If someone knocks down your kid...

Re: If someone knocks down your kid...

• Barefoot84 member

  March 2014

  I don't think I would do anything, especially if my child wasn't hurt. It's not my child to discipline. When we have playdates and the other kid pushes Tumaini, I try not to intervene, and I also tell my friend not to intervene. I've noticed that Tumaini won't do anything at first, but if it happens again, she'll push back, and often, that's the end of it, there's no more pushing on either parts. If it's a stranger, I will approach Tumaini and tell her to be gentle with her "friends".
  
  If the child is older or could hurt Tumaini, I would probably go get Tumaini and make her play elsewhere, but I don't think I would try to talk to the other kid, and I know I would never have the guts to approach the other mother.
  

  
   
  

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• Barefoot84 member

  March 2014

  PaddyB said:

  Was it on purpose or more of an excited kid not paying attention to where they were going?  If they pushed my kid down on purpose you better believe I would say something to them.  

  
  On purpose.
  

  
   
  

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• bumpuser1509193 member

  March 2014 edited March 2014

  I usually reminded the kid to watch out for smaller kids. There's been one occasion where the kid was being a menace to society and the mother was doing nothing about it, I had to get all super bitch on her.(the mother, not the kid)

  "Parenting is a constant struggle between making your kid's live better and ruining your own." Willie Robertson, 'Duck Dynasty'
  

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• lewispm member

  March 2014

  This happens a lot. If it was obviously accidental, I usually just make sure Kellen is OK and don't bother to say anything to the child.

  There was one time, though, that a little girl was following him around and being very mean for no reason at all. She was probably about 4 and was tugging his shirt, pushing him, pinching him, and grabbing his foot and pulling on him while he climbed the steps on the play gym. The first time she did something I kind of was just like "whoops, be careful" but then it got obvious she was bullying him so I told her "be nice, he is just a baby" and then, when she kept doing things, I asked her "please don't be mean to him he is only a baby". That STILL didn't work, so I looked around until I saw her dad (or who I thought was her dad, since they were the only Asian looking family at the park that day) and  brought K over near him to play so he actually saw her go in for a pinch and heard me reprimand her. They obviously spoke very little English, so no wonder my comments didn't work, but still. That girl was a little bully!

  

  

                                                                

   

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• nesenotes member

  March 2014

  If its on purpose and they are older and bigger I tell them we don't push and give a stink eye. If they are the same age I don't say much and let them work it out. But parents in my area are usually on it.
  
  If it's an accident I say oops and just check to make sure mine is ok.

  
  
  
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• alphahelix member

  March 2014

  If it was on purpose I might say something like "oops, please don't push" and if it continued I would probably step in and say "we don't play like that" and take Anna to another area to play. If it was by accident I would pretty much ignore it unless she was actually hurt.

  
  

  I used to try to be non-confrontational, but there are a few bullies at storytime whose parents'/nannies' don't pay attention or try to correct them so I just speak up to the kids and give lots of dirty looks. I wish I had the gumption to say something directly to the adults, but I'm getting there. It sucks when one or two misbehaved kids can ruin the time for everyone else.

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

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• snickersforeveryone member

  March 2014

  I agree with @Camskate‌. I would hope that someone would correct my kid if they were being aggressive. Sure, I'd be embarrassed that my kid was acting out, but if I don't notice, something still needs to be said.
  
  So I fully intend to gently remind any child bullying my own that such behavior is unacceptable if the parent doesn't. They need to learn social norms somewhere.

  
  
  
  

  

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• apollonia10 member

  March 2014

  This happens a lot at toddler music class because moms bring their older kids, who get all excited and knock down the littler kids. I've only said something if one kid is intentionally doing it over and over again; otherwise I either let DS get back up or I move him to a different area. He always handles it better than I do in my head.

  

  
  

  
  

  

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