Coming Into Your Bed

twinkletoes3126 · March 2014

So almost every night my son ends up in our bed. I'm not really sure how it happened but it's gotten to the point where he wakes up every night around midnight and sleeps with us the rest of the night. Anyone else in the same boat?

SJandVA · March 2014

Not DD2 but DD1 slept in our bed for the first few years. It's not what I intended or planned on. But it's just the kind baby she was. Thankfully DD2 is better.

twinkletoes3126 · March 2014

SJandVA said:

Not DD2 but DD1 slept in our bed for the first few years. It's not what I intended or planned on. But it's just the kind baby she was. Thankfully DD2 is better.

How did DD1 end up leaving your bed? Was it your choice or hers? I am having a hard time figuring out when and how this will end.

skooz · March 2014

Glad I'm not the only one! Ours started when we were out of town for about a month and we were sleeping in the same bed during that time. The best I've gotten since we've been home is she goes to bed in her bed (toddler bed now) and comes to bed with me around 11-12. I actually kind of like it because DH has been gone most of the last year. Not sure how things are going to play out when he gets home.

SJandVA · March 2014

LaurenAnthony2009 said:

SJandVA said:

Not DD2 but DD1 slept in our bed for the first few years. It's not what I intended or planned on. But it's just the kind baby she was. Thankfully DD2 is better.

How did DD1 end up leaving your bed? Was it your choice or hers? I am having a hard time figuring out when and how this will end.

I wish I had a good answer for this. It just really depends on the child. We kept trying to have her sleep in her bed. It just really happened by its self and on her own time. She was 3. It really is her personality, she is still the same way today. While it was challenging and stressful at times I wouldn't have done it differently.
Now with DD2, she is completely different. Around December she started sleeping in our bed. She would scream every time I put her down. One night I was so stressed out I put her in her crib and walked away. Came back 15 minutes later she was asleep. I couldn't believe it because DD1 NEVER would have done that. Now she's been in her crib all night ever since.
I think you have to decide what you are ok with. If you don't mind him sleeping with you then let him. It won't last forever.

twinkletoes3126 · March 2014

SJandVA said:

LaurenAnthony2009 said:

SJandVA said:

Not DD2 but DD1 slept in our bed for the first few years. It's not what I intended or planned on. But it's just the kind baby she was. Thankfully DD2 is better.

How did DD1 end up leaving your bed? Was it your choice or hers? I am having a hard time figuring out when and how this will end.

I wish I had a good answer for this. It just really depends on the child. We kept trying to have her sleep in her bed. It just really happened by its self and on her own time. She was 3. It really is her personality, she is still the same way today. While it was challenging and stressful at times I wouldn't have done it differently.
Now with DD2, she is completely different. Around December she started sleeping in our bed. She would scream every time I put her down. One night I was so stressed out I put her in her crib and walked away. Came back 15 minutes later she was asleep. I couldn't believe it because DD1 NEVER would have done that. Now she's been in her crib all night ever since.
I think you have to decide what you are ok with. If you don't mind him sleeping with you then let him. It won't last forever.

He goes to bed in his crib, but he wakes up in the middle of the night and comes to our bed. I fear breaking him of this habit. My husband hates him coming in our bed but I don't really mind. He slept in his crib all night every night until around Christmas when this began. I just don't know what to do.

SJandVA · March 2014

@LaurenAnthony2009 if your DH isn't on board then you probably better try to make a change. What happens when he wakes up in middle of the night? Could you go rock him back to sleep and then put him back down? Do you let him cry for a few minutes or rush right in when he wakes up.
I'm sorry I'm not much help. Sleep is so hard.

twinkletoes3126 · March 2014

SJandVA said:
@LaurenAnthony2009 if your DH isn't on board then you probably better try to make a change. What happens when he wakes up in middle of the night? Could you go rock him back to sleep and then put him back down? Do you let him cry for a few minutes or rush right in when he wakes up.
I'm sorry I'm not much help. Sleep is so hard.

Thanks for listening to me! After about a month of him sleeping in our room we tried for a week straight of getting him to sleep in his room. It was exhausting. I felt like we had a newborn again because we was up 4 or 5 times in the night. We did exactly what we do to put him to bed (sleep lady shuffle) but it took forever for him to go back to sleep and wouldn't stay asleep. We caved after a week of this.
At this point we do go in right away when he wakes up and bring him straight to our bed. It's all so frustrating since he used to be a pretty good sleeper.

SJandVA · March 2014

I'm sorry. Sleep is the most frustrating part of parenting, at least for me. DD2 is better than my first but she isn't as easy as some babies I hear about. She's been doing great but tonight she has rebelled against her crib. I don't know what the problem is. I have put her down 3 times and each time she has screamed her head off. As my reward for making her scream, I have a wide awake child at midnight. Told you I wasn't much help. Haha Second time around and I still can't figure this stuff out.

twinkletoes3126 · March 2014

annieluvsjordan said:
I know it isn't going to work for everyone, but three things have revolutionized DDs sleep. Toddler bed, real pillow, and real blankets. She sleeps so so much better than she used to. Before that it was multiple wake ups and in and out of our bed. With us she wakes up every hour and "needs" boob because it's there and I'm there.

Thanks! It's worth a shot.

jenner77 · March 2014

This is us as well. Every night around 12-2 wakes up and gets in our bed. Everytime he gets sick it's a setback as well.

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