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Why am I having such a hard time moving my baby to his own room?

taranic1022taranic1022 member
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My little man is almost 7 months old and we still share a room.  Almost everybody we know is telling me that I need to move him or should have moved him to his own room by now.  The thought of him sleeping in his own room really makes me feel sad and scared at the same time.  It's just me and him and I miss him terribly all day when I'm at work. How can I get over this?  Does or has anybody else out there feel the same way? Any help with processing these feelings would be great. Thanks in advance!
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Re: Why am I having such a hard time moving my baby to his own room?

  • TiffanyBerryTiffanyBerry member
    It sounds like you aren't ready to make the switch. Then don't do it. :) You don't have to.
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  • vvvvvfeevvvvvfee member
    it is totally natural for mothers and babies to want to be close to each other. mothers and babies sleeping separately from each other is NOT the norm in most of the world, nor is it the easiest way to do things, IMO. if it makes other people uncomfortable and/or question their own parenting choices, that is their problem, not yours! if you are both happy and well rested then there is no need to change anything.


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  • =Lee=B=Lee=B member

    If you work all day (away from baby) and want baby in your room all night then why make any changes?  Room sharing will only make baby feel closer...it won't 'ruin' your baby.  Ignore the others...you will find that pretty much all parenting advice you receive is people telling you to do things the way they do things.  Like how almost everyone here on this AP board will tell you to leave baby in your room :-)

    My 12month old sleeps in her own room, and I am just now starting to not spend the whole night in there with her.  But, I run a home daycare and she is with me all day.  Pretty sure that if I was working outside of the home she would be in bed snuggled next to me every night...because it would be what we BOTH need.

     

     

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  • sugarbear0524sugarbear0524 member
    Do you think it would be better for your son to sleep in his own room? Then deal with your feelings about it and move him. If you think it would be better for him to sleep in the same room as you, then leave him there. Just do what you think is best for your son, regardless of your own feelings or what others think.  Your post was mostly about what you wanted. What do you think is best for him?
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  • audreylaine510audreylaine510 member
    It sounds to me like you are getting pressured in to this before you are ready. If you are happy with the situation the way it is why change? You need to follow your mommy instincts and do what works best for you and your baby. Try not to let what others think worry you. 
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  • ChichigoChichigo member
    Anyone that doesn't live in your house doesn't get to voice an opinion on your sleeping arrangements unless you ask for help/advice.
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  • blu-eyedwifeblu-eyedwife member
    This sounds totally normal to me.  We didn't bedshare/room share at all. Not because I had anything against it.  Not because I thought it would be hard for my son to transition to sleeping alone.  But because I knew it would be really difficult for me to transition!  Kids don't really need their own room for a while, and things are much easier for you this way I'm sure. 
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  • Emerald27Emerald27 member
    DS is in his own bed in our room, and he's nearly 2.5. He's happy, healthy, balanced. This works well for us, and we are planning to move him to his own room over the summer...he seems ready now, but with some upcoming vacations, etc., we want to wait until there are no changes ahead.

    If you're happy and he's happy, keep him in your room! Especially if you're breastfeeding, keeping him close is truly advantageous. :)
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  • BunnyferBunnyfer member
    I just moved my 6m old to her own room this week. I was not ready, but she was. She is now STTN. Dh and I miss her but we know it's best for her. Do what's best for you baby
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  • taranic1022taranic1022 member
    Thanks for all the input ladies!  I think what I'm going to do is move his crib into my room for a little while till I'm ready to move him into his own room.  At least this way he'll be sleeping in his crib instead of the pack 'n play.  I really appreciate all your comments and the time you took to post them to help out a fellow new mom.  Have a great spring!
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