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I guess mommy's aren't the only ones

WipzWipz member
edited March 2014 in March 2012 Moms
.. who feel something might be wrong, because people act like their kids should be doing or saying or acting a certain level.  

I was at our local park tonight and a dad was their with his 2 1/2 year old.  He was asking me how old D was and if he was talking  .. and when I said he was 2 on Sunday and talked a lot of gibberish but did have a bunch of words and some two word phrases like hi daddy, bye bye mommy.. he told me his son doesn't really talk at all.  I could tell he was kinda hoping to run into other parents with kids his son's age, to see if it was ok...

I just reassured him that kids develop different skills at different times and that my friends kid was 5 before he really started talking at all.. aint nothing wrong him ..he is a 6 foot 6 strapping 17 year old with  great grades.

By the sound of things his son doesn't attend day care either and he hasn't had many kids to compare his son to ...  so I guess dad's get it to.  Hopefully he went home feeling a little less like they failed because his son isn't talking yet.

I know my DH gets asked all the same kinda questions we all used to and still get about milestones and such..and much as it's usually well meant conversation.. it can still be stressful and make you worry about it even though you have no need.

It was actually nice to see an involved parent; who wasn't just sitting on their cell phone while their kids run riot, or acting like you are a psycho if you even say hell to them in passing ,because there kid is playing near yours lol ... we get a lot of that in the evenings at that park
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Re: I guess mommy's aren't the only ones

  • eyenigheyenigh member
    edited March 2014
    If his son doesn't really talk at all, he should consider EI at this point just to be sure it isn't an issue. Like you said, it isn't the end of the world but it's also starting to drift into possible problem territory. There's no shame in getting help and I think a lot of people feel like if they go, their kid is somehow flawed, which is not the case at all. My neighbor's kid has been in therapy since he was 20 months old where they found an actual tongue abnormality that made it difficult for him to speak properly. He's almost 4 now and it's made a huge difference in his speech. I have another acquaintance whose son is 2.5 and has like 3 words. After a lot of urging from her family, she finally took him to therapy and they basically told her he would have probably benefitted a lot more by now if she had started a year before. I guess the moral of the story is that it never hurts to get checked out. The worst that happens is the kid ends up being fine.
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    I hear you, but I've never seen the guy before in my life.. so I think that conversation would be better after at least the second meeting  :)  

    I'm sure he's probably already at least aware of the possibility ofg a problem from close family or friends... people who won't hold back lol

    ...and if I run into him again which I am sure I will at some point..and the occasion arises I'll casually mention it if we're chatting about the kids and such like tonight. He seemed like a good dad from the little I spoke to him, so I am sure that he wouldn't be offended but.. still. 

    I might point him in the direction of the bump if I see him again and mention how useful it is to be able to hang out and chat to parents of kids the same age and how many great resources there are on here .. from eating to schooling to milestones etc..  so he  and his wife have a good resource without me pointing out the things he is concerned about already and making it worse. 

    over anxious parents don't help the situation any LOL .. 
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    It's hard not to compare notes! Nice to know it's not just the moms. Definitely point him to TB, there's even a Dad's board! :) Maybe a Daddy and Me group would be nice for him too, or just going to the library circle time. I know dad's sometimes have a hard time when it's a big group of moms giving them the side-eye.. nice of you to chat with him!
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    My nephew didn't talk much until he was 4/5. The had him evaluated when he was 2.5 and he was measuring about 5yrs on all the intelligence tests. He just didn't feel like talking. At 8, he's still a fairly quiet kid unless he is excited.

    It's kinda funny how we all get worried or worked up over certain milestones. When really, most of the time, there isn't anything wrong and kids just develop on their own timeline. Sometimes it's hard not to worry though, especially with the internet and all the "horror stories" you can find there.

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