Down Syndrome Moms - Did you have soft markers?

Re: Down Syndrome Moms - Did you have soft markers?

• amajane member

  May 2009

  Marley doesn't have DS but she does have some unknown genetic syndrome. We had some?abnormalities?show up in our 18 week fetal survey although the NT, blood tests and amnio were all normal.

  My point is that even if you learn by tests that your baby is okay doesn't mean that he or she won't be born with some genetic syndrome, have a birth injury or develop autism by the age of 2.

  You can't plan. You can't know everything. Pregnancy and having kids is a crapshoot. You're taking a risk having a baby and at 35 your odds for having problems in higher than if you were in your 20s.

  So if I were you I wouldn't do another amnio if you're not going to terminate. And stop trying to plan. Because God laughs at you and will mess with you if you try to do that.?

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• kchoi

  May 2009

  if you're not going to terminate then i wouldn't go through the amnio and risk m/c and cells not growing again. ?they found no soft markers with my son and since we refused the amnio as it didn't matter to us, we didn't know until he was born that he has Down syndrome. ?for me thinking back i wouldn't change our decision. ?it was hard being a first time mom and having to go through the grieving process of not having a "typical" child, but it was much easier to go through it while looking at and holding my baby. ?plus IF your child does indeed have Down syndrome, ?you can't really plan what it will be like as like all children, they are all different. ?one child may have problems feeding while another may not. ?the hospital i was at was very quick at getting my son an echo cardiogram as soon as he was born just in case he did have Down syndrome (nothing is confirmed until they run a bloodtest). ?good luck with your decision!!

  
  
  
  
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• soontobeahigh member

  May 2009

  We didn't have any soft markers show up on our ultrasound but we went ahead with the amnio and DD does have DS. Im sorry you had such trouble with your amnio. I haven't heard of that happening before. My dr. did tell us there was a chance that they would get my cells instead of the babies but that was an unlikely chance. Good luck with whatever you decide. I don't know what I would do in your situation b/c we were discussing termination. We have since decided against it, but it was one of the reasons we did the amnio in the first place besides knowing for sure.

  

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• BrideBuddies member

  May 2009

  Hi BW.. I've been poking around over here as well.....

  The no-growth thing, to me, is more concerning than a Downs diagnosis.  But I don't think I'd do a second Amnio.

  So you're 1:43 for Downs.   Put it in a percentage.   1:43 is only about a 2 percent chance, if I've done my math correctly.  So 2 kids out of 100 may have Downs.   Or 98 out of 100 will not.  

  For me, I have to keep it in those kinds of numbers to keep my sanity.  I'm rated 1:5 and still leaning toward no Amnio.  But I'm a few weeks away from my U/S and Amnio decision.

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• chasityhighkin member

  March 2014

  I am so confused...I don't know what to do I am 29. My blood work (first trimester screening nad Quad ) Have come back normal.. All other test seem normal.. But his kidneys were dilated during 18 week u/s.. Just did a level 2 today.. I am 20 weeks and 4 days.. Everything looks completely normal.. But doctor says there still may be down syndrome.. Was not given any ratio.. Should I be worried. or just wait until next u/s in 6 weeks..

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