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This is so hard

emcaemca member
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We were recently matched with an EM due in July. There were a few difficult things going on in the weeks since being matched, but this past weekend (Friday) we went to meet her. Everything went so well and it gave us so much hope that we were matched with the right person. We got home yesterday and got a call from the attorney that the EM went into preterm labor yesterday and the baby didn't make it. We are so sad for her, the expectant dad, and for us. I always prepared myself for the fact that she might change her mind about us or choose to parent, but this is a whole different feeling of loss. I'm trying to remain positive that we are going to be parents, but after this and a failed match in December, I'm beginning to feel like our dream of having a family might not happen. Adoption is so hard....

After 1 IUI, 3 IVF's with CGH/CCS testing, 10 early miscarriages, and lots of tears and frustration, we are moving on to Domestic Infant Adoption!  We are so excited to see what the future holds.

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  • lorifromwilorifromwi member
    I am so sorry for your loss.

     

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  • Dr.LorettaDr.Loretta member
    I'm so sorry. Hugs to you all
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  • annaliselannalisel member
    I'm sorry for your loss. 
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  • JWinCTJWinCT member
    I am so sorry for your loss.
    Happily married Mom to 2 beautiful little girls, 2 dogs and 2 cats (all rescues), 2 fish and one 29 year-old firebelly newt.
    ~ Hoping to add to our family by adoption via Connecticut DCF. Application submitted on 2/4/14. First home visit on 6/23/14. Started class 11/17/14.~

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  • KezziRivKezziRiv member
    I am so so sorry, this is just so difficult!  My thoughts will be with you all.
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    LONG road through IF ending in heartbreak and frustration.
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  • smwrocks420smwrocks420 member
    So sorry
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  • irismorningirismorning member
    That is awful, I am so sorry!

    Mother of two wonderful boys! Blessed through adoption.

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  • IdigDirtIdigDirt member
    I am so very sorry.
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  • LHCoxLHCox member
    So very sorry for your loss.
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  • emcaemca member
    edited March 2014
    Thank you everyone. We are sad, but trying to remain hopeful that a baby is out there somewhere.

    After 1 IUI, 3 IVF's with CGH/CCS testing, 10 early miscarriages, and lots of tears and frustration, we are moving on to Domestic Infant Adoption!  We are so excited to see what the future holds.

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  • CaptainSeriousCaptainSerious member
    Oh, I am so very sorry.  I can't imagine how much you are all hurting right now.  You are all in my thoughts and prayers.
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  • bumpuser794640bumpuser794640 member
    Oh dear, I am so sorry to hear that. :(  I can't imagine how difficult this is for you and for them.  I will be praying for peace and comfort for all involved, and that you will find your baby soon.
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  • CeCe8579CeCe8579 member
    Oh, I am so very sorry for your loss!
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  • hey_its_jennhey_its_jenn member
    Oh my - I am so, so sorry for your loss and for the EM and BFs as well.  Thoughts and prayers go out to all of you that are in pain.  Big hugs! 

    J&B // Married 9/19/09
    J: 28 // B: 32 

    TTC # 1 Since October 2010 (Not preventing since 2009)
    November 2013: Applied & Accepted by the Agency
    January 2014: Home Study, education class, Profiles
    February 2014: "Officially Waiting"
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  • julandjojulandjo member
    Oh my word. My deepest sympathy for your loss and the expectant family's loss.  What a difficult situation.
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  • justjinnyjustjinny member
    I am so sorry for you!
    TTC #1 9/11-12/12, 9/12 Dx: Hypothyroid + DOR (AMH .76), IUI #1 & #2 BFN's
    1/13 Decided to pursue DIA, 4/13 Home study Approved 9/13 Matched!
    10/13 DS home with us! 2/14 TPR completed  5/14 ADOPTION IS FINAL!
    3/14 Surprise BFP 11/14 DD is here!
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