FFFC!!!

Drea926 · March 2014

Mine is I've been really coming down hard on a lot of my students this week. Like, I've actually made a few kids cry.

I'm just so tired of them not doing their work and not listening and following instructions! I tell them they won't survive 7th grade with these kinds of habits. I may have also said in regards to late assignments that in the real world you would get fired for doing things like that!

kleigh926 · March 2014

DD's naps have been kinda 50/50 lately. Half the time she takes good long naps, the other half of the time she takes short crappy ones that leave her cranky.

My confession is that if she doesn't sleep as long as I think she needs to (which depends on what time of day it is and whether or not she had a good first nap), I let her in her crib until the time that she "should" have woken up. Obviously if she starts crying I get her. But most of the time she just sits there and babbles, so I let her go. I feel guilty for leaving her in there alone if all I'm doing is resting and not getting any actual housework done. But I need a break too, and when she doesn't take good naps it seems like there is soooo much time in the day to fill with a cranky baby who likes destroying my house and won't sit still for 5 seconds but also wants me around her or touching her at all times.

So she stays in her crib if she's up early.

wifeofadam · March 2014

kleigh926 said:

My confession is that if she doesn't sleep as long as I think she needs to (which depends on what time of day it is and whether or not she had a good first nap), I let her in her crib until the time that she "should" have woken up. Obviously if she starts crying I get her. But most of the time she just sits there and babbles, so I let her go. I feel guilty for leaving her in there alone if all I'm doing is resting and not getting any actual housework done. But I need a break too, and when she doesn't take good naps it seems like there is soooo much time in the day to fill with a cranky baby who likes destroying my house and won't sit still for 5 seconds but also wants me around her or touching her at all times. So she stays in her crib if she's up early.

Do not feel guilty about this. You will thank yourself for this when she is older and starts resisting naps altogether. If the expectation is that you always have quiet alone time every day, she won't fight you as a toddler on it.

Every day from 1-3 I get quiet time. The oldest goes to the basement and reads or plays on the couch. If he's been good that day he gets to play a video game while he's down there for an hour or so. The middle two are in their rooms - half of the time they nap for a bit (only if they've worn themselves out playing, which is rare in the winter when we're indoors), half of the time they just read and play quietly. The baby goes down for a nap in her crib.

You would think that I would use two kid-free hours to be productive, but usually I just sit on the computer and waste time. If I'm pregnant, I nap. It's my gift to myself.

So I guess even though I have four kids that are home all day, I COULD have a perfectly clean house if I used my time wisely. But I'd rather rest!

TarheelMama202 · March 2014

My FFFC is that I work for a public school system and always have, but DH and I are planning on sending DS to a Waldorf daycare program in the fall. :-S

I just love the Waldorf ideology and the idea of letting kids be kids.

wifeofadam · March 2014

Here is mine.

My sister rents a house from my parents, but she doesn't even live in it. She lives with her fiance and the house sits empty, simply holding her stuff. She has said that the house is her "back up plan" in case things don't work out with her fiance, so she has somewhere to go. (I won't even get into how strange that whole concept is to me for someone who is newly engaged and supposed to be so in love).

Anyways, my family and I have been a little stressed about where we're going to be living in a month, as all of our house plans are falling through. We approached my parents and sister about renting out the house that is sitting empty. We have to be out of our house by May 1 at the latest, which was nearly two months away at the time we asked my sister. She responded that she couldn't be out of the house until April 20 - Easter weekend, which would only give us ten days (actually less since DH has no vacation time at his new job) to get the house cleaned, carpets cleaned, and get moved. I told her that was unreasonable for a family of six and asked if we could split the two months - she gets a month to move out and we get a month to fix it up and move in. She said she couldn't do it.

I don't get it. She's a single person who isn't even living in the place. I moved ten times during college and my single years and I could get it done in a weekend, even while working full-time.

I feel like she's being completely selfish. And irrational. We decided it wasn't worth the drama and told her we'd rent elsewhere and thankfully found something else that would work this week.

But I'm bitter about it. She asked me to be her maid-of-honor in her wedding next fall and in a fit of rage I deleted my Pinterest board about her wedding. If she can't do this simple thing to help her nieces and nephews because she's too busy to move out of her "storage unit", I've decided I'm too busy to put much effort into her wedding. I'm being really petty and immature, I know. I'm sure it will pass with time, but right now I'm too mad at her to even speak to her.

TarheelMama202 · March 2014

+adamwife+ said:

Here is mine.

My sister rents a house from my parents, but she doesn't even live in it. She lives with her fiance and the house sits empty, simply holding her stuff. She has said that the house is her "back up plan" in case things don't work out with her fiance, so she has somewhere to go. (I won't even get into how strange that whole concept is to me for someone who is newly engaged and supposed to be so in love).

Anyways, my family and I have been a little stressed about where we're going to be living in a month, as all of our house plans are falling through. We approached my parents and sister about renting out the house that is sitting empty. We have to be out of our house by May 1 at the latest, which was nearly two months away at the time we asked my sister. She responded that she couldn't be out of the house until April 20 - Easter weekend, which would only give us ten days (actually less since DH has no vacation time at his new job) to get the house cleaned, carpets cleaned, and get moved. I told her that was unreasonable for a family of six and asked if we could split the two months - she gets a month to move out and we get a month to fix it up and move in. She said she couldn't do it.

I don't get it. She's a single person who isn't even living in the place. I moved ten times during college and my single years and I could get it done in a weekend, even while working full-time.

I feel like she's being completely selfish. And irrational. We decided it wasn't worth the drama and told her we'd rent elsewhere and thankfully found something else that would work this week.

But I'm bitter about it. She asked me to be her maid-of-honor in her wedding next fall and in a fit of rage I deleted my Pinterest board about her wedding. If she can't do this simple thing to help her nieces and nephews because she's too busy to move out of her "storage unit", I've decided I'm too busy to put much effort into her wedding. I'm being really petty and immature, I know. I'm sure it will pass with time, but right now I'm too mad at her to even speak to her.

I disagree with the bolded! I don't actually think you are being petty or immature. I think it is absolutely ridiculous that she has a perfectly good house sitting there not being used that she refuses to let you guys rent. That boggles my mind. You guys are clearly in need of a place to stay, and if she thinks enough of you to ask you to be her MOH, then doing this favor should be NBD, in my opinion.

kelly321 · March 2014

adamwife, I would be really angry, too. I don't know if there's more backstory (is she maybe getting cold feet about the wedding and really does want to have the house as a back-up plan in case she gets up the guts to cancel the engagement??), but it sounds horribly selfish of her to not be able to find some time to move her things out of the house when you've given her 2 months' warning.

mishka29 · March 2014

DH and I are off today... But we still dropped LO off at daycare lol

wifeofadam · March 2014

kelly321 said:

adamwife, I would be really angry, too. I don't know if there's more backstory (is she maybe getting cold feet about the wedding and really does want to have the house as a back-up plan in case she gets up the guts to cancel the engagement??), but it sounds horribly selfish of her to not be able to find some time to move her things out of the house when you've given her 2 months' warning.

Here's what I think it is. Her fiance said that when she officially moves in she has to start paying half of the bills. I don't think my parents charge her much at all to live in the rental house. So if she were to "officially" move all of her stuff into her fiance's house it would cost her more. That's the real issue.

I kind of get it, but then I don't.

We aren't currently speaking because while all of this went down on the phone she started going on and on about how she works full-time and she's so busy and that's why she can't move and that I wouldn't understand. She said this as a single, childless person to the mother of four small kids, who homeschools and works and takes care of a home. I wouldn't understand busy.......I guess she thinks I just sit around all day. I just can't with her anymore. She's actually told me before that when she and her fiance have kids, she wants me to take care of them while she works. I would gladly do it, because that's what family does, but now I realize that she thinks that's no big deal because I have so much free time for other people's kids...

holly321 · March 2014

Dd has had a lot of regression with potty training. She uses it but is having a ton of accidents. I told her if she starting using the potty better and no diapers, I'd get her a bunny. I want a bunny.

tamarar5 · March 2014

I'm at the end of my rope with my 7 year old. Of all the behavior and sass mouth issues we have right now, it's the TV problems I'm struggling with right now. I used to be able to tell her that I disapproved of a show, and she wouldn't turn it on. But now I'm always finding her watching things I don't like! There's this particular show on a Netflix that I especially disapprove of. Short of canceling our entire Netflix account, I'm not sure what to do- but that sounds like more of a punishment on me and DH than on her.

I guess the solution is me getting up before her to better police her, but I don't want to! I'm just too tired to even get up one hour earlier. (That's the FFFC part.)

Drea926 · March 2014

@DC2London I looooove your new siggie pic.

This is not a confession.

holly321 · March 2014

DC2London said:

holly321 said:

Dd has had a lot of regression with potty training. She uses it but is having a ton of accidents. I told her if she starting using the potty better and no diapers, I'd get her a bunny. I want a bunny.

I want a bunny, too.

ETA: but, on the other hand, I already clean up the poop of enough living creatures, I'm not sure I need to add one more.

I have tricked dh into thinking this was his plan, so the bunny will be his problem. I just get to play with it.

tamarar5 · March 2014

DC2London said:
@TamaraR4 now I have to ask which show it is

Is called Winks Club. It's about these skimpy dressed, over sexualized teens with barbie sized proportions "training" to be fairies. There's an evil wizard who uses dark magic, and the girls have boyfriends, and the worst part is they have no respect for adults.

I'm sick of kid shows that portray parents as stupid and kids as smart. More and more, I hate kid TV.

jesuisfatiguee · March 2014

Before reading everyone else's… I just woke from a 20-ish minute nap I took while DS played on the floor of the bedroom. When I woke, he had gotten into the diaper trash, but only pulled a few out, and didn't open them. He was just sitting on the floor, playing with books. I realize that this could have gone a totally different direction, but I am so glad it didn't. lol

bumpuser7698452 · March 2014

@TamaraR4‌
Can you keep the remotes with you when you go to bed? That way she won't have them if she wakes up before you. We can't use our Netflix/tv box without a remote, but I'm not sure if they're all that way.

tamarar5 · March 2014

knickerbockers said:
@TamaraR4‌
Can you keep the remotes with you when you go to bed? That way she won't have them if she wakes up before you. We can't use our Netflix/tv box without a remote, but I'm not sure if they're all that way.

I've tried this, but DH watches TV when he gets home from work at 6am before coming to bed, and he never remembers to pick them back up. *sigh* Totally a first world problem, and a dumb one at that, because I don't want to give up my TV addiction...

jesuisfatiguee · March 2014

mishka29 said:

DH and I are off today... But we still dropped LO off at daycare lol

I took the day off today, and will be dropping off DS at a mom-friend's house this afternoon.

She and her kids looove DS, they have a sweet dog, and a huge yard. And DS loves it there. I really wish she could take him more days out of the week.

TarheelMama202 · March 2014

lrtrauth said:

Another confession. I am Catholic, born and raised. I don't go to church on Sundays now that I'm an adult (which I rationalize by the fact that I go twice a week in school with my job). Right now it's Lent, didn't give anything up, but by God I sure do take advantage of the fish fry every Friday!

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singingsea · March 2014

cinnasugar · March 2014

holly321 said:

Dd has had a lot of regression with potty training. She uses it but is having a ton of accidents. I told her if she starting using the potty better and no diapers, I'd get her a bunny. I want a bunny.

Be careful with this. If your DD is anything like my DD, she'll be good for a week or two but then after the bunny she'll start having accidents again. And then you have a bunny and a lot of potty and poop to clean up after!

cinnasugar · March 2014

lrtrauth said:

Another confession. I am Catholic, born and raised. I don't go to church on Sundays now that I'm an adult (which I rationalize by the fact that I go twice a week in school with my job). Right now it's Lent, didn't give anything up, but by God I sure do take advantage of the fish fry every Friday!

Ok, so some of our friends all get together each Friday and go to local fish fries. We've been doing this for a few years now during Lent and we started calling it 'Tour de Fish' and hit up a different fish fry every week. It is great because we get to see our friends, and most of the places it is totally okay to bring little kids to and they can run around and be crazy and no one cares. And I don't have to worry about what to make for dinner. Win.Win.Win. So there ARE perks about being Catholic, eh?

kelly321 · March 2014

holly321 said:

Dd has had a lot of regression with potty training. She uses it but is having a ton of accidents. I told her if she starting using the potty better and no diapers, I'd get her a bunny. I want a bunny.

I love this.

But just to make you feel not so alone, DD1 was pretty much completely potty-trained during the day last summer and she almost never wet her diaper at night. Then we flew to the US in the fall and it all went down the drain. Now she at least almost always poops in the potty, but we just started putting her in pull-ups and she hasn't peed in the potty in weeks.

Anymore, I don't really care. She'll ditch them eventually.

tamarar5 · March 2014

I am ridiculously upset that the OB office canceled my ultrasound. The tech had a death in her family, and I'm really sorry, but holy crap! I've been waiting for this for WEEKS and I'm really disappointed that I have to wait even longer. Even worse, they don't even know when they can get me in.

Stupid, I know, but I'm so disappointed that I can't stop crying.

MalRiggs · March 2014

I also am part of the mean teacher club. Actually had a parent ask if there child could start sending in pictures of their work, so the don't have to have in the hard copy

Drea926 · March 2014

MalRiggs said:

I also am part of the mean teacher club. Actually had a parent ask if there child could start sending in pictures of their work, so the don't have to have in the hard copy

Say whaaaat?!

holly321 · March 2014

My parents had dd last night and today for ds surgery. They took her to lunch. To my favorite restaurant. Its a Chinese restaurant, that I unfortunately have to avoid due to D's' rice allergy. They could have been nice and brought me some, but didn't. So I may have stole DD's leftovers. She doesn't need the sodium.

TarheelMama202 · March 2014

@malriggs and @drea926 I had parents call on the first day of school last year to ask to have their child removed from my homeroom because I was "too strict" and they didn't want their son to start his day with me.

Later in the year another student's parents requested that their child be removed from my room. The reason? I had given the kid an extra week to complete an assignment. On the day it was due, he was finishing it in my classroom in front of me. After already having an extra week to complete the late assignment. I calmly took the paper from him, balled it up, and threw it in the trashcan. I then proceeded to give him a speech about how his integrity was worth more than any grade, and that he showed a lack of integrity when trying to complete an assignment hurriedly in front of me because he thought I couldn't see him.

Yeah, that went over well.

Drea926 · March 2014

I hate when parents enable their kid's bs behavior.

TarheelMama202 · March 2014

Drea926 said:

I hate when parents enable their kid's bs behavior.

I live in a community where enabling is the name of the game. It's horrifying.

tamarar5 · March 2014

@verovladimir we are planning on finding out but not sharing with our family. Of course I'll share it here, though!

MalRiggs · March 2014

TarheelMama202 said:

Drea926 said:

I hate when parents enable their kid's bs behavior.

I live in a community where enabling is the name of the game. I's horrifying.

YES!!! It actually making me a complete ass to my own kids. I don't want them to be them.

the teacher took a paper from a two students who were Clearly copying...the student actually said "if you don't give it back I will tell my mom"...uk ok DO IT!

the pics mom was trying to get that added to an IEP

Drea926 · March 2014

MalRiggs said:

TarheelMama202 said:

Drea926 said:

I hate when parents enable their kid's bs behavior.

I live in a community where enabling is the name of the game. I's horrifying.

YES!!! It actually making me a complete ass to my own kids. I don't want them to be them.
the teacher took a paper from a two students who were Clearly copying...the student actually said "if you don't give it back I will tell my mom"...uk ok DO IT!
the pics mom was trying to get that added to an IEP

Stop it! You're making it worse and worse!!

MalRiggs · March 2014

Sorry the spelling and grammar is so bad. On my phone and its just not working with m

jesuisfatiguee · March 2014

@uncaripswife - I feel you on the Disney. I am not necessarily 100% anti-Disney, but I really don't want to be surrounded by it 24/7.

Drea926 · March 2014

And I on the other hand, got engaged at Disney World.

<--------- huge dork

holly321 · March 2014

Drea926 said:

And I on the other hand, got engaged at Disney World. <--------- huge dork</div>

We went on our honeymoon. I love some Disney stuff, some not so much. I just bought dd the little mermaid and am terribly sad she has no interest. All she, and DS care about is the Jungle Book right now.

ally2011 · March 2014

+adamwife+ said:

Here is mine.

My sister rents a house from my parents, but she doesn't even live in it. She lives with her fiance and the house sits empty, simply holding her stuff. She has said that the house is her "back up plan" in case things don't work out with her fiance, so she has somewhere to go. (I won't even get into how strange that whole concept is to me for someone who is newly engaged and supposed to be so in love).

Anyways, my family and I have been a little stressed about where we're going to be living in a month, as all of our house plans are falling through. We approached my parents and sister about renting out the house that is sitting empty. We have to be out of our house by May 1 at the latest, which was nearly two months away at the time we asked my sister. She responded that she couldn't be out of the house until April 20 - Easter weekend, which would only give us ten days (actually less since DH has no vacation time at his new job) to get the house cleaned, carpets cleaned, and get moved. I told her that was unreasonable for a family of six and asked if we could split the two months - she gets a month to move out and we get a month to fix it up and move in. She said she couldn't do it.

I don't get it. She's a single person who isn't even living in the place. I moved ten times during college and my single years and I could get it done in a weekend, even while working full-time.

I feel like she's being completely selfish. And irrational. We decided it wasn't worth the drama and told her we'd rent elsewhere and thankfully found something else that would work this week.

But I'm bitter about it. She asked me to be her maid-of-honor in her wedding next fall and in a fit of rage I deleted my Pinterest board about her wedding. If she can't do this simple thing to help her nieces and nephews because she's too busy to move out of her "storage unit", I've decided I'm too busy to put much effort into her wedding. I'm being really petty and immature, I know. I'm sure it will pass with time, but right now I'm too mad at her to even speak to her.

I would be angry too. And honestly, I think you are going to have to tell her you are and why to get it out there and clear the air. This could breed long term resentment as it is horribly selfish. I amso sorry. I vote for tactful letter.

ally2011 · March 2014

kleigh926 said:

DD's naps have been kinda 50/50 lately. Half the time she takes good long naps, the other half of the time she takes short crappy ones that leave her cranky. My confession is that if she doesn't sleep as long as I think she needs to (which depends on what time of day it is and whether or not she had a good first nap), I let her in her crib until the time that she "should" have woken up. Obviously if she starts crying I get her. But most of the time she just sits there and babbles, so I let her go. I feel guilty for leaving her in there alone if all I'm doing is resting and not getting any actual housework done. But I need a break too, and when she doesn't take good naps it seems like there is soooo much time in the day to fill with a cranky baby who likes destroying my house and won't sit still for 5 seconds but also wants me around her or touching her at all times. So she stays in her crib if she's up early.

Dd stays in her crib for the most part until she yells to get out...unless it has been a really long nap and I miss her, or we have somewhere to be. I am with her 24/7, I have no guilt about this no matter what I am doing. Mamas need breaks!

ally2011 · March 2014

verovladamir said:

Sagen said:

Ok I have a FFC I have been going back and forth about erasing the Monster High Skank thing. I like everyone on this board so much that I hate to offend someone who might have a kid with that toy. Damn my bleeding heart If you do have a Monster High Doll in your house, I have plastic toys that light up and make noise, so there!

I've been stressing since I found out out I was pregnant with a girl. I hate Barbie dolls. I will never buy them for my daughter. I never bought them for my sisters. I think they are slutty and give girls terrible ideas about body image. I have no idea what I will do in a few years when someone gives her one, which the inevitably will. My dad's side of the family is all about gender roles. Boys always get superhero/car/star wars stuff and girls always get pink, glittery princess stuff or barbies. Ugh.

And I think the monster high dolls are slutty too. So there.

Beat them to the punch and get her to fall in love with these first....they are all trying to make the world better and come with cute back stories: https://www.playmatestoys.com/brands/hearts-for-hearts-girls

DublinMama · March 2014

Mine is a day late, but we are at my parents' in RI this weekend bc my brother is visiting from MI. He only comes up this one time a year, and it's the only time we are all together. So far my parenting attitude for this trip is "Just give it to him." He wants a third cookie? Just give it to him. What's in that sippy cup? (my brother has 2 toddlers, too). Oh, it's juice? Just give it to him. SIL is a lot more relaxed than I am about a lot of things, and rather than try to beat 'em, for this weekend, I'm joining!

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