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STMs: How crazy would this be?

PoppySeedWindsorPoppySeedWindsor member
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Okay, so one of my best friends is getting married on May 10th. My due date is April 13th. The wedding is a ten hour drive away. STMs....just hoooooooow crazy would it be to try to make it to this weddding?
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  • blush64blush64 member
    It depends on you and the baby. It is not something I would have been able to do with my youngest or my oldest but I probably would have been ok with my middle guy. It is hard to say ahead of time.
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    A 10 hour drive would probably turn into a 15-20 hour drive which is something to think about. I personally wouldn't have been able to do it with my LO that young. 
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  • MissyC979MissyC979 member
    That's a long drive with a newborn, especially if you go overdue. It may also be tough on you to sit in the car for that long, depending on your recovery. You could tentatively plan to go, but be open to the fact that you likely won't be up for it. The first few weeks are a time to take it really easy on yourself and ease into your new family. Driving 10+ hours with a newborn, plus getting dressed for a wedding might be more than you can handle. I also recommend not agreeing to be part of the bridal party--if you do make it to the wedding, be a guest with no extra duties.

    Also, I think there was a recent post about this within the last few months. You might want to search for it or scroll back a few pages to get some more feedback.
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  • dglvrk2dglvrk2 member
    I agree w PPs that this would be awfully hard, especially after a CS. I did much shorter road trips w both of my LOs when they were less than a month old and even those were difficult; the three hour drive becoming a five hour drive and all of the extra gear took most of the fun out of the excursions. I understand this is a dear friend. If you really feel like going when the time comes, give it a try. However, don't make that commitment yet.
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  • tisunge602tisunge602 member
    My LO was four weeks old when we made a seven hour drive for Christmas. It actually went way better than I expected. LO slept almost the whole way. The nice thing about traveling with a newborn is they sleep a LOT, especially in the car because it's very soothing for them. I had a vaginal birth with 3rd degree tears so I am well versed in how rough recovery can be. And I was fine. 

    However, I would echo previous posters that you should be prepared to make your plans tentative and be prepared to back out if it doesn't seem like the best thing to do when the time comes.

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  • dairygirl19dairygirl19 member

    It's dependendt like pp said.

    If it was me, I'd go but I also walked out of the hospital fine and two kids that were super easy that little. A month in, it was life as normal around here.

    Everyone is different though.

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  • spotco2spotco2 member
    Assuming that you will be happy go lucky and ready to run a marathon, let's consider the baby.

    You will have to plan on stopping for at least 30 minutes to an hour every 2-3 hours. This would almost double your drive time so plan on stopping overnight somewhere.

    I would leave 3 days out so you can drive 1, sleep over, drive the final leg of the trip, grab a room and rest up for the wedding the next day. Figure the same plan for the return trip home.

    Now your fun filled weekend trip just turned into a full blown week long vaca and that's just if you are feeling fantastic. Add more time if you're not.

    I'd pass on this one and maybe someone in the front row can Skype you during the wedding so you can see the ceremony and look at the pics later.

    At least that's what I'd tell my wife if she asked me this question.
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  • PoppySeedWindsorPoppySeedWindsor member
    I really appreciate everyone's advice. I'm going to tell my friend that we'll try to go to his wedding but that we absolutely cannot make a committment until after the baby is born...because you're all so totally right and have expressed the same concerns I have (which is why I asked the question here in the first place!). 

    Ideal world -- my natural birth goes incredibly perfectly well and baby is good and ready to go and we all live happily ever after (wedding or not!).

    Thanks again!
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