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WWYD: SIL instead of Nanny

Mrs.Salt&PepperMrs.Salt&Pepper member
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So, I haven't posted here in a while but I know you ladies would be the best ones to ask. 

I have been interviewing nannies, as I will be going back to work mid-April. I had a nanny before, when I only had one daughter, but now I have two and that nanny works for another family. The going rate in my area for two kids is between $13-$15. I was offering $15, because I like the nanny to follow a schedule each day, and perform light housekeeping. 

Now, my husband's sister is laid off for 3 months while her place of work is being renovated. She could use some extra money, and I do trust her with my kids. If anything were to ever happen to my husband or myself, she is the one who would take over custody of my girls. I do have some concerns though. She has a 10-month old, who she would be bringing with her to my house. She has a very different parenting style than I do. I guess you could say I am rigid, but I like my girls to follow a routine and take naps when they are supposed to and what not, she is more of a go-with-the-flow, if he naps great, if he doesn't oh well, kind of attitude. However, I know if I asked her to follow the routines I have in place for the girls, she would, she would probably just be rolling her eyes as she did them :)

Also, I will not be asking her to do any housekeeping. 

So my question is, what should I offer to pay her? She's bringing her son, and won't be doing any housekeeping. FYI my girls will be 3yo and 3 months at the time I go back to work. TIA!
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  • jf198400jf198400 member
    I would probably offer $13/hr. Sounds like the situation will work since it is short-term. I probably would not want this to be a permanent situation.
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  • Mrs.Salt&PepperMrs.Salt&Pepper member
    I forgot to mention, I am a teacher, and I will only need someone for 3 months, and then I am going to re evaluate whether to keep my kids home with a nanny, or send them to daycare/preschool in the Fall. 

    I appreciate your responses so far. 
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    Mrs.Salt&Pepper said:
    I forgot to mention, I am a teacher, and I will only need someone for 3 months, and then I am going to re evaluate whether to keep my kids home with a nanny, or send them to daycare/preschool in the Fall. 

    I appreciate your responses so far. 
    Oh, in this case, yes, I would probably use her too!

    If you want to pay $13, I htink that's fair.  But as she'll be watching her own child too- I do agree that paying a little less is fair too.  She's getting an added benefit.
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  • SunAndRainSunAndRain member

    Cost aside, this doesn't seem like a good fit. You are regimented, she is free spirited.

    Your long-term relationship with her is more important that 3 months' of her salary.

    If this is your only option then I'd pay $13 and be prepared to let go of your strict schedule expectations.

     

    Good luck!!

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  • brachysirabrachysira member
    I'd do it and try to pay $12. 
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