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Those with older kids & anyone who has opinions...

CheenomaeCheenomae member
in September 2012 Moms
This is probably so lame to have anxiety over, but I'm having serious anxiety. My DD has been going to the same DCP for 4 years (she's only 4.5) and she loves it there. DH and I love it, too. It's really close to my work, but not close to my house at all. In fact, out of the way, but worth it. She starts Kindergarten this year and will be attending private kindergarten offered at our DCP, but we are debating what to do next year when she starts first grade. We'd like to put her in a center closer to our house so she's bussed to our school district instead of getting a special permit. This way she's in school with the kids from our neighborhood.

Anyway, I found a DCP near our home and in our district that seems really nice. I'm sure I'll just never know until the kids go there how much we'll love it or hate it. My DD is kind of fragile and really likes her comfort zones. She loves her DCP, but still have some rough mornings now and then where she doesn't want me to leave. She's kind of a favorite amongst the kids and the teachers and she knows the place really well. She's just really comfortable there. Now that I found this new DCP I kind of want to move the kids right away so she can just go to Kindergarten in our school district, but I can't freaking decide.

To change her would obviously be way more convenient for our family, but not convenient enough to make the choice easy. I'm really struggling with uprooting her from her comfort zone and the only thing she knows just for the convenience to me. Is this super dumb of me? The new DCP has the surveillance system where we can log in on our phones and check on the kids whenever we'd like. I thought I liked this idea and now I can't decide if it scares me...whatever, I can over think anything.

What say ye, S12? What would y'all do? I'm not as worried about DS because he's younger and I don't think he'll know or be as affected...maybe he will!
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Re: Those with older kids & anyone who has opinions...

  • hmp1hmp1 member
    edited March 2014
    James is a lot like Kenleigh. Hates change and is very shy around people he doesn't know or in places he isn't comfortable. I am considering moving him for pre-k because of this reason. I was thinking if I moved him and gave him pre-k to adjust then when he started K the transition wouldn't seem as stressful since he wasn't leaving the only place he remembered going to "school".

    My biggest concern is that we don't know where he will go to school. We have 3 different places in mind, 2 of which he has to test into and we won't know until 6 months before school starts if he got in. So uprooting him to be with people he will go to K with isn't really an option for us. It will strictly be to get him a little more used to changes happening with new schools.

    As for Mason, James has gone to 4 different daycares and they were all easy transitions for him. He didn't really develop this fear of change until more recently.

    Good luck. Let me know what you decide. I still have a couple years to figure it all out.

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  • AKB090609AKB090609 member
    I would move her at the beginning of summer. If your intent is to send her to your neighborhood school eventually I would get it over with sooner rather than later.

     I know that kids move all the time, but I think it would be easier on her to make friends in K, rather than waiting longer when kids have already started to split into social groups. Plus, moving in summer would give her time to get to know the new provider rather than having everything change all at once in first grade.
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  • jenndubjenndub member
    I would let her finish out the "school year" at the current DCP and then have her start Kindergarten at the school in your district. I think it's easier to start new in Kindergarten because everyone is new with you. None of the little guys know what they're doing and they learn the routine together.


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  • kelbel527kelbel527 member

    I'm a proponent of do it sooner than later.  I agree with @jenndub that getting in the district for Kindergarten will help the K to 1st grade transition. 

    Brody has been at the same daycare center since he was 12 weeks old (now 4).  I'm scared how it will be when we have to send him somewhere new.  I totally get your anxiety.

    GL with your choice!

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  • melody921melody921 member
    I would consider moving her soon. A lot of kids have to move at kindergarten anyway, so it's not like she'd be in the only new kid. I understand comfort zones, but I don't think it's always a bad thing to break out of them. And bonus points for her being closer to home.

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  • OceanLover26OceanLover26 member
    I would probably move her sooner than later as well.  Jack's preK offered Kindergarten too, but I knew that it would be a smoother transition for him if I went ahead and moved him to the public school since he would be there anyways eventually.  He also felt very relieved that he rode the bus with some of the students that were in his class and got to sit next to them since it was new to all of them at the same time.  This made his anxiety about riding the bus go away.  I like that he is already acquainted with the office staff, the principal, and other teachers in the building and the feel of the school (layout, rules, assembly time).  There is one music, Spanish, and computer teacher for the whole elementary school, so he gets to see know already and next year they won't be new to him.  I know little ones are resilient but Jack was especially sensitive as a toddler for a while so this seemed like a good move for us (also our pediatrician recommended we go ahead and make this move because we asked him what he thought). The kindergarten teacher he has now is just the best ever. She is so good with the kids and Jack adores her.  Sorry this was long. Good luck! 
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  • CheenomaeCheenomae member
    Thank you, everyone for all your thoughts and insight. I feel like I've thought of everything over and over and y'all brought up some good points. I do like the idea of her going to kindergarten in public school since she doesn't have a choice but to go to first grade in a public school. If we move her now or pretty quickly anyway, she'll have time to adjust and get to know some new friends that she'll be going to kindergarten with. I like the point about some social circles forming as early as kindergarten. We are making a surprise visit on Monday so I think we'll make a decision pretty shortly after that.

    I can't believe how hard of decision it is when it really should be so obvious. Thanks again!!
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