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October 2013 Moms
RedZee
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nanny - WDYT?
RedZee
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Since I'm WFH, I have to spend a lot of time with the nanny. She's a young and immature 20 year old. She said she had experience with babies, as did her references, but I'm learning that she knows nothing about babies. Fine, I can teach her about nap time and stuff like that since I'm around.
BUT, 2 days ago I was showing her how to give the baby a bath. We have a thermometer that you put in the water so you know it's not too hot or cold. I told her that you had to be able to see the temperature on the thermometer. She said, "Why?" I said, "So that it's not too hot or too cold." She said, "Why?" I said, "So the baby doesn't get too hot or too cold."
Yesterday, she took the baby to story time and called me when she got there saying there was no way to go inside because of the steps (she had the stroller). Instead of asking someone, she called me at work.
Later, I took her to my friend's house for a playdate because they have kids the same age as mine and also have a babysitter. LO had fallen asleep in the infant carseat. It was at most 30F out. She asked, "Should we just leave her here?" My jaw dropped and I said, "No. Why would you ask that?" Nanny: "Because she's sleeping. I don't know how long we're going to be there." Me: "There is never a time when you will leave the baby in the car by herself." Her: "Oh. My mom used to do that to me. I woke up once by myself and started freaking out." Me: "That's another reason why it's not something we do."
Major red flags? Would you look for someone else? Think it's under the domain of things you can teach?
I think she has no common sense and I'm worried about letting her take my kids anywhere and about her being alone with them. Don't know if I'm just a nervous mom and overreacting though.
BUT, 2 days ago I was showing her how to give the baby a bath. We have a thermometer that you put in the water so you know it's not too hot or cold. I told her that you had to be able to see the temperature on the thermometer. She said, "Why?" I said, "So that it's not too hot or too cold." She said, "Why?" I said, "So the baby doesn't get too hot or too cold."
Yesterday, she took the baby to story time and called me when she got there saying there was no way to go inside because of the steps (she had the stroller). Instead of asking someone, she called me at work.
Later, I took her to my friend's house for a playdate because they have kids the same age as mine and also have a babysitter. LO had fallen asleep in the infant carseat. It was at most 30F out. She asked, "Should we just leave her here?" My jaw dropped and I said, "No. Why would you ask that?" Nanny: "Because she's sleeping. I don't know how long we're going to be there." Me: "There is never a time when you will leave the baby in the car by herself." Her: "Oh. My mom used to do that to me. I woke up once by myself and started freaking out." Me: "That's another reason why it's not something we do."
Major red flags? Would you look for someone else? Think it's under the domain of things you can teach?
I think she has no common sense and I'm worried about letting her take my kids anywhere and about her being alone with them. Don't know if I'm just a nervous mom and overreacting though.
DD1: born 1/19/11. DD2: born 10/10/13
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Re: nanny - WDYT?
She's good playing with the kids, but that's about it. And that's fine for when I'm home, but I will have to go to the office soon.
The rest of the time, she thinks we're girlfriends and wants to tell me all about her obsession with Taylor Swift. So in general, I find her kind of annoying but that's not necessarily a reason to fire someone who seems to be trying hard.
She just told me Russia declared war on the US. ::headdesk::
She sounds like an ok babysitter but not a full time nanny. It's not your fault don't feel bad but again I would cut the strings now.
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LO then (2 days) and now (1 year)
Franco Paul born 6/4/15 at 39 weeks. Mila Francesca born 10/19/13 at 37 weeks. Both born via C-Section after 6 years of fertility treatments, disappointments and losses. Love them!!
She doesn't have to be Mary freaking Poppins but she can't make it harder for you or put the kids in danger.
Sorry that sucks. Good luck with the next one.
9/13/12 BFP 9/25/12 M/C at 6.5 weeks
***All AL'ers Welcome***
So how do you give the boot? I've never fired someone and hate this kind of confrontation.
Just tell her it's not working and to leave. Tell her now don't wait because there is no telling how the rest of the day will go.
Hey Nanny, you can go home. I am not going to be needing your services. This isn't working out for me. You do a great job PLAYING with LO but I don't think you have enough experience working with a baby. Here's the $ I owe you, good luck.
9/13/12 BFP 9/25/12 M/C at 6.5 weeks
***All AL'ers Welcome***
Franco Paul born 6/4/15 at 39 weeks. Mila Francesca born 10/19/13 at 37 weeks. Both born via C-Section after 6 years of fertility treatments, disappointments and losses. Love them!!
Besides references, why did you choose her? I always look for someone who is mature and is focused on my kids, not looking at their phones for a text. Next time hire with a trial period and set rules and expectations. Just because you are there does not mean you should have to supervise her. Are you paying less because you are home?
DH is talking to her right now. He wants to raise the concerns with her first and start looking for someone else. It has sort of been a trial period anyway - we told her if I couldn't get work done I'd have to go to the office (edit - and if I go to the office, we'd put the baby in daycare).
9/13/12 BFP 9/25/12 M/C at 6.5 weeks
***All AL'ers Welcome***
And I've totally been calling het dumb dumb in my head!!!
Thanks for all the support!