Date Night

Re: Date Night

• Lesly84 member

  March 2014

  We left him with my MIL for a few hours to catch a movie & dinner on Vday and although I don't 100% feel comfortable (but that's with anyone) with her it's mostly because she does not feel comfortable doing things. All she wants to do is hold him the whole time were gone & every time we have asked her to feed him while were here so she can get more comfortable and we can walk her threw it she tells a story of someone she knew who drowned there baby (keep in mind this was someone who left there child with the bottle unattended at only a few weeks old) she scares her self when there is no need. We know how important adult time is as well as grandma & baby bonding time so we make sure not to go too far or too long and always make sure she had her cell as well as us ours. She's here for another 2 weeks so we plan on going out one more time before she leaves. It's not easy to leave LO so try doing little outings at first maybe a quick dinner one time just to test the waters with family members.

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• agfox92 member

  March 2014

  I was nervous the first time we left lo with a sitter. No family around for me either so my dh (a high school teacher) had a former student sit. It was tough but I needed a date night. We do date night every week and now I can't wait for it each week. Not that I don't love my lo but it's good to get out and be around Dh and other adults. The first time is hardest but if it goes well then you feel more comfortable for next time.

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• tisunge602 member

  March 2014

  I see that you have edited your post so I wasn't able to read some parts that PPs referred to. I don't know why you would do that if you are looking for advice when you haven't even responded to anything PPs have said.

  
  

  Anyway, we first left LO with my MIL for a date night when he was two weeks old. Now we do it almost every week and have found that the one-on-one time is vital to our marriage.

  
  

  It was hard the first time but now I look forward to it! Just do it!

  
  

  
  

    
  
  
  

  
  

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• Jas723 member

  March 2014

  No unfortunately my father in law is highly allergic to my cat so they can't stay they are basically inseparable. They also do not live near us about an hour away. My parents might be an option they too live about an hour away without traffic.

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• ASmallWonder member

  March 2014

  I think you need to find a local sitter.  I'm assuming since you're uncomfortable leaving her with anyone that she isn't in daycare or I'd suggest asking one of the teachers to babysit or asking the parents for a recommendation.  Since I think that's not an option, ask friends for recommendations and if that also isn't an option, join a site like sitter city or care.  You can find babysitters, interview them and even have them come for a trial while you're home.  I promise that leaving your baby with people isn't as scary as it seems as long as you've done your homework and feel comfortable with the person you choose.

  Formerly known as elmoali

  
  

  
  

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