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22 month old screams when try to put to bed

deebride1020deebride1020 member
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Help! My son will not go to bed at night! Every night I put him down he screams and cries uncontrollably. He is not ill or teething and this has been going on now for 2 months. I dont know what to do. I read to him every night beforehand. There is a white noise machine and nightlight. Cry it out WILL NOT work. Is this even normal??? Its like he is afraid to go to bed and this is rough on me. I also have a 4month old and hes keeping her awake. Dont know what to do
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Re: 22 month old screams when try to put to bed

  • arilevinearilevine member
    We are in the same boat but LO is 17 months- she isn't taking naps either, I'm curious if anyone has any sleep training recommendations as I have tried almost everything.
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  • vrj0522vrj0522 member
    It's normal. My son goes through bouts from time to time, more for naps than bedtime usually. My nephew who is now 3 went through a period like this right before he turned 2 as well (I remember because I watched him for a week during that time). I wish I could give you other advice but the only thing that has worked for us is CIO. My nephew would CIO for about 10 minutes each night. For DS it's usually more like 5 min at a time. Those 5 minutes usually feel like an eternity but after they are over I go in and try to convince him to go to bed again. It normally works but sometimes I have to repeat once or twice more before it happens. 
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  • deebride1020deebride1020 member
    Thanks everyone. Makes me feel better that I am not alone and that this is common. Tried cry it out for 40 min and was too much. Guess its a phase or maybe nighttime seperation anxiety.
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  • Beth.1212Beth.1212 member
    edited March 2014
    You can try "walk in walk out." 

    Whatever you pick for training, try to give it time and be consistent. My DS was having trouble with naps recently. I was lucky that walk in walk out (WI/WO) worked for us pretty quickly - I'd say it took 2-3 days and we were down to maybe 20 minutes of WI/WO, and after a week I only had to go back in once or twice, if at all.  It took a while, though, to get back to "put him down, walk away, he goes to sleep (generally) without crying." I'd say about a month to get there. 
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  • thechickencoopthechickencoop member
    ::waves hi::  Here too!  DS is 23 months and we've been having nighttime issues for maybe the last....6 weeks-ish.  Since 12 months, he has gone down for naps/night great.  We read, say goodnap/goodnight, he snuggles up with his stuffed animals and will fall asleep.  All of a sudden he has started wailing at nighttime.  Naps are still fine, but I don't know what it is about night lately.  We tried to let him CIO but he would get sooo worked up.  H or I would go back in and he would be screaming, sweating, crying, all snotty, etc, it was miserable.  So now we've pushed bedtime back a little and that has seemed to help.  He used to be DONE by like, 7:30, but now his bedtime is 9.  It sucks (for me really haha!), but over the last couple days he's gone down fine then. 

    I don't know where you are but I think a lot of it for us is this shitty weather.  This winter is really wearing on us and I just think he is not getting enough energy out and it's causing him to not be able to fall asleep easily.  So I'm really hoping his bedtime moves back up once this weather gets better :)  Good luck!
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  • deebride1020deebride1020 member
    aliebno said:

    ::waves hi::  Here too!  DS is 23 months and we've been having nighttime issues for maybe the last....6 weeks-ish.  Since 12 months, he has gone down for naps/night great.  We read, say goodnap/goodnight, he snuggles up with his stuffed animals and will fall asleep.  All of a sudden he has started wailing at nighttime.  Naps are still fine, but I don't know what it is about night lately.  We tried to let him CIO but he would get sooo worked up.  H or I would go back in and he would be screaming, sweating, crying, all snotty, etc, it was miserable.  So now we've pushed bedtime back a little and that has seemed to help.  He used to be DONE by like, 7:30, but now his bedtime is 9.  It sucks (for me really haha!), but over the last couple days he's gone down fine then. 


    I don't know where you are but I think a lot of it for us is this shitty weather.  This winter is really wearing on us and I just think he is not getting enough energy out and it's causing him to not be able to fall asleep easily.  So I'm really hoping his bedtime moves back up once this weather gets better :)
     Good luck!
    This is dead on to what is going on with my son! I think you're right about the weather. That just may have a lot to do with this night time rebellion. We live in NJ and have been dealing with a rough winter.

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  • MaggieF516MaggieF516 member
    My son does the same thing and he is 21 months.   He's fine as long as I'm in the room but stands up and cries the second I leave. There was a point where I could lay him down when he was sleepy and he would just put himself to sleep, but he stopped this several months ago.  I put him in his crib and I lay down on the floor next to his crib and hold his hand (he starts whining if I don't hold his hand).  I will try to wait until he is asleep and then I sneak out. He is a night owl though and it can sometimes be 10 pm and he is still awake and sometimes starts playing and talking.  If he does this I say goodnight and leave.  He gets upset and cries and then I come back after a minute or so  (never longer than a few minutes)  and he seems to always be more calm after this and lays down, I don't know why.  I think he somehow understands "If I don't lay down and try to sleep, mama is going to leave."  I know I'm probably creating bad habits by him only falling asleep with me in the room but I don't know what else to do and I need to get up early for work (5:30) so I have to do what it takes to get him to sleep.
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  • traveltheworldtraveltheworld member
    DS has been able to put himself to sleep since bout 5 months old, but when he turned 18 months, he suddenly refused to go down and would cry and scream.   Initially I stayed with him and waited till he fell asleep, that worked for about 2 weeks, then he just started taking longer and longer to fall asleep and it turned into an hour+ of me sitting there.  One night it took almost 2 hours and he was SO exhausted the next day.  Finlly I went back to CIO, the first week he'd cry (on and off) for about 30 minutes, but it slowly got better.  Now he still cries every nigh, but it's usually only for about 2 minutes, so I'm ok with that.  I think they are now old enough to recognize what's happening and they just don't want you to leave.
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