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GromMomGromMom member
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It seems I've lost another pregnancy, I miscarried last night :-(
This month is extra sad because if I didn't lose my last pregnancy I would have been delivering this month. Has anyone else experienced multiple loss and gone on to have a successful pregnancy? With the one I could explain it to just the odds, but this second loss has me scared we won't be able to have another. My cnm said if you have 3 you get sent to a re, but with 2 they just have you come in earlier to take a look to make sure all is well. I know tonight I'll be hugging lo extra close!
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  • najzomaxnajzomax member
    I'm so sorry. I can only imagine how hard that is :( big hugs!
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  • GromMomGromMom member
    Thanks, we didn't tell anyone in real life so its a relief to not have to untell but its nice to have someone to talk to
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  • selockarselockar member
    I'm sorry.  Not sure if this helps or not, but I do have a friend who had multiple losses after her first. Her second child just turned one.  Sending you lots of hugs.
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    selockar said:

    I'm sorry.  Not sure if this helps or not, but I do have a friend who had multiple losses after her first. Her second child just turned one.  Sending you lots of hugs.

    Thanks, that does help! I feel like the innocence I had with my first is lost, he was so easy, hopefully I just got a bad hand twice.

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  • littleredfishlittleredfish member
    I have had multiple losses and one really spry little lady :), I'm so sorry for your loss and I know how it feels to worry it's not going to happen after subsequent losses (I still wonder that sometimes), but just take a breath and keep going. *hugs*
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  • GromMomGromMom member
    littleredfish said:

    I have had multiple losses and one really spry little lady :), I'm so sorry for your loss and I know how it feels to worry it's not going to happen after subsequent losses (I still wonder that sometimes), but just take a breath and keep going. *hugs*

    Thanks, that helps a lot to know it's not uncommon. Dh was very concerned that we have only a 1 in 3 success rate, but I mentioned since one in 10 pregnancies end in loss, I still think 2 is within the average, it just started to nah at me though.

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  • ELF4321ELF4321 member
    I'm really sorry for your loss. Have they ever checked your progesterone levels in the beginning of pregnancy? Or did you chart when you were ttc and know if you have a short luteal phase? That could be a possible explanation. You're right, though, they don't typically test for multiple losses before a third m/c. My SIL had two losses before going on to have two successful pregnancies. It could just be bad luck, but it doesn't make it any easier to deal with. ((Hugs))


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  • MrsH11710MrsH11710 member
    I'm so sorry. My T&P's are with you.


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  • DwinalsinloveDwinalsinlove member
    I am so sorry for your loss. My best friend also had two losses and then went on to have twins. I'm so sorry that you are going through this. (((HUGS)))

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    ELF4321 said:

    I'm really sorry for your loss. Have they ever checked your progesterone levels in the beginning of pregnancy? Or did you chart when you were ttc and know if you have a short luteal phase? That could be a possible explanation. You're right, though, they don't typically test for multiple losses before a third m/c. My SIL had two losses before going on to have two successful pregnancies. It could just be bad luck, but it doesn't make it any easier to deal with. ((Hugs))

    I wasn't formally charting but did do opks a few months and found that on those months I had a short lp. I took b6 the month we conceived just in case but ok not sure if that changed anything. I guess the next pregnancy I will ask for progesterone, the cnm I saw mentioned I could come in early and they could do that for me next time, I'm kicking myself for not going in early this time but I was afraid if I didn't see something, it would stress me out, because I have a 37 day cycle and they schedule appointments based on 28. However in the spirit if everything happens for a reason I'd rather my body know and handle chromosomal defects this way than keep them going until I get really attached and find out something qwerty 14 or 20 weeks. This is much easier to deal with emotionally in my opinion.


    Does short lp mean low progesterone?
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  • ELF4321ELF4321 member
    Yes, an LP of 10 Days or less is usually a sign of low progesterone. Talk to your cnm about checking your level at 7 days past ovulation once your cycles are back after the m/c. If it's less than 10 at 7dpo, you should be using progesterone supplements, ideally every cycle starting at ovulation. Though most cnms probably won't give it to you until a bfp.


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  • bellelambbellelamb member
    I'm sorry for your loss, and sending hugs

    We had a mops meeting discussing loss last year and out of a room of about 50 women about 5 had multiple losses and then had a healthy baby. So it's far more common than I ever knew
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    ELF4321 said:
    Yes, an LP of 10 Days or less is usually a sign of low progesterone. Talk to your cnm about checking your level at 7 days past ovulation once your cycles are back after the m/c. If it's less than 10 at 7dpo, you should be using progesterone supplements, ideally every cycle starting at ovulation. Though most cnms probably won't give it to you until a bfp.
    Thanks, I should send an email.  My original CNM is very matter of fact, the person I saw yesterday was saying how I should email them and come in early next time so I could always ask her about progesterone, as I have the feeling my original cnm would be very by the book and wait until you have a 3rd mc etc.  I appreciate the advice!
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  • k4slr6k4slr6 member
    First I am sorry for your loss.  I had one before DD and one last April at 10wks.  We figured out after my first I wasn't ovulating correctly and went on clomid and that gave us DD.  I got a bfp when we started trying again and didn't call, which I kicked myself for afterwards b/c they had mentioned my progesterone levels a year before with DD but I figured I got pregnant on my own I was good.  After that loss they said to call the AM I get a bfp.  I charted and got a bfp and had a 25 day cycle and called and at first they didn't believe me b/c I was 3 wks preg according to their calculations.  I had a blood test done that day and they called that day and confirmed it was positive and started me on progesterone suppositories 2 times per day for 12 wks.  I went back for the return blood test 2 days later and the numbers doubled and they had me come back a week later and they were good again.  I went in at 7 wks for an u/s and saw the heartbeat.  So they monitored me much more closely this time, but it was reassuring.  I am due in 4 wks so I have come full circle from the pain of last year.  I wish success for you too.  Next time you get a bfp call ASAP and demand a blood test to check your progesterone levels. 
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    k4slr6 said:

    First I am sorry for your loss.  I had one before DD and one last April at 10wks.  We figured out after my first I wasn't ovulating correctly and went on clomid and that gave us DD.  I got a bfp when we started trying again and didn't call, which I kicked myself for afterwards b/c they had mentioned my progesterone levels a year before with DD but I figured I got pregnant on my own I was good.  After that loss they said to call the AM I get a bfp.  I charted and got a bfp and had a 25 day cycle and called and at first they didn't believe me b/c I was 3 wks preg according to their calculations.  I had a blood test done that day and they called that day and confirmed it was positive and started me on progesterone suppositories 2 times per day for 12 wks.  I went back for the return blood test 2 days later and the numbers doubled and they had me come back a week later and they were good again.  I went in at 7 wks for an u/s and saw the heartbeat.  So they monitored me much more closely this time, but it was reassuring.  I am due in 4 wks so I have come full circle from the pain of last year.  I wish success for you too.  Next time you get a bfp call ASAP and demand a blood test to check your progesterone levels. 

    Thanks, I think I'm going to ask about progesterone now just so it's something on the table versus trying to get them to agree when I get a bfp next, their appointment system does not let me call the department directly, although I can send them a message online that they read daily.

    Thank you!

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    That is a good plan.  I hope they agree to monitor your levels and that you get your bfp soon. 
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    k4slr6 said:

    That is a good plan.  I hope they agree to monitor your levels and that you get your bfp soon. 

    Thanks, I sent in a message this afternoon, hopefully they'll get back to me on Monday :-)

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  • MelissaMisoMelissaMiso member
    Terribly sorry. Sending you thoughts and prayers.

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