Board Stickie Msg - DRAFT 1

PrivateOne · March 2014

Hi Everyone!

I've written up a draft stickie for our board and want to get everyone's opinion on it. I tried to incorporate all the great advice that everyone gave yesterday and hope I have done you all proud. I actually found this to be much harder than it seemed. I don't want to offend anyone and hope this is an all encompassing message that everyone will be happy with for our board.

Once you've had a chance to review, please share your thoughts, comments, etc and I'll make any necessary revisions.

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Welcome to TTC after 35, the open and supportive forum for all trying to conceive (TTC) after the age of 35. You will find this board is a very diverse group of individuals at varying stages of trying to conceive. We all know that TTC at this age can be difficult no matter what the situation is. Simply put, we are all here to give and receive support during our journey.

As you make your way onto this board, you will find those who have children and are trying to expand their family as well as those who are trying to conceive their first. Some are married, some are engaged, and some are single. Our medical diagnoses vary as well. Some have a specific IF diagnosis, some do not. Some are just beginning to seek medical advice and testing, while others have sought treatment for years. You'll find some are trying naturally, some with IUI, some with IVF and some with donors. We are just one big conception melting pot!

No matter what journey you are on, we are always supportive, respectful, and compassionate while connecting with one another. We are never intentionally rude, snarky, or immature with our fellow bumpies.

Here are a few etiquette pointers we'd like to share...

Drive By BFP's - Let's face it nobody likes a drive by. If you've never posted on our board, we politely ask that you do not come here to simply post your success story. Those announcements are happily reserved for our board members who we've supported and cheered on since they made their introduction on this board.

New and Never Posted Here? If you are new to our board please introduce yourself so we can get to know you and support you in your journey. In your initial posting, we'd appreciate it if you could give a warning in your subject line if you will be mentioning another child(ren) or a loss(es). These are sensitive topics for some of us who are struggling, and a little warning goes a long way.

For Members With Children - You should never feel like you have to hide them for fear of upsetting someone else on the board. Just be sensitive to everyone, including those struggling to conceive their first.

Postings with BFPs and/or Loss – These types of posts should generally come with a warning. If you forget, it is not the end of the world and we’ll roll with it. However, you may receive a gentle reminder to do so from someone that posts in your discussion thread.

Weekly Check-Ins

We currently have two weekly check-ins on this board. On Wednesday there is a general board check-in and on Thursday there is a special check-in for those over 40. We encourage everyone to participate in the check-ins as it is a great way for us all to stay connected in one post. Note: If you are new, please do an intro post before posting in a weekly check-in.

Acronyms

Everyone soon realizes that we speak in our own language, using acronyms. This can be confusing; however, here are a few common ones for those new to the board...

2WW - Two Week Wait

AF – Aunt Flo (menstruation)

AMA – Advanced maternal age

BD – Big Deed (baby making sex), also Baby Dance

BETA – another term for HCG, blood pregnancy testing

BF or BF’ing – Breastfeeding

BFN – Big Fat Negative (pregnancy test result)

BFP – Big Fat Positive (pregnancy test result)

CM – Cervical Mucus

D&C – Dilation and Curettage

DPO – Days past ovulation

DD – Dear/Darling Daughter

DH – Dear/Darling Husband

DS – Dear/Darling Son

IUI - Intra-uterine insemination

IVF - In vitro fertilization

FET - Frozen embryo transfer

FRER - First Response Early Response

IF – Infertility

LMP – Last Menstrual Period

FX – Fingers crossed

MC – Miscarriage

OPK – Ovulation Predictor Kit

POAS – Pee On A Stick

RE – Reproductive Endocrinologist

RPL – Recurrent Pregnancy Loss

T&Ps – Thoughts and prayers

For a comprehensive list of acronyms, please visit the Resolve website glossary.

Lady2010 · March 2014

Looks good. Thanks @PrivateOne

latershrader · March 2014

Great job! This is exactly what I would have needed when starting out here. Not sure if she wants to be on this but @hooligans4 does a weekly healthy check-in on Sundays.

jenfer916 · March 2014

I think you nailed it on your first try! Awesome!

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hooligans4 · March 2014

Thanks @PrivateOne for doing that. Can I maybe suggest putting in the drive by BFP section for them to go right to the pregnant after 35 board so they have a safe place to post.

And my check-in doesn't have to be on it. But thanks @soontobeshrader for thinking of me. It's not a check-in that includes the whole board so I don't think it should be in the sticky note. But you all know everyone is welcome to post in my check-in.

Davie813 · March 2014

I like it--informative and very welcoming! If I were new, I would definitely appreciate that you'd actually written out a glossary instead of just posting a link.

Davie813 · March 2014

Just another thought--do we want to change "some are married, some are engaged, and some are single" to something like "some are married or partnered, and some are single," to be inclusive of people in long-term relationships who don't plan to get married, LGBTQ ladies in states where marriage isn't an option, and others? I think "partnered" would include "engaged"

ksgsmu · March 2014

I think it is great!

Thank you for writing it- Having been on the board for two years I feel that it really expresses what a wonderful supportive board this is!

Once this is generally agreed upon @bumpjackie said to just PM her with the draft and she will get it posted as a sticky for us!

PrivateOne · March 2014

Thanks ladies!!!! You've all added great suggestions and I will update accordingly.

I'm going to leave this post up for at least a full day to ensure as many folks can see it as possible and continue to make suggestions. After that, I'll make the revisions and post again for everyone's final review.

Samuelismomma · March 2014

Looks good to me! I agree to add DE for donor egg and NTNP for not trying not preventing...took me a couple post to figure that out! Lol...oh and Bfp to go to pg after 35 is good idea that way they don't feel discouraged from the boards and have some where to go...thanks for doing this:)

kindershlitz · March 2014

Wow, thanks! That was a lot of work and well done. I guess for me I didn't pick upon FMU at first

HeathernSteven · March 2014

That looks great!!! I don't think I can add to the suggestions, but I agree with them, I also 2nd, or 3rd or....FMU and DE upfront in glossary.

ewenner · March 2014

I think this is great! The glossary is super helpful, too. Thank you for putting this together.

fabumama · March 2014

Very well written!

C_Girlie · March 2014

Great job, well done =D>

Radiantly · March 2014

Very good and I am so happy to see this incredibly supportive and welcoming sticky. I would like to intro myself properly soon. I've only posted comments a couple times. But I've been lurking and am kinda proud that I've picked up on all of the sticky stuff so I feel like a seasoned member already!

thanks it's communities like this one that make my journey not quite as lonesome.

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