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I survived (IL vent ... LONG)
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ILs wanted to watch LO for the first few weeks when I returned to work. DH was so excited for free childcare and I said hell no (DH travels, so they would be watching LO while he was out of town, therefore I would be dealing with them.) We compromised with 1 week. DH has travelled all this week, leaving me to deal with his parents watching LO and I survived (barely.)
Here are a few if the gems from my week:
1. MIL cooking dinner when I already told her I had dinner prepared for the week and completely destroying one of my pots in the process (3rd pot she has ruined of mine.) Hence me having my dinner already prepared for week.
2. FIL taking a nap in our bed when there are 2 other beds and 4 couches in the house. Who does that? I am very weirded out by this, especially since I didn't make the bed since I was trying to get out of the house on time.
3. Since I get home at 6, I asked that they try and not give LO a bottle after 5:30 so I could BF when I got home. They would either completely ignore my request or try to keep him from having a bottle for too long (LO woke up hungry at 5 and didn't get fed until I got home at 6 and was in meltdown mode)
4. FIL ringing the doorbell every morning, causing to the dog to bark for 5 minutes straight. He would then use his key to enter. If you are going to use your key, why ring the doorbell?
So after all of that and much more, I am glad this week is over. I do appreciate that they wanted to help, but it was stressful for me.
Here are a few if the gems from my week:
1. MIL cooking dinner when I already told her I had dinner prepared for the week and completely destroying one of my pots in the process (3rd pot she has ruined of mine.) Hence me having my dinner already prepared for week.
2. FIL taking a nap in our bed when there are 2 other beds and 4 couches in the house. Who does that? I am very weirded out by this, especially since I didn't make the bed since I was trying to get out of the house on time.
3. Since I get home at 6, I asked that they try and not give LO a bottle after 5:30 so I could BF when I got home. They would either completely ignore my request or try to keep him from having a bottle for too long (LO woke up hungry at 5 and didn't get fed until I got home at 6 and was in meltdown mode)
4. FIL ringing the doorbell every morning, causing to the dog to bark for 5 minutes straight. He would then use his key to enter. If you are going to use your key, why ring the doorbell?
So after all of that and much more, I am glad this week is over. I do appreciate that they wanted to help, but it was stressful for me.
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Re: I survived (IL vent ... LONG)
Maybe FIL rings the bell to let you know he's coming in. Maybe MIL was just trying to give you a break and cook for you. I think you should be grateful you're getting any help at all, and that it's free.
However some frustrations are warranted like all 3 pots she ruined by doing the same thing and then cleaned and put them away and never told me she messed them up. Also DH had talked to her about this a few months ago.
MIL and I had already discussed the not ringing the doorbell and I heard her tell FIL while we were still on the phone. Frustration is that doorbell ring = dog barking for 5 min = waking baby (thankfully he only woke one of the days.)
The bottle thing I can understand if he isn't he isn't pacified by anything. But her response was "oopsies, I forgot" for 3 days.
Again I am grateful that they love LO and want to spend time with him and help us out.
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BFP#1 1/31/12, EDD 10/6/12 Harrison Gray born sleeping @ 18w6d. You changed our lives little guy.
BFP#2 EDD 10/29/13, C/P 2/25/13, Bye little Ish, we barely got to know you.
BFP#3 EDD 12/21/13, Baby Boots born 11/23/13 My rainbow baby!
January PAL Siggy Challenge: Good Advice
OP I'd be annoyed too. Especially the sleeping in your bed thing, that's weird.
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This!!! That's why the 3 bears were pissed at Goldilocks. Moral = no one in my house when I'm not home and lock the doors. And plus also, neither his nor my parents have a key to our home.