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Parenting after a Loss
FmrAFBrat
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***Healthy Living Check In***
FmrAFBrat
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Hi everyone! I know we had a few more joiners last week so I'll try to make it a little more interesting. I promise. On a happy note it isn't snowing & I actually got several things done with the nicer weather. I cannot wait for spring. 
-So just for starters what is your diet plan & what do you hope to accomplish?
-How did things go this week? Any big breakthroughs or failures?
-Did you get any physical activity in? Any workout from home successes always win bonus points.
GTKY What's had the biggest impact on you as a mom? Do you think having a loss(es) had changed the type of parent you are?
Bonus: Pics...show off your LOs
-So just for starters what is your diet plan & what do you hope to accomplish?
-How did things go this week? Any big breakthroughs or failures?
-Did you get any physical activity in? Any workout from home successes always win bonus points.
GTKY What's had the biggest impact on you as a mom? Do you think having a loss(es) had changed the type of parent you are?
Bonus: Pics...show off your LOs
TTC January 2010
BFP #1 10-11-10 ectopic discovered 10-22-10,
10-23-10 methotrexate & emergency surgery, lost right tube BFP #2
12-1-10 Found to be tissue dropped from salingectomy or missed heterotopic
pregnancy from BFP #1 BFP #3 1-30-11 DS arrived on due date 10-10-11 BFP
#4 Surprise 9-3-12 EDD 5-9-13 DS2 arrived 5-5-13 BFP #5 5-14-14 Emergency D&C 6-16-14 9 weeks
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Re: ***Healthy Living Check In***
This week was a fail. I had to go to Cincy for work and didn't get to choose my meals. Uh...what part of sandwich with FFs or fried chicken equals healthy. FAIL. Looks like I'll be eating salsa salads from Qdoba this week.
On a positive note I did get to work the plant...so that equals physical activity.
The thing that's had the biggest impact on me as a mom was growing up a military brat. I never really had a place to call home & never really felt like I belonged anywhere...so I really don 't want that for my kids. I think family nearby is very important.
As far as my loss, it's one of those lessons that you can do everything right and have everything go so terribly wrong. I had been off BC and taking prenatal vitamins for a year before my loss. I was also a health nut. Really though I am probably a bit overprotective as a result. I worry a ton...especially about family members being lax with safety.
I am on WW and hope to lose about 20 pounds...which I know is going to take a goodly amount of time. I went down the same road a few years before having DS, and while it can be frustrating to be patient with the process, it is worth it in the end. I am less fixated on the # on the scale than with feeling comfortable in my own (saggy, baggy) skin and hopefully fit back in my clothes. Being over 40 doesn't help - my metabolism is shot!
-How did things go this week? ---
Meh. Okay. I lost 0.4 pounds at weigh-in last Thursday. Then I had a work fundraising dinner on Saturday and I ate dessert, which I should not have done. And then on Sunday DH made us waffles for breakfast...full fat homemade waffles, that is. With bananas sauted in maplesyrup and toasted walnuts. So that pretty much made the entire weekend a waste. I suspect I will be on the plus side with this week's weigh-in. Boo.
Any big breakthroughs or failures? ---
See above.
-Did you get any physical activity in? ---
No. I really don't know how you guys do it. There are just not enough hours in the day.
GTKY What's had the biggest impact on you as a mom? Do you think having a loss(es) had changed the type of parent you are? ---
I think my past career (NICU nurse), age and loss expereince have made me appreciate what I have more than I might have otherwise. This is great, but I do worry that things need to be modulated a bit. I am starting to feel like there is no "me" anymore (outside of work, anyway). It is all kidskidskidskidskidskidskidskidskidskids and while I am happy and honored to be able to put them first, it is starting to wear a bit on my marriage (our sole kid-free outing since DD was born 6 mos ago was the dinner on Saturday) my friendships (what friends? And when exactly would I have time to see them?) and my appearance (Saturday is the second time I put on makeup and spent time on my hair since DD was born).
Guess that is something to work on along with the weight loss.
Have a great week, ladies!
BFP #1 5/2010 - Missed m/c at 8 weeks
BFP #2 2/2011
Baby G welcomed with love and relief 10/2011
Surprise BFP 1/8/2013...say what? Baby A arrived 9/2013
Motherhood is not for wimps
@kklamb10 I never made a Facebook announcement with my pregnancies. My family posted tagged pics when the boys were born. I do post a little now...but I am mindful of other peoples feelings...so WAAAY less than other moms. I do love my boys I just don't want to push them down anyone's throat.
I'm late for this check in again, sorry.
-So just for starters what is your diet plan & what do you hope to accomplish? I decided to start the year with just slowly working in small changes to my routine to build better eating and exercise habits. So far, I've been going regularly to the gym and getting on the elliptical machine for 30 mins, and I've been cooking a lot so that I don't get drive thru for lunch at work. I've gained 2 lbs. No, it's not much, but it's not the direction I was hoping. I'm wanting to lose 25lbs by July for a family reunion. That probably won't happen since reasonable weight loss for me is 1 lb a week. So with 16 weeks, I'm hoping to really be down 16 lbs by then.
Yes, the eliptical machine a few times last week.
-How did things go this week? Any big breakthroughs or failures? Nothing has gone well for the past 2 weeks. I've still gone to the gym, but I can tell my heart isn't in it, and I'm just phoning it in. I'm ready to start adding body weight exercises to my routine, starting today: pushups, leg lifts, crunches, wall sits. And I really need to change something in my diet. I'm just not sure what. DH constantly tells me that food isn't as important as exercise, which I do think he may have a point, but I still need to cut back or add more protein or something.
-Did you get any physical activity in? Any workout from home successes always win bonus points.
GTKY What's had the biggest impact on you as a mom? Do you think having a loss(es) had changed the type of parent you are? My parents have a huge impact on me as a mom, but not in the way you think. Ok, simple example: my mom just found out a couple years ago that my brother and I don't know how to swim. Yes, we can stay afloat and doggie paddle, but when it comes to strokes, we're clueless. She was shocked, and I said, well you never taught us or took us to swim lessons. We had to figure it out on our own. Same with finances, college, cooking, everything. We basically figured it out on our own. I don't want Phoebe to have to deal with that. I want to set a good example and make sure she can learn anything she needs to through me. Having a loss definitely changed the type of parent I am. Sadly enough, my brother's wife also went through a loss before their rainbow. Again, my mother had no idea how to handle both of her children going through something like this, but we helped each other out, and both really understand how precious these little lives are to us.
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BFP#1 3/8/12; diagnosed w/ Anencephaly at 12w6d; D&C 5/9/12
BFP#2 7/18/12; A/S 10/26/12 It's a Girl! EDD 3/29/13
Phoebe Jordan Born 3/20/13
LOL! I considered that too! I don't want her to be TOTALLY dependent. I guess we have to find that perfect balance.
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*** July Siggy Challenge - Cake Wrecks ***
BFP#1 3/8/12; diagnosed w/ Anencephaly at 12w6d; D&C 5/9/12
BFP#2 7/18/12; A/S 10/26/12 It's a Girl! EDD 3/29/13
Phoebe Jordan Born 3/20/13