bring it up when talking about my pregnancy how much I hate people touching me especially my belly while pregnant. I really don't like people in my space and the biggest complaint I have about my in laws is they hug to much

TinkL0ver · March 2014

At my nieces birthday my cousin decided that since she has 4 kids shes allowed to touch my stomach. I am normally a hug hello hug good bye and don't touch me other than that, type person and snapped at her. I get weirded out when SO does it even (although I do let him and am happy that he wants to bond with baby in his own way already) so she was not going to get away with it. I don't really like her ether so there's that... I've conceded that my mom would be really hurt if I don't let her the few times I will see her so I'm trying to get used to that before next weekend. I want to order a shirt that says "hands off the bump" and just wear that when needing to be out in public (even if i have to wash it every night)

TinkL0ver · March 2014

damn double post.

whataboutscience · March 2014

A few of my preschool students started touching my belly as soon as they heard the news, even though there's still no bump today. To me, they're excited and cute, so it doesn't bother me. One coworker who I get along really well with kind of poked my fleece to see what was under there and ask "any bump yet?" I was surprised that it really didn't bother me. She's a sweetheart though, and I know she's excited too.

Now, a few older women have told me that they see my bump, and that DOES bother me because I definitely don't have one. They're just pointing our flab that was already there!

julestony · March 2014

My MIL asked before touching. I told her I'm ok with family touching (my 9 year old niece has been laying her head on my bump saying she's "bonding with her cousin." Strangers...no touchy!

LoveOBX917 · March 2014

Maybe I'm crazy but I couldn't care less if people touch it. Ok, a stranger would be weird for sure. Strangers don't need to be touching other strangers in general. So far it's been friends/fam/co-workers and they touch for 2 sec and that's it, so it really doesn't phase me.

melrob613 · March 2014

My rule is, if you "grope" me, I "grope" you back.

And you aren't going to enjoy it, as I don't enjoy it.

Only immediate family get the enjoyment of touching my "fat" belly.

kirstynikole · March 2014

Oddly enough my friend did this the other day and it threw me off. I was like uhmmm yea not much baby just a lot of In-n-Out Burger & fries. Then again I know me and DH's friend was mostly doing this because we won't be seeing him again until over a year from now thanks to his deployment and our relocation. As soon as he did it his wife looked at me with a "sorry to catch you off guard" look.. I knew she understood since she's already had two little ones. I didn't mind since it was close friends but it still felt odd to have someone rub my belly/blump other than DH.

*edited for clarity*

woestijnkat · March 2014

My guy touches my belly all the time. It's sweet, but also drives me a little nuts, particularly if he's moving my clothes out of the way to touch my skin. I don't just reach into your pants, buddy!

jmolr · March 2014

yes but only close friends have done it. It doesn't bother me that much I guess because it hasn't been a stranger. Try grabbing someone's boob next time they grab your belly. That should make them stop.

MeNV · March 2014

My stomach hurts so I hate being touched. Later in pregnancy I let my sisters/mom feel the baby move, but they know it's painful and are gentle. I usually yell ow if someone touches me, so I don't get too many repeat offenders.

Mrs.Leah.Maria · March 2014

Thankfully not me yet, but I've been having to restrain myself from touching my friend's bellies!

Bella2425 · March 2014

I must give off some pretty strong "you best not touch me" vibes. I never had this problem last time. We'll see what happens this time... I work with some more touchy feely types now so I could see it happening. My family knows better than to touch without permission.

Annsor · March 2014

I'm really big on personal space. I don't like to be touched at all. My friends keep joking and saying they wonder how I got pregnant in the first place. They pretty much all know & respect my "bubble rule" if I can stretch my arms out & touch you, you're too close. My husbands coworker does not know this rule and almost lost a finger poking my belly. On a side note, who pokes a casual acquaintance? Wtf?!

jjenkinsreid · March 2014

I had my first experience with the 'belly grabbers' this weekend. First, my IL's rubbed my belly after we all went out to dinner - it definitely took me by surprise, I even told DH afterwards "I'm not sure I'll ever get used to people touching my bump!" Then while getting my hair done, the receptionist walks up and rubs my belly asking me if I can 'feel him move yet' I was like - what? no? what's happening! I didn't handle that situation very well...I didn't realize strangers (even well meaning strangers) would think they were allowed to touch my body.

LTMama · March 2014

I guess I don't give off as friendly of a vibe, LOL, no one has tried to touch me yet. And during my last pregnancy I don't remember people touching my belly then, except for one of the secretaries at work. But she's a grandma and really sweet, so though she caught me off guard, I didn't really mind.

DH always puts his hand on my belly when we're sitting and watching TV or whatever. I love it.

drae86 · March 2014

MrsLaLaBug said:

Get used to it ladies, it only gets more frequent from here on out! Get your defensive moves ready now LOL! Or just tell people you are NOT a Buddha statue so GTFO.

I want a shirt that says that!

sapphires-and-diamonds · March 2014

My mom has been the only one so far. Which I totally don't care if she does. I replied um no, mom. No ute yet. That's just gluttony. I think once I have a real bump I won't mind when people do. Strangers though? Fuck no.

alisonc87 · March 2014

The preschoolers where I work have been touching my "bump" since well before it was a bump, and one hugged me last week and said, "Wow! Your baby is growing really big!" (Gee thanks. lol) Today was the first time an adult has done it, and it was a co-worker. We really all feel a little like family, and she did ask as she was doing it, so it didn't bother me. I don't think people I am close with will bother me, but strangers need to back off the bump!

MMason12 · March 2014

Bella2425 said:

I must give off some pretty strong "you best not touch me" vibes. I never had this problem last time. We'll see what happens this time... I work with some more touchy feely types now so I could see it happening. My family knows better than to touch without permission.

My husband says if someone even looks like they come close to touching my belly I get this "do NOT even think of (@#($#^$ touching my belly or I will kill you" look on my face. He said he think it's enough to scare away anyone even thinking of trying to rub my belly. I'm hoping it works!

GabbyCat13 · March 2014

I was buying girl scout cookies off an old girlfriend and she came up and grabbed my blump! I'm too damn nice to say anything but I was like wtf?!

chusum · March 2014

I had one on Friday. A neighbor I know. She is pregnant too and due two month earlier. She was stroking her belly then touched mine. And it was covered by my daughter and a cardigan.

LTMama · March 2014

MMason12 said:

My husband says if someone even looks like they come close to touching my belly I get this "do NOT even think of (@#($#^$ touching my belly or I will kill you" look on my face.

Haha, years ago when I would go clubbing with my girls, they would tell me I would get that look on my face when guys approached me. Oops?

camichael84 · March 2014

I've had two coworkers touch my belly, and I found it weird both times. I didn't say anything to either of them, but it was uncomfortable for me. I'm 13 weeks and not showing yet. At most, I might have some bloat, but mostly what is there is my fat.

StefanyaMarie · March 2014

My mom insists on toughing my belly every time I come over to her house and take off my coat. It's SOOOOOOO annoying. I know she is my mother but I want to start rubbing her belly and asking when she is due. But I can't do that because my mother is super sensitive and would not find the humor in it like my dad and I would.

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