LGBT Parenting

just for fun

Although I have work to do, I'm not focusing on it so I thought it would be fun to ask a just for fun question :)

You're given $100,000.  What do you do with the money?

Re: just for fun

  • Pay off both of our student loans (About $50000 I think, maybe 60k), give a sizeable chunk to H's parents so that they can pay off something that's stressing them (I don't know what, but I want them to feel less pressure!), save enough that I can take a full-year off work + a month ahead of time to be with the Rockies.  And the rest I think I would want to put aside to support us so that H. can focus on finishing her diss and staying home with us and the Rockies as much as she wants.


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    queer couple - 32 (me) & 33 (my love) years old - donor sperm,

    Our IF/TTC journey since Nov 2012.

    Me: dx of DOR in Nov. 2012. Low AMH, AFC - 6, Normal FSH, SS-A (RO) Antibodies (Autoimmune issues), tubes clear, Sono (November 2013) NORMAL! <p>

    7 IUI's - December 2012-September 2013.  Medicated, Injected, Triggered.... all BFN.

    My Love:  (the amazing @Healz413)
    Normal AMH & FSH, AFC ~27, blocked tube dx'd via HSG in 2012.   Hydrosalpinx & ovarian cyst dx'd in May 2013.
    dx of Stage IV Endo & bilateral salpinectomy in June 2013.  

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    Partner IVF#1a- December 2013 - H's eggs, my Ute - CANCELLED due to low response
    Partner IVF #1b - February 2014 - H's eggs, my Ute - ER February 4 (10 retrieved, 3 fertilized), Transfer Feb 7 of one Grade 1 and one Grade 2 day 3 embryos.  1 - Day 3, Grade 1 frosty saved.   BFP - 6dp3dt via FRER, Beta #1 - 110, Beta #2 175, Beta #3 - 348, Beta #4 - 2222!, Beta #5 - 4255.  Ultrasound (6w1d) - 2 heartbearts!  

    We lost our beautiful Twin baby girls on June 18, 2014.  Tavin Sara and Casey Elizabeth were born at 21 weeks gestation and were absolutely beautiful, precious, amazing babies.  We miss our daughters every day and love them with all our hearts.

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  • JGYJGY member

    Professional and intense training for our dog so that our lives might be a bit easier and he might hear more words of praise than criticism.

    College fund.

    Home repairs.

    Backyard redesign w/patio and deck and landscaping that is dog friendly and low maintenance.

    Professional organization help at home.

    God forbid, a small vacation?

    I hate to say it, but $100k can go pretty quickly!  ;)

     

    Married to my amazing wife 6/12/10 
    TTC since 6/11
    Unmedicated IUI #1 - 6/28/11 - BFN
    Unmedicated IUI #2 - 7/25/11 - BFN
    Robotic Myomectomy (Fibroid Surgery) - 11/15/11
    Unmedicated IUI #3 - 4/24/12 - BFN 
    Progesterone Supported Leuteal Phase IUI #4 - 6/21/12 - BFP!!
    Baby Boy G Born 3/24/13

    On to #2, are we crazy?
    IUI #1 - 11/28/14 - BFP!  Beta #1 (11DPO) 34, Beta #2 (13DPO) 101, Beta #3 (20DPO) 3043
    Ultrasound at 6w4d shows a single, fluttering heartbeat.  Say hello to Sticky Ricki!

     

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    I think I would use $60k to pay down student loans (it wouldn't pay them off entirely, but it would take care of a nice chunk that is remaining). Then I would sock away $10k to extend my maternity leave, and then the other $30k would go into savings for a down payment for our next house.

    As @JGY said, $100k goes fast. I would really need like $300-500k to do anything that would be remotely life changing even on a smaller scale. Which is sad, but it is reality.

    With that said, I would happily accept the $100k and would love to be able to do the three things that I listed... especially funding a slightly longer maternity leave...

    Me - 30, My wife - 31 , Together for 10 yrs - Married August 2012

    5 medicated IUIs w/ RE (March - July 2013) = BFN

    Fresh IVF Cycle in September 2013 resulted in 18 mature eggs, 16 fertilized, 12 made it to day 5. Transfer of 2 Grade A blastocysts on 9/15/13, and 10 embryos in the freezer!      *****BFP on 9/25/13 - betas: @10dp5dt = 232; @12dp5dt = 465; @15dp5dt = 1,581   *********William George born June 4, 2014*********
  • I completely agree that $100,000 although it's a fairly large lump sum it gets spent way too easily.  I kind of like that it's just enough to try to cover needs and a little bit of a want :)
  • Finish our basement

    Use it for more time for both my wife and I to take off after the baby is born

    Save the rest for traveling around the world and college educations


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  • My student loans are hefty and while $100,000 would pay off a good chunk, I think I would use it otherwise. I would pay off both of our SUVs, pay off our house and then put a sizeable down payment on our neighbor's house and property so that we could have the full 2 acres of land.

    Me: 30  DW (aka C): 29

    Together since 2/15/11 ~ Legally married in NY on 9/29/12

    ***CP mentioned***

    We've been working on baby #1 since July 2013 using Open ID donor sperm.  8 IUI attempts with 5 actual IUIs and one chemical pregnancy.  We have one fresh IVF cycle under our belts as well as a FET.  I have endometriosis and a uterine septum that was corrected via surgery in November 2013. 

    11/14/14 -  Second HSG shows that tubes are still clear and ute is looking good. 

    12/6/14 - Started BCPs in prep for IVF #2

    12/22/14 - Saline u/s and endometrial scratch (All was clear and OUCH!)

    1/2/15 - Began stimming for IVF #2

     ****All Welcome!****

    We are Mommas to four fur babies - 3 dogs and 1 cat.

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  • Pay off Z's student loans, which is about $9,000

    Use for down payment for next house - $30,000

    College fund for kiddos (eventually want a second) - $40,000

    Give some to Z's parents - $10,000

    Use the rest for a little bit of fun - maybe some redecorating or elaborate vacation - $11,000

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  • IVF or adoption! Whatever it takes! Then with what's left, pay off Sarah's student loans, buy our forever home, go back to school to get a graphic design career going. Music is my passion, but teaching in NC is makin me hate TEACHING music.

    Of course put money aside for kids tuition too. :)

    If any money is left I would take Sarah back to Punta Cana for a week and celebrate our anniversary where we tied the knot!


    10 medicated IUI's (3 with injectables). 
    IUI #1 (medicated) Jan. 2013-BFP!!!!- Beta's didn't double, MTX shot for possible ectopic.
    8 IUI's between April 13-April 14 = BFN 
    IUI #10 and final before IVF, injectables May 2014- BFP!!!!  TWINS!!!!

    7 week ultrasound showed 2 wonderful heartbeats!
    8 weeks to the ER with vaginal bleeding while on vacations!  Diagnosed SubChorionic Hemorrhage.  Babies are both great.
    9 week ultrasound showed both babies are still great.
  • Boring - pay off student loans and some credit card debt Boring - pay off student loans and some credit card debt. Get our house rewired and take a sweet vacation. If there was anything left, I'd put it in our emergency fund, which is not currently as cushy as I'd like!
    Married my wife 8/2007 ~ TTC #1 since 7/2011
    9 IUIs = 9 BFNs
    IVF October 2012: 22 eggs retrieved, 17 fertilized, 5 frozen
    ET #1: 1 blast = BFP; Blighted ovum discovered at 7w5d; D&E
    FET #1: 1 blast = BFP; Missed m/c discovered at 9w5d; D&E
    Karyotyping: normal ~ RPL Testing: normal ~ Hysteroscopy: normal
    FET #2: 1 blast transferred 10/25; BFP 10/31!
    EDD 7/13/14 ~ Induced at 37w4d due to pre-eclampsia ~ Born on 6/28/14
    *Everyone welcome*

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  • I think I would use it as a nice sizeable downpayment on our next house and then rent the one that we just bought out. It would enable us to move to where we want to live and use this property as another income. I'd probably also use some of it as a car downpayment and do a small vacation somewhere warm.
    IUI #1 - 10 April 2012 unmonitored and unmedicated with RE 
    IUI #2 - 05 May 2012 unmonitored and unmedicated with RE 
    IUI #3 - 05 July 2012 unmonitored and unmedicated with RE 
    IUI #4 - 30 August 2012 medicated and monitoredLetrozole and Ovidrel Trigger 
    IUI #5 - 27 September 2012 Letrozole 
    BFP! 9 October 2012 Betas:- 12DPO 16; 16DPO 96; 18DPO 315

    Baby Alarico born on 28 June 2013!!


  • 1. New roof: $6000
    2. Dormer on our house!: $50K
    3. Create an ER fund: $10K

    While you all might think us odd, J and I don't mix money! We just kinda never did - so honestly I have no idea if she has any debt, but if so, we'd pay that off. The rest I'd say we'd put into her coffeeshops!
    Lil'mamaz was born on Aug 21, 2014! She's PERFECT!

    It's been a long road to here...
    Me (43) and J (45) - same sex couple. And we don't feel 40+!
    June'12 - First RE Visit
    Sept. '12 - Tubes removed
    Dec. '12 - Donor Egg/Donor Sperm IVF Cycle - 4 good embies!
    Dec. '12 - Fresh transfer, BFP! EDD 8/29/13
    Mar. '13 - Missed m/c at 16w1d, baby boy stopped growing at 15w4d
    Loss due to umbilical cord clot...baby was perfect. :(
    Jul '13 - FET#1 - c/p
    Sept. '13 - FET#2 - BFN
    Dec.' 2, 2013 - FET#3 with our last chance embie - BFP!!!
    Dec' 26, 2013 - hb!!
    EDD 8/20/14 with a baby girl!
    Little S was born on 8/21/14 - 8lb, 14 oz and 20 inches long.
    We live in Seattle and used SRM for our donor egg IVF cycle


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  • Tough question.....

    What I should do - put it toward my student loans. Combined we own a house. It's terrible

    What I would do is invest it and probably pay off our house in Roatan.

    What I'd like to do is pay of smaller debts (car payments, etc.) to free up cash flow and make our life more comfortable.  Then put the rest (over $50,000) in savings so I'd feel more secure and then enjoy thinking about what we "could" do with that money.  But not touch it - until my RE business was bringing in a steady income.

    .....Now if only I had $100,000.......


  • Minivan for the Rockies--$25,000
    Pay off @Manada's student loan (so we'd only have mine to worry about)--$25,000
    Babymoon to Hawaii (not realistic it seems even if we could afford it since M says we can't get travel insurance to the states with a twin pregnancy--this could cause some non-Hawaii problems)---$6,000-8,000

    Put $2500 into an account to fund 5 days-a-week dog walking for the first 6 months after childbirth.

    Give my parents $10,000

    Put the rest into savings to top-up and extend parental leave.
    ****loss discussed*****

    We're queer. I'm 33, have severe stage 4 endo, and had both fallopian tubes removed. My love ("Manada" on the boards, 32) was diagnosed with diminished ovarian reserve. We did Partner IVF (my eggs, her uterus). We lost our twins Tavin and Casey at 21 weeks gestation.

    Our IUIs
    with @Manada: IUI# 1-7 (December 2012- September 2013) all BFN. Tried natural, femara, clomid, puregon/follistim, clomid and menopur combo, both the ovidrel and HCG triggers.

    Our IVFs:
    IVF #1 my eggs November/December 2013: Cancelled IVF due to poor response

    IVF #2 my eggs/Manada's uterus January/February 2014
    BCPs and lupron overlap Stimmed: 1/22-2/2: Bravelle and Menopur (dosage ranged from B300 and M150 to B375 and M150 to B300 and M225)
    2/4 retrieved 10 eggs. Endo was much worse than expected. Only 3 eggs fertilized; February 7 transferred two day 3 embryos, froze one. All great condition.
    BFP eve of 6dp3dt; Beta 1 (11dp3dt): 110; Beta 2 (13dp3dt): 175; Beta 3 (15dp3dt): 348; Beta 4 (19dp3dt): 2222; Beta 5 (21dp3dt): 4255
    1st ultrasound (3/6  6w 1d): TWINS!!!! Twin A measuring 6w1d with a heartbeat of 118bpm. Twin B measuring 6w0d with a heartbeat of 113bpm. 

    ***July 18, 2014 we lost our beautiful babies at 21 weeks gestation. They were born too early. Tavin Sara T. and Casey Elizabeth T. are beautiful and precious and we will love them and miss them forever.***

    FET #1 December 2014
    Intralipid infusion on Dec 10. Transfer of 1 day 3 nine-cell embryo into my uterus on Dec. 19. (acupuncture immediately before and after)
    BFP on Dec. 27; Beta 1 Jan 2 (14dp3dt): 665, Beta 2 Jan 4 (16dp3dt): 1859, Beta 3 Jan 6 (18dp3dt): 4449, Beta 4 Jan 10 (22dp3dt): 12,251.



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  • I'd want to put it toward the down payment on our next place. Our current place is too small for the two kids we plan to have (some of you might think it's too small for one kid - it's 510 sq ft), but it would make a killer rental property so we don't want to sell.

    Me: 28 DW: 28

    Together since 5/30/02. Married since 8/31/08

    IUI#1 - 12/13/13 = BFN

    IUI#2 - 1/22/14 = BFN

    IUI#3 - 2/21/14 = BFN

    IUI#4 - 3/23/14

  • We'd pay off our debt and what's left will apply to my student loans. It wouldn't really put too much of a dent into the student loans, but it would be something!

    TTC our first. Married to, and madly in love with, my beautiful wife. Living with our fur baby and enjoying 19 nieces and nephews. 
    • DW and I have been tracking, preparing, getting medical testing since January 2013.
    • First Cycle: Unmedicated ICI w/ Donor Sperm 08/02/13: BFN
    • Second Cycle: Unmedicated ICI w/ Donor Sperm 09/11/13, 09/13/13, 09/15/13: BFN
    • Third Cycle: Unmedicated ICI w/ Donor Sperm: 10/13/13, 10/15/13, 10/17/13, 10/21/13: BFN
    • January 2014: Sonohysterogram shows excellent lining & tubes have no blockages
    • Fourth Cycle:  Monitored clomid cycle  w/ ICI's at home: 1/24/14 and 1/25/14. Ovulation verified:  BFN
    • Fifth Cycle: 02/2014 Femara 5mg with ovidrel trigger CD14: BFN
    • Taking a few months off to evaluate if we want to keep trying


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  • Partner IVF, new car, down payment I a house. If there was any left we would probably find a worthy charity... We have found too much money complicates things for us.

    Baby Hayden Frances born 12/20/14 at 11:11 a.m...  Our perfect little miracle.  Here's how we got here:

    My lovely wife:

    5 IUI's January 2013-June 2013- 3 Cycles with Clomid- BFN

     

    Myself: Genderqueer guy who hopped in the driver's seat of the baby making train

    IUI #6- 7/23- Monitored and Trigger on Day 12, with one 16mm follicle and one 18mm follicle- BFN

    IUI #7- 8/21- Not monitored, 50mg Clomid- BFN

    September and October: Missed Cycles due to vacation and a Half Marathon

    IUI #8- Monitored and triggered on day 15, with one 23x18mm follicle- BFN on 11/19/2013

    December:  Moved onto to see an RE to make a good plan.

    IUI #9- 1/1/2014 Natural Cycle, BFP on 1/15/2014,  6W Ultra-Sound Reveals nothing in Gestation Sack... Natural M/C at 7W, 2/3/2014

    IUI #10 3/21/2014- Natural Cycle- BFP on 4/1/2014 (please don't be an April Fools.  Beta #1 13dpiui- 48, Beta #2 16dpiui- 416, Beta #3 1018...

    1st Ultrasound- 4/22/2014- 6w4d HB- 134!

    Check out my Blog at: http://pregnantboithinksoutloud.blogspot.com/ 

  • I am with the majority here... Pay off student loans, start a college fund for the kiddos, and take our dream vacay to the South Pacific, bora bora, ect
    Same sex couple, Married 8/6/11
    Baby Oliver born 11/27/13

    TTC stats with donor sperm...
    IUI #1 with trigger, 1/4/13 - BFN
    IUI #2 with trigger, 2/1/13 BFN
    IUI #3 with tigger, 2/28/12 BFP EDD 11/21/13
  • ByrrdByrrd member
    OH, man, do I wish I had 100k!  I would put a sizable down payment on a house, buy a new car, and pay off some debt. Oh and I would get all of my dental work taken care of so that I could have a pretty smile for once in my life! 
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  • I'm really excited that so many people responded :)  I'd end up spending the money just like most of you said... bills. 

    N's college fund - $20,000
    pay a good chunck of B's student loans - $20,000
    put towards mortgage - $40,000
    savings - $10,000
    and then with the final $10,000 I'd like to take a trip to France with B and N
  • A huge chunk to the kids' college savings (which is scarce right now!), pay down some debt (though stopping the private school tuition bill each month is going to help that soon!), a trip to Disney (I've been dying to take the kids for years), and pay off the last teeny bit on my car so it was done (it'll be done in  4 months.)
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