Hello, let me introduce myself first..
For the first 30 years of my life, everything was smooth and worry-free. I was my parents’ most beloved child, found my true love in college, and happily married him after graduation.
At work, I was my boss’s most valued employee. Whenever I was in charge of a project, colleagues would inevitably say, “Oh, then I’m totally at ease.” I was constantly named “Employee of the Year,” with generous bonuses every year.
Later, I started my own business. Within just three months, I had broken into the market and started making money. By the fifth month, I was earning twice my previous salary. Growth was steady month after month. Right when the business needed more hands, I serendipitously met an amazing partner, and the company reached a whole new level.
Really, it seemed like at every step, whatever I needed, a pair of hands would always place it right in front of me, just in time.
My Two Girls: Ellie & Mia
Meet Ellie, My Firstborn
In 2020, my husband and I decided to have a child. After trying for over a year, we finally got the news in 2021 that a little one was on the way. In 2022, we welcomed our first child, Ellie. She made me a mother.
She is utterly adorable—big eyes, rosy skin, chubby little hands. Every time I look at her, I can’t help but give her a kiss. She is pure joy, and I love her more each day.
But as a first-time mom, I faced unprecedented difficulties. The postpartum tearing wouldn’t heal, and the pain was excruciating. Clogged milk ducts made my breasts hard as rocks. The severe sleep deprivation… And what was even more crushing was that, with zero parenting experience, I was clueless when faced with her unexplained wailing, night terrors, refusal to nurse, constipation, diarrhea, fevers… I desperately searched online, longing for one accurate, truly useful answer!
It was during this time that I thought, once I make it through this “dark” path, I must leave a light on for other new moms.
And Then Came Mia
Ellie had just turned one when I got pregnant again. In 2024, we welcomed our second daughter, Mia.
Completely different from Ellie, Mia is a great eater and sleeper. Although she had her fussy moments in the first two months, starting almost from month three, she became super easygoing. She feeds on schedule, gradually sleeps through the night, loves her solid foods, and adapted quickly when I had to stop breastfeeding due to mastitis.
This made me realize just how vastly different babies can be! It made me even more determined to write about my experiences.
Why I Had to Start This Blog
The Catalyst: A Life Pivoted
After Mia was born, my business also began to decline sharply. I had no choice but to close it and become a full-time mom. My work no longer involves Excel and Word, but instead revolves around changing diapers, washing bottles, making baby food, and managing household chores…
This has been a monumental challenge for me. All my past achievements seem irrelevant now. Managing two young children has brought me a sense of frustration I’ve never known before.
The Daily Reality
They are always fighting over things. When one is in my arms, the other immediately demands to be held too. When I try to cook, Ellie wants me to read her a book. When I attempt to load the washing machine, Mia has a diaper blowout, and I must drop everything to change her…
By the time I finish all that, I see the cup of hot coffee on the table has gone cold again. And it’s not until evening that I remember, “Oh my goodness, the clothes are still in the hamper, unwashed!”
Of course, being a mom is filled with happiness, but that doesn’t negate how hard it is.
My Promise to You
Because I’ve walked this path myself, I won’t just tell you how joyful motherhood is, like many websites do. I want to share my real, unfiltered experiences so every new mom can find a “companion” here.
I want to tell you: you are not alone. What you’re going through, I’ve been there too. Your breakdowns, your helplessness, your moments of losing control—I’ve had them all. You don’t need to feel guilty. This is just a small, necessary stretch of the journey for every mom.
My Hope for This Space
I really want to share my parenting experiences—not just the warm, glowing moments, but to honestly document the pitfalls I’ve stumbled into, the tears I’ve shed, and the “survival wisdom” I’ve scraped together in utter exhaustion.
The Goal: A Mom’s Toolkit
I hope this blog becomes a “mom’s toolkit,” filled not with vague theories, but with:
- Practical Tips: Like how to quickly figure out why a baby is crying, tried-and-true methods for dealing with clogged ducts, or how to efficiently manage the daily grind with twins (or two under two) solo.
- Pitfall Avoidance Guides: Sharing the baby products I regret buying the most, and those “game-changer” parenting hacks. Letting you know which parenting anxieties you can let go of, and which principles are worth holding onto.
- A Community for Moms: I hope my stories connect me with more moms like you. We can cheer each other on in the comments, share our own tricks, turning the storms we face alone into a journey we walk together.
The Bigger Vision
My previous career taught me to analyze data, solve problems, and optimize processes. Now, I’m applying all those skills to this new “position” of Mom. I want to prove that a mom’s value is absolutely not confined to the home. The mindset, resilience, and creativity we built in our careers can shine just as brightly—perhaps even brighter—in this more complex, long-term “project” of raising humans, and can even be transformed into a force that helps others.
My hope is simple: that every mom who opens this blog can let out a sigh of relief and say, “So it’s not just me.” Then, she can find a bit of practical info, a dose of comforting solidarity, and return to her sweet, chaotic mom-life with a little more confidence and a little less weight on her shoulders.
This road? Let’s walk it together.
Re: do you want play a game?
Ranch (sorry @minnesotamomma91!) and blue cheese.
2. What irrationally makes you gag?
Lemon flavored candy. It reminds me of one year when I had the flu and I drank tons of theraflu to cope. It was nasty lemon flavor.
3. What was your favorite book as a preteen?
The entire Ramona Quimby series. I can't wait for DD to be old enough to read it!
4. Favorite childhood memory?
It's kind of a tie. On one of our family vacations, I think when I was 13 or so, we drove up to the Appalachian Mountains to look at the fall colors (because we don't get that in Florida!) and I just loved it. It was so peaceful, riding in the car, listening to music and being "in" nature.
5. If your child had been the opposite sex what would their name have been? Why?
Throwing leaves
@Roxalot im sorry you dont have a lot of memories that arent you getting in trouble, but at least youll know to give little miss harley good ones. Plus also, my bf has nasty troll feet. I wont let him be sockless in bed cause he touches me with his feet. In his defense im equally obnoxious...
I understand. The whole reason bentleys middle name is caiden is because bentley michael(michael is my dads name) sounded too... i dunno i just couldnt do it to bentley. And i didnt want to use russel for his other grandpa, and lee is both his dad and my moms middle name and bentley lee is aweful!
Caiden was the only name i liked that sounded good and had no family connection. Bf thought his middle name should be Gage.
Oil and Vinegar, Caesar, or Olive Oil and Sea Salt. The latter sounds nasty but a friend made a salad like that and it was the most delicious thing ever. I asked her what the dressing was and when she told me it was just olive oil and sea salt, I died.
2. What irrationally makes you gag?
I can't remember but there's something people talk about that makes me literally gag. IDK.
3. What was your favorite book as a preteen?
Mmmm probably any of those Babysitters Club books. That was probably when I was a younger age though. I don't think I read much as a preteen.
4. Favorite childhood memory?
Probably camping with my dad. We were part of the Indian Princess program with the Y. We did it for a few years and it was just AWESOME. It also made me one of those girls who doesn't mind to get dirty, pee in the woods, fish with live worms, etc. I'm quite a girly girl and nobody would guess for a second I'm okay with the rugged stuff, but I am and I love it. I plan on somehow ensuring my daughter is the same.
1000 island dressing, yum!
2. What irrationally makes you gag?
I agree with ranch. I can't even stand to smell it.
3. What was your favorite book as a preteen?
the baby sitter club books
4. Favorite childhood memory?
summer camp with my sister and my cousins.
5. If your child had been the opposite sex what would their name have been? Why?
My daughter is Liliana Seraphina. I'm not sure what I would have named her if she had been a boy. Maybe Noah Andrew, Caleb Ethan or Aidan Kyle