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Hello! My little intro and question

cawettigcawettig member
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Hello everyone! I wanted to join this board for so long, I am just able to "handle it" now. My angel was born sleeping at 38 weeks in April last year. I have and had a difficult time seeing posts/pictures about babies and toddlers since but since I just had my rainbow on 3/5 it is not as painful :) I do have two older children (hence why I wanted to join earlier), my oldest is my DS and he is 11, my oldest DD is 9. I hope you guys will welcome me!


Here is my question, since he is here I am finding new difficulties and was hoping to find support here. I didn't think once I had him I would be so scarred now of loosing him, I am a hover mom and worry so much about if he is breathing/okay. Sometimes I look at him and find that I am thinking she is in my arms for a brief moment. Has anyone else experienced this?



Julius Justin - 11/07/2002 - 10 lbs 22 in 
Isabella Genavieve - 02/03/05 - 7 lbs 11 oz 22 in 
Arianna Kaitlynn - 04/10/2013 - 4 lbs 15 oz 15 in

BFP 08/10/13 
TWINS!!!! 09/01/13
Miscarriage at 12 weeks lost baby B 
Arianna diagnosed with an Ompalocele at 13 weeks
Arianna our Angel on 04/10/13 
BFP 07/20/13
Our Rainbow due 03/18/14 


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Re: Hello! My little intro and question

  • Laurakat81Laurakat81 member
    Just wanted to say congrats on your rainbow! I wish I had good advice. I was terrified that I'd lose my daughter the first few months in particular too. I would check for breathing constantly. I did buy a Snuza which helped a lot with that fear. I still worry but I no longer think it's excessive. Just take it one day at a time, don't beat yourself up for "hovering", if you need to check on him constantly, then do it, whatever keeps you relaxed, over time you'll probably find yourself easing up more and more!

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  • 4legsRbest4legsRbest member

    I am so very sorry for the loss of Arianna! Major hugs to (((you))), espeically as your anniversary quickly approaches.

    I too had many many thoughts of losing my son after his birth. I frequently checked on him during the night to make sure he was still breathing, more so at the beginning than I do now, but 14 months later, I still check on him. It gets easier, I promise, but what you are feeling is totally normal!

    Welcome to the board and congrats on the birth of your rainbow!

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  • Mom2anAngel2Mom2anAngel2 member
    I am very sorry for the loss of your DD. I too had a lot of fears (still do). I don't really have any suggestions to get past them, but I hope you feel the support from this board helps. Welcome!

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  • ellebelle2384ellebelle2384 member
    I am so sorry for the loss of your Arianna.  So many hugs.  I think your feelings and fears are totally understandable and normal.  I just wanted to say hello and welcome and congratulations on your rainbow!
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  • KJsbabeKJsbabe member
    Welcome. I'm so sorry for the loss of your daughter.

    I checked on DD a lot, too, those first few months. The fear of loosing them definitely does not stop once they are here safe and sound. It gets better, though. ((Hugs)) Congrats on your rainbow boy!
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    4legsRbest said:

    I am so very sorry for the loss of Arianna! Major hugs to (((you))), espeically as your anniversary quickly approaches.

    I too had many many thoughts of losing my son after his birth. I frequently checked on him during the night to make sure he was still breathing, more so at the beginning than I do now, but 14 months later, I still check on him. It gets easier, I promise, but what you are feeling is totally normal!

    Welcome to the board and congrats on the birth of your rainbow!

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