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BTDT parents come in please...
So, this has been weighing on my mind for a bit and i could really use some encouragement and/or anecdotes from parents who have BTDT. FWIW, I'll be putting a call into the pedi tomorrow, but I'd love to hear other's experience.
DS is 14 months and is crawling/cruising like a madman, but will not walk. I dont necessarily think its that he CAN'T, I believe its more of a lack of motivation. He pulls right up to standing and cruises all the time, but doesnt seems interested in walking.
Hes also not talking yet. He babbles a ton and experiments with different "word-like" sounds, but no actual words. At his 12 month appt, the dr said as long as he's walking by 15 months there's not need for concern. He also mentioned that he isn't concerned about DS's development, as he's a very alert, social, and interactive kid otherwise, but if at 15mo he's still not saying words, he may want him evaluated by EI for a possible speech delay.
Well, the other day as I was asking DS's DC teacher how he's doing (that day the staff nurse at the DC happened to be in charge of his room), she said he's doing well, but it seems like his leg muscles are weak, which may be the reason for him not walking. She mentioned that she thought it'd be a good idea to inquire about this to the pedi and that maybe DS could use some intervention (such as PT, etc). I also asked her opinion on his speech (or lack there of) and she didn't seem concerned in the least, as there are a few kids older than DS that are at the same point as him speech-wise.
All in all, sure, it may not seem like a big deal and maybe DS just needs some extra help which I of course, want to utilize if he needs it, but I cant help but feel anxious, and my mind is automatically reeling with the worst case scenarios and what ifs. I think as a parent, no one likes to admit that their kid may be a little behind and I cant help but feel like maybe its partly my fault...like I havent been doing enough to nurture his speech, motor skills, and whatnot.
I mean, I feel like I'm doing everything I can...we read, we practice walking with push toys, I'm constantly talking and singing to him. He's always been a pretty laid back "lazy" (for lack of a better term) baby, and has been on the later side of normal with most of his other milestones...so IDK. Maybe its just his temperament?
Everyone I talk to seems to tell me that he'll walk and talk when he wants to, but its super frustrating bc I've been working so hard to help him with it. He's really a mostly happy, active toddler, but it seems like hes perfectly content getting around on his and knees rather than walking. It doesnt help that I'm a worrier by nature so all of this isn't helping my anxiety level.
Any BTDT parents with any words of wisdom here? I'm giving myself gray hairs here and something's gotta give. Sorry once again for tl; dr. I owe you a cocktail :-)
DS is 14 months and is crawling/cruising like a madman, but will not walk. I dont necessarily think its that he CAN'T, I believe its more of a lack of motivation. He pulls right up to standing and cruises all the time, but doesnt seems interested in walking.
Hes also not talking yet. He babbles a ton and experiments with different "word-like" sounds, but no actual words. At his 12 month appt, the dr said as long as he's walking by 15 months there's not need for concern. He also mentioned that he isn't concerned about DS's development, as he's a very alert, social, and interactive kid otherwise, but if at 15mo he's still not saying words, he may want him evaluated by EI for a possible speech delay.
Well, the other day as I was asking DS's DC teacher how he's doing (that day the staff nurse at the DC happened to be in charge of his room), she said he's doing well, but it seems like his leg muscles are weak, which may be the reason for him not walking. She mentioned that she thought it'd be a good idea to inquire about this to the pedi and that maybe DS could use some intervention (such as PT, etc). I also asked her opinion on his speech (or lack there of) and she didn't seem concerned in the least, as there are a few kids older than DS that are at the same point as him speech-wise.
All in all, sure, it may not seem like a big deal and maybe DS just needs some extra help which I of course, want to utilize if he needs it, but I cant help but feel anxious, and my mind is automatically reeling with the worst case scenarios and what ifs. I think as a parent, no one likes to admit that their kid may be a little behind and I cant help but feel like maybe its partly my fault...like I havent been doing enough to nurture his speech, motor skills, and whatnot.
I mean, I feel like I'm doing everything I can...we read, we practice walking with push toys, I'm constantly talking and singing to him. He's always been a pretty laid back "lazy" (for lack of a better term) baby, and has been on the later side of normal with most of his other milestones...so IDK. Maybe its just his temperament?
Everyone I talk to seems to tell me that he'll walk and talk when he wants to, but its super frustrating bc I've been working so hard to help him with it. He's really a mostly happy, active toddler, but it seems like hes perfectly content getting around on his and knees rather than walking. It doesnt help that I'm a worrier by nature so all of this isn't helping my anxiety level.
Any BTDT parents with any words of wisdom here? I'm giving myself gray hairs here and something's gotta give. Sorry once again for tl; dr. I owe you a cocktail :-)
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Re: BTDT parents come in please...
A friend of ours was just talking to us last night about how their son was a late walker and was also in speech therapy bc he was a late talker as well...now the kid is running around like crazy snd doesnt shut up, which is very encouraging!
Like I said, I think I'll put a call in to the pedi tomorrow to see what he thinks and if he thinks we should move forward with EI now, I'll be more than willing to do so. The way he put it was "whats the worst that could happen out of it? Either they evaluate and your son doesnt qualify bc he's not behind or he does qualify and gets the extra help to catch up".
I just need to tell my overactive brain to STFU with all of the crazy what ifs.
I really think I need to just chill the fuck out. My problem is that I read too much and my brain is just in overload mode I think. Its so hard not to compare your kid to others. But I really just need to understand that kids are so different from each other, so its like comparing apples to oranges.
Honestly my gut feeling is that this is more lack of motivation, but the worrier in me wants to cover all the bases, so I'll just out a call in tomorrow and see what the dr thinks.
DD only had about three words by 24 months, though she had about 10 signs. We had EI out again and a therapist worked with her for about six months. It made a huge improvement. She is now 3 and completely caught up with her peers on both.
I think you have some time before you need to worry, but you can always call EI and have an assessment if you feel your LO is behind. Every kid really is different , give it some time. A few weeks can make a huge difference. GL!
Everything I've heard in terms of language development is that it really is a language explosion around 18mo. Im hoping this is the case with DS. At this point, its hard to imagine that he will ever talk bc he doesnt seem to be very interested in doing so!
At 18 months now she's walking and talking fine (40 words + body parts + animal sounds) and just starting to run. She still doesn't climb much. We took her to a playground and these tiny babies were running circles around her. She liked to go up and down this one step and watch all the other kids. My kid is lazy/risk adverse and that's ok.
I really do need to unclench a bit and just let my kid be a kid with his own personality. I guess it doesn't help that my gf's son (who is 6 months older than my DS) was walking and had a few words by this age. But I digress...its like comparing apples to oranges, bc its apparent that every kid is so different!