Anxiety

ed16564 · March 2014

Hey ladies- I found out Thursday night that I'm expecting and estimated dd is November 17th this will be our first. I feel terrible but ever since I've found out I've been so scared! (What if something happens during labor, what if I'm too scared and anxiois through all my drs appts and pass out, what if were not ready, what if this changes our marriage in a bad way, what if I'm too selfish to be a mom, what if I get sick the whole pregnancy). I wish I could make the anxiety subdue and be excited because I do want this baby I am just so incredibly nervous!

Oh- I guess I'm wondering if any of you have experienced this.... When did it pass?

ematott87 · March 2014

Good morning! I found out Friday that we're expecting our first...EDD: November 17th :-) I feel your anxiety. I go through ups and downs. At times I'm very excited and can't wait to see what is to come. Then last night I was depressed and concerned, for many of the same reasons as you. I found that by talking to my DH about the exciting things, the nerves started to go away. I know there will be some rough patches along the way, but the gift at the end will all be worth it. I also think once I'm far enough along to tell family/friends....all of their support will help bring me up too. Good luck to you :-)

Acedit · March 2014

Congrats!! I will be a first time mom as well, I think anxiety is all part of the process and is expected to a degree. My husband and I were planning for a child so we know we are more than ready to be parents, however the nervousness of pregnancy and the potential for complications is still present for us. We take it a day at a time and I thank God every morning for another day of being pregnant.

ed16564 · March 2014

@ematott87 and @acedit thanks so much! Naturally your kind responses have me doing my new favorite thing- crying.

KatzKiss · March 2014

Yes, I have experienced all of this. Can I ask if you have a history of anxiety?

ed16564 · March 2014

@katzkiss nothing I've ever been on medecine for- I do tend to be an anxious person though. I used to get really bad anxiety before tests in college, and I always get anxious about drs appts.

KatzKiss · March 2014

It's pretty normal to be anxious about all of these things. I had panic attacks whenever I had an OB appointment. Especially when I had ultrasounds! If things get too overwhelming, you might want to look into talking to a therapist.

too_excited_to_sleep · March 2014

I was in your boat a week ago. As time goes by, hopefully you can let go of some fear and just enjoy being pregnant. Reading all the posts on here probably won't help your anxiety either!

ed16564 · March 2014

@too_excited_to_sleep I know I might have to kick myself off here.

KatzKiss · March 2014

Remember that people tend to post about the things that are worrying them on here more than the simple pleasures of pregnancy so things seem a little disproportionate.

ed16564 · March 2014

@katzkiss yeah I figured that.

) thanks for the info and feed back.

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alharper07 · March 2014

I remember when I was pregnant with my son, my biggest concern was how it was going to affect mine and my husband's relationship. We were best friends and like "two peas in a pod" and I always worried that having a baby would cause us to have to somehow subtract our love from one another to give it to our new bundle of joy. Kinda sounds crazy now, because our love just multiplied for one another and also for our son. Our relationship definitely got stronger through the whole experience. It was stressful for us in the beginning as new parents, but we came together as a team and, again, are stronger because of it.

Maelara · March 2014

I think everything you're feeling is completely normal. I felt all those (except the passing out at the OBs, it's not that bad. I promise) through out my pregnancy. Babies DO change your relationship, I'm not going to lie. The first time my DH saw our daughter and held her, I fell in love with him even more. I didn't think that was possible! As others have mentioned, the newborn stage is so hard but so worth it. My DH are better than we have ever been before now. Having a baby changes everything but it makes it better

Dumbgurl04 · March 2014

I'm right there with you. I'm so excited but I'm so scared at the same timr. I always dreamed of being a mom. Now that I'm pregnant it's hard to see myself with a baby. Sure I can see myself as a mom with aa 3-1 year old but a baby!!!! I still freak out when a baby cries when I hold it. I'm really hoping I get my motherly instinct to kick in. Plus with everyone (at least the few I have told) and their opinions on EVERY THING baby doesn't help with the anxiet. Although I will say some of it comes and goes since it's still so early sometimes I forget I'm pregnant (expect for the symptoms) at least you know I'm sharing simpler feelings and we get to go through this together

mander82 · March 2014

I don't think I really have anxiety about the whole thing.....at least not yet. Perhaps when EDD gets closer, I can see myself freaking out a little. Right now, my biggest fear is the birth itself. I was reading my "daily tip" on the What to Expect phone app this morning about the epidural options...I start getting woozy just reading about it. I don't do well with needles.....I may just pass out in the middle of the delivery.

I am inexperienced with "anxiety", but I think its completely normal and expected to be worried. If you were not worried about these things, you would probably have a harder time dealing with them when the time comes. Sounds like you are giving it all some thought in order to be prepared for whats ahead

Abtlady · March 2014

Thank goodness - someone who is feeling like me! I have had anxiety and depression before, and have taken medication for it too, which luckily I stopped before I fell pregnant. I spent most of my shift at work today hiding out in the toilet crying or working back of shop so I didn't have to face anyone with teary eyes, then when I got home I started to get a little excited again. Hormones eh!

kkrieg3 · March 2014

Right there with you! Our EDD is Nov. 17 as well and I'm obsessing over things that never crossed my mind before. First time being pregnant and I find myself anxious over things that I have zero control of. I just keep praying all will work out for a healthy pregnancy and baby. Positive affirmations do help and seriously, google...stay away! If you can find something that relaxes you I'd repeat repeat repeat. Good luck to you!

maebee87 · March 2014

I have major anxiety, the only thing that would make me feel better is a guarantee that everything will be ok and maybe a snap shot of me smiling at the hospital holding the baby lol

But that just can't happen. Try to take each day at a time, we have time to figure everything out.

Don't google any symptom you have- ever. Just don't. Eat healthy, stay positive and relax.

Good luck

hullabalou · March 2014

I was hospitalized and on medication for an anxiety/depression disorder in the early parts of 2013. I weaned myself off the medication with my doctor's approval when we started TTC, but I still have some moments of bad anxiety. After a loss in December, most of my anxiety centers around having a healthy pregnancy, but I also have worries about how we will manage as parents.

I saw someone say the other day that a bad parent wouldn't worry about if they're going to do okay or not....so being concerned about what type of parent you'll be is already a good indication that you'll be a great mom.

I would talk to your OB about your anxiety levels if you feel that you are getting overwhelmed and look into counseling, it can work wonders.

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