Pregnant at 37 with an 18 year old

JaQ310 · March 2014

Im 37. Just found out I was pregnant a week ago. Im so overwhelmed with emotions and feelings right now. To be honest im not feeling very happy about being pregnant. For one I don't think I will have a very supportive BF once I tell him. Another thing is my son will be 18 in a couple weeks and I keep thinking of how I will be starting all over again. Anyone else gone through this or is going through this?

Daviax5 · March 2014

I m 37. Pregnant with my third I have 14yr (G) 3yr (B) my 14yr is fine with it she wants a lil sister. So everything’s ok, you might want to decide soon what you want to do before someone else tell him. Noting is more heart breaking then someone else telling you that your mom is pregnant.

Klavanga74 · March 2014

I am 39 and have a 12 yo girl and 9 yo boy, I know for a fact that my 12 yo will not be happy. I'm dreading telling her. She has often tried to get us to promise not to have more kids and she's never been a girl who liked babies. Starting over is also scary. So, you aren't alone. We're waiting until we have a good ultrasound (Friday) to tell our kids. We've been afraid we'll slip. This group is very supportive.

alisazeph · March 2014

My situation is pretty similar to yours. I am 38. I have a 17 year old son and my daughter was born on 2/12. It is very strange starting over. This was a surprise pregnancy after 18 years of marriage. We were preparing for our son's high school graduation in May and thinking about being empty nesters. But, it's been so much fun and we are super happy.

akflutterby · March 2014

I found out i was pregnant 2 months after I turned 36 and my son turned 16. It was SUPER bad timing and i just cried. Hubs and I were NOT in a good and supportive place and DS was super unthrilled (to say the least). When I went in for the doc to confirm the pregnancy it looked like a blighted ovum and I was devastated. I didn't realize how much I wanted her until I thought I couldn't have her. Now at 36wks I am so excited to welcome this little darling in to our lives. DS, not so much. MH, more excited than I am - complete 180. Sometimes things happen that we don't expect, but we have to take 5th time to decide what is best for us and those around us and deal with whatever decision we make (or feel like was made for us). I don't know if any of this helps, but I totally feel where you're coming from and I hope that you can find some peace in your situation.

kelley72 · March 2014

First congratulations, to me All babies are blessings! Yes, it can be a difficult emotional adjustment when it's a surprise, long time in between, not great family support, etc. but that doesn't negate the beauty of the blessing. I hope you take a moment to prepare yourself that whatever other's reactions are that is their reaction/feeling. I hope the outcome is better than you believe it will be, even if it is not stay connected here and find your support through other avenues. I wish you a wonderful pregnancy!

roundabout2 · March 2014

I'm sorry you're feeling overwhelmed. I did too when I was surprised by this pregnancy and still have those feelings every now and then. But, it's getting easier to accept. I hope your BF and 18 yr old takes it in stride and sees what a blessing you have!

nikkiuk · March 2014

I'm in a similar situation. 43 with a 20 yo DD and a 16 yo DS and as far as I was concerned I was never having any more children, ever. So I was angry at myself, ashamed at 'getting caught out' and felt entirely hopeless. I'm 21 weeks now and I'm getting my head around it. I'm not angry anymore. We didn't tell anyone until we had the all clear from the Harmony blood tests. Even now, only my kids, my in-laws and two close friends know. My DD was happy for us, but she is an young adult so I wasn't expecting her to be annoyed. My DS, who is a total mummy's boy was less enthusiastic but not annoyed, more mildly irritated. He's fine now. I honestly thought he'd be angry but he's got far more important things to think about, like girls, football and rugby.

The one thing I have realized is that yes. it's starting all over again but I'm sooooooo much older and wiser that actually, it won't faze me in the slightest because I have the experience to deal with a Baby/Toddler/Pre-schooler/Gradeschooler/Teenager very effectively. You do too.

imagine7696030614 · March 2014

I'm also in a similar situation so you are definitely not alone. I'm 37 with a 17 (turning 18 in a couple months), an 11 year old, and a 7 year old. I had been experiencing some severe 'baby fever' so we decided to give it one serious try...well, guess what-got pg first cycle! Crazy. We are happy but scared. Financially it'll be a strain. Don't get me wrong, we'll get by but won't be able to enjoy a lot of extras we've grown accustomed to. Also, we don't really have the space for another so yeah, we're kind of freaking out, lol. But I know it will be worth it. Hopefully your bf will be more supportive than you think. Congrats and good luck!

shaylagirl · March 2014

I'll be 37 when this kiddo is born and my husband will be 47. My son is 16, and my husband's son will be 12.

My son was rather squicked out when we told him we were pregnant (he was the 1st person we told). However, we had told both of our sons we were going to try and have a baby, so they knew it was a possibility.

His son was rather "Yeah, okay...whatever" about it. Not excited, but not ambivalent either.

What's got my husband up late at night is:
Paying for labor and delivery
Childcare costs
WHERE will the baby live (we have a 3 bedroom house)
Will he be able to 'keep up' and be an 'active' father (coaching little league, playing at the park, etc)
He'll be 65 when the baby graduates from high school

HOPEFULLY your boyfriend will be supportive. I hope your son will be too.

Mjshell · March 2014

I'm 43 with a 17, 11, and 9 yo and 36 wks pg. I was completely shocked but I'm so excited now. Feeling overwhelmed at times, but figure I know what to do now! It will all work out, don't stress!

rishaunikki32 · March 2014

I am 37 and Pregnant with my husbands frist child. My boys are 18 and 11 and no worries because everything will be fine. It is in fact starting over but you will have help. My 18 year old is bursting with joy at the thought that he may have a sister or brother however they both have had mixed feelings since it has become a reality. You are not alone..I am always nervous as I know what it takes to raise a kid. My husband who is the only child and does not have any kids often times talk about what a breeze this will be. Everything will work out just fine:-)

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