~~June Check-In~~

jbasore1123 · March 2014

Hi Ladies, I hope you are all having a great week!

This is a weekly check-in for women who have suffered the loss of an angel with an EDD in June, no matter what the year. You are welcome to join us, just post an intro including your EDD and the information below:

Where are you in your TTCAL journey/cycle, etc? Any updates/appointments you'd like to share?

Good luck to all of you!!

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QOTW: Besides for your partner, who do you turn to when you have a crisis?

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June Bugs:

Sorry ladies, due to emergency issues with my parents, I was unable to prepare personal messages last night. Please give us an update on what is going on with you this week!

@rmpar29 6/26/2013

@uneek13236/29/2013

@Ashris13 6/1/2014

@peggels24 6/4/2014

@Waliany2015 6/8/2014

@sgio7485 6/10/2014

@racegurl87 6/11/2014

@MercyGale 6/18/2014

@lanilanz11 6/20/2014

@SNLT1012 6/21/2014

@GLB30 6/26/2014

@angelaclevenger 6/28/2014

If your name is missing from above, please let me know and post an update. Some are not included as we have not heard from you in many weeks.

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rmpar29 · March 2014

Hi @jbasore1123 - I hope everything's OK with your parents! How are you?

AFM: I had my CD3 b/w and u/s Friday and that nasty cyst is gone! So, I started Gonal-F and went back yesterday. I have one follie on the right growing well. There's also two on the left, but they don't matter. I go back tomorrow and again on Friday. It's growing pretty slow though, so I hope it kicks into gear here.

QOTW - I guess it depends on what the crisis is. Normally, I would turn to my mother, but there are some things that I don't like to talk to her about, so I will turn to my best friend since junior high school. If it's TTC related, I come here!

peggels24 · March 2014

Good morning ladies! Thank you for the check-in @jbasore1123 – I hope everything is ok with your parents?

My journey is pretty slow-going at this point. I’m looking forward to Aruba at the end of the month and then it will be time to get serious about TTC again. DH hasn’t really been “in the mood” recently – he has a lot of stuff going on at work and I think my fears of being KU in Aruba and something happening has put him off a bit. So this month was another bust (or so I assume) but that’s ok. It gave me some more time to work on losing weight AND I can drink my ass off in Aruba. Plus if all goes as planned – it should be my FW as well J

I have to admit that I’ve been thinking more and more about losing our baby now that the EDD is getting closer – by this point, I wouldn’t have been going to Aruba and I’m making plans for a concert at the end of May that I originally said I couldn’t do. It’s kind of a reality check every once in a while – a fleeting moment.

I have a baby shower this weekend but I’m looking forward to it – the woman who is pregnant was so considerate when I lost the baby (she and her husband pulled the baby announcement from the mail when they found out what had happened). Plus I’ll see a ton of people that I haven’t hung out with in a while.

Wow that was a novel J

QOTW: I’m truly lucky in that I have so many people to turn to but I guess my go-to would be my nephew – he’s only 7 years younger than me and he rents a room from DH and I – we also work together (or rather he works for me) so we are super close. He would coordinate all the rest of the communications with everyone else.

peggels24 · March 2014

@rmpar29 Woohoo on the cyst being gone!

rmpar29 · March 2014

@peggels24 - I'm sorry that your TTC journey has been at a bit of a standstill, but I'm jealous of your upcoming vacation! I hope that your vacation replenishes both you and DH and that you come back with a renewed hope!

MrsG80inTN · March 2014

@jbasore1123 – hope everything is ok with your parents!! Thinking of you.

@rmpar29 – so glad the cyst is gone. What all did the CD3 bw show? Hoping this is a good cycle for you

@peggels24 – I’m glad you have Aruba to look forward to. Sorry things have been so hectic, but hopefully you have great months ahead of you. I understand what you mean about the EDD approaching and reality setting in. Thinking of you.

As for me… I’m back L It sucks… We can try again immediately which is good, but of course there were two PG announcements on FB this morning (crush my heart), and both DH and I are pretty upset. I’m mostly numb I think which I’m not sure is a good things. At any rate, I’m here. Thanks for all the support last week. You ladies rock.

QOTW – I turn to my mom or my best friends and sometimes even this board if it’s TTC J

rmpar29 · March 2014

@racegurl87 - Have fun tonight.

@MrsG80inTN - I'm so sorry that you are back here. Huge (((((HUGS))))))! Have you thought any more about seeing an RE?

The CD3 b/w checked my Estradiol, FSH, HCG, TSH, Progesterone, and LH levels and do a follicular u/s. Here's a link to what these levels indicate - https://www.fertilityplus.com/faq/hormonelevels.html.

MrsG80inTN · March 2014

@rmpar29 - yeah, I've thought about it... DH and I are still talking through it. He feels really comfortable with my OBGYN though and I'm trying to be respectful of that. I think we're going to give it till our vacation at the end of march. If nothing happens or if we have a 3rd loss in that time period (lord forbid), we will definitely see an RE. I wish I had an easier thought process on this or a magic pill...

MrsG80inTN · March 2014

@rmpar29 - me again... thoughts on if these tests are to be done fasting or does that matter? I'm CD3 today (of course after a CP)... wonder if I could call my OBGYN and request the blood work? Thoughts?

rmpar29 · March 2014

@MrsG80inTN - No fasting necessary! Doesn't hurt to call and ask.

Waliany2015 · March 2014

@jbasore1123‌ I hope your patents dog didn't have to lose it's leg.

Yesterday I finally ended a 36 day cycle!!! That was crazy long for me. Like 9 days longer than my average. I've been on antibiotics this week recovering from an upper respiratory infection. One more night of work then I go on my stretch of 8 days off. Maybe I'll finally start in my wedding invites! Also big news! I have started temping and charting!! I've got opk's in my amazon cart
When I have a crisis I turn to my dad or my BFF depends on what the topic or solution is.
Goodnight ladies sorry to post and run I will write some responses latter if I can't sleep or after I get to work tonight

sgio7485 · March 2014

Hi everyone,

I'm in the TWW, just hanging out. I accidentally smashed my BBT so no temping for the rest of this cycle! Looks like O'ing later in my cycle is my new kind of normal, and maybe spotting is too. I hate the new normal.

I started seeing a counselor, which has been really helpful. DH and I go together next week. We are having a tough time these days - after our loss, then the loss of my dad 2 months to the day later, we're just in a not great place. I think one of the frustrating things for me is that I feel like I can't communicate my frustrations about anything pregnancy/baby/loss related because it makes him feel like I'm not emotionally ready to TTC again.

*someone else's PG mentioned*

For example, I strongly believe my coworker who I am very close to is PG. I would be thrilled for her, but it's still hard. I just need to vent it out to DH. He considers any venting about other people's PGs as not being ready to TTC. I don't. Any advice?

ETA: Bump is being wonky.

jbasore1123 · March 2014

@rmpar29- I'm so glad the cyst is gone! And how did the u/s go today? Did it show some good growth?

@peggels- It's so hard to think of what would/could have been. It always puts me in a bad place. (((hugs))). I hope that Aruba brings you great luck and you come back with a rainbow

@racegurl87- FX for good timing. Get to BDing girl!

@MrsG80inTN- I'm so sorry to see you back here ((((hugs)))). I wasn't sure to include you this week since I wasn't sure if you were ready to jump back in- I hope that's ok.

@Waliany2015- Yay for AF showing! And I'm sorry you're sick, I hope you feel better soon. And you better PIP those invites

@sgio7485- FX for you! I think you need to sit YH down and talk to him or maybe bring it up during the therapy session. Let him know that grieving other people's BFPs is completely normal and part of grieving. Venting it part of what helps you through that grief and it's better to get all those thoughts and emotions out rather than bottling it up. And it's just evident of the fear you have for TTC again, which is also very normal. But just because you fear something, doesn't mean you aren't ready to jump in and try. Life is about living and trying things and not allowing the fear to rule us.

jbasore1123 · March 2014

@Waliany2015- Thanks for asking. Their dog is doing ok. She ended up having the surgery this morning instead of yesterday since they took her to another hospital for the procedure. The first hospital quoted them $5500, the second $1800, so needless to say they switched. She had trouble coming out of the anesthesia and is on so many meds that she can't even lift her head. My parents are having her stay one more night there to be monitored and will pick her up tomorrow.
She ended up having a large plate with 10 screws, the poor thing.

MrsG80inTN · March 2014

@jbasore1123‌ no worries friend... I need all the support I can get so I figured I would jump back in even if I may go spotty occasionally.... I hope your parent's dog feels better quickly! We had a $1200 surgery last month for our pup. The thing we do for furbabies!!!!
@sgio7485 I had to explain to my DH that just because I vent about other people it doesn't mean I am not ready to try... We have had this discussion a few times and he gets it. I explained I need someone to talk to about my feeling and I would rather it be him...

kittymeowbark · March 2014

Hello all. I am new on this board.
My little girl's EDD was 6/21/14 and we had to TFMR (holoprosencephaly) on 2/10/14 at 21 weeks.

We are waiting to hear results of the test to see if it was "fluke" or genetic. We agreed to TTC if the results came in that it was a "fluke" (I hate that word.) Hopefully we will be trying either this month or next. Fingers crossed.

rmpar29 · March 2014

@Waliany2015 - Enjoy your 8 days off...I'm jealous!!!

@sgio7485 - I guess my only advice would be to sit DH down and explain how you are feeling - that you are frustrated and longing to have a baby and venting about other's pregnancies is just your way of getting out those frustrations. Good luck and ((((HUGS))))

@jbasore1123 - Thanks for asking! The u/s went OK, I was 3 growing on the right that are measurable. One is 15mm, so it just needs to grow a bit more to be mature. I go back tomorrow and I hope that we can do an IUI on Saturday. The Ganirelix injection last night really hurt since the needle is a bit bigger. I don't want to have to do too many of those! I'm glad to hear that your parent's dog is going to be OK!

@kittymeowbark - I'm so sorry for your loss, but welcome.

MrsG80inTN · March 2014

kittymeowbark - I'm so sorry for your loss. I understand your dislike for the word fluke. Hoping you get your test results back quickly.

KristinDMiller · March 2014

@kittymeowbark - sorry to hear about the loss. I lost my little girl at 21 weeks too. It sucks. Take care of yourself.

Waliany2015 · March 2014

@jbasore1123‌ here are the invites. I had to cover the middle bc it has our full names. So it's a folded invite with an RSVP postcard and another information card that has the addresses of the reception and ceremony and where we are registered

jbasore1123 · March 2014

@Waliany2015- How cute! I love them

@Kittymeowbark- Welcome to the check in, although I'm so sorry for your loss of your little girl

sgio7485 · March 2014

@kittymeowbark I am so sorry for your loss.

Thanks for your advice, everyone. This will definitely be a topic of discussion when we have our first couple session with my therapist.

kittymeowbark · March 2014

Thank you all.

So... we received the results yesterday. Buried underneath this tragedy lies a glimmer of hope. The test results came back negative and this just "happend" to our little angel girl for no reason at all. Part of me is relieved that this is not genetic and we do have a chance of a healthy rainbow baby. Another part is asking a gazillion questions of how, what, why, etc. The doctor even said herself, that the negative just means that things are unanswered. We discussed next steps and all we can do is TTC and start monitoring early. That it? This scares the living crap out of me but this is all that can be done.

How is everyone else doing?

kittymeowbark · March 2014

Sorry, posted twice and now it's not letting me delete. Fail.

MercyGale · March 2014

Hello Hello, I am here! I forgot my password, but we are good now lol

Where are you in your TTCAL journey/cycle, etc? Any updates/appointments you'd like to share?

Well, this cycle is the 5th since m/c, however this is the 45th cycle total. holy shiz... that is a big number!

I didnt realize exactly HOW many we had gone through until just now... Oh well, anywho... I am about 8 DPO just according to my CM, I fell of the wagon this month and kind just say screw it. I went in for CD21 blood work yesterday. My OBGYN is doing a full panel, and is checking to see if I am ovulating. I go back next Fri for the results and discuss more options/next steps.

QOTW: Besides for your partner, who do you turn to when you have a crisis?

To be honest, I really don't have anyone other than him that I feel I can really turn to, I come from a very damaged and disfunctional family, but when he just is absolutely not an option, lately I have been leaning on my sister in law... Crisis can be anything to each and every one of us, what may be a seemingly crisis situation to one may not be to another... But if if I am just having a super bad day and DH is working/sleeping (overnight shift) I just text or call my SIL... she is just amazing!

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