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nanabanana06 · March 2014

SO thinks it's weird that I help my mom out with her dog. Both my parents work full time and I SAH. I usually come over once every week or so to give their 5lb yorkie a good bath, brush, nail clip, and teeth cleaning. I also take him to the groomer every 6-8 weeks. I don't spend any money on him, but I do these things because I have the time and I know what I'm doing. When I'm not around to do these things Gimli goes months without a brushing and then I have to clean up the mess. He's my moms dog, but I've been taking care of him since I was 15. SO finds it weird I help my parents out with their dog. I tried explaining to him I do it because I love Gimli and my parents do not have the time for a lot of this.

Is it weird or is my SO just high on something?

willy_gert · March 2014

Both? Aren't you starting a vet tech program or something though? I would say it isn't weird given your history with the dog and your love of animals. It would be weird if you just started doing it one day or whatever.

Wanna come take care of my dog? Poor thing needs a good brushing and nail trim....

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theseaword · March 2014

I don't think it's weird at all.

nanabanana06 · March 2014

willy_gert said:

Both? Aren't you starting a vet tech program or something though? I would say it isn't weird given your history with the dog and your love of animals. It would be weird if you just started doing it one day or whatever.

Wanna come take care of my dog? Poor thing needs a good brushing and nail trim....

Yes, I am starting the vet tech program in the fall. I love animals. Gimli was always my moms dog, but I did all the work.

Also, sure! I'll be right over with my dremmel.

wiggyslilsis · March 2014

I don't think it is weird at all but I help my mom out with all sorts of things so maybe my view is skewed. I think it makes sense especially since you were doing those things since you were 15 anyway.

casholmes · March 2014

I think that's very nice of you. And I love that his name is Gimli, we had a schnauzer named Gandalf

nanabanana06 · March 2014

CTGirl30 said:

For once a week that seems a bit much to me for a tiny Yorkie - we just drop our dog at the groomer every 6 weeks and they do a bath / nail trim / cut her hair (she gets a lion cut). That seems like a lot to do every single week....

It's probably more like every 2 weeks, Ein gets a nail trim once a week. The clacking drives me nuts!

SpaceGirlSpiff · March 2014

I don't think it's weird, if you enjoy it and it's not hurting your ability to be present for your family's needs (Doesn't sound like it is).... doesn't cost you money... I don't see an issue.

Why exactly does he find it weird?

nanabanana06 · March 2014

SpaceGirlSpiff said:

I don't think it's weird, if you enjoy it and it's not hurting your ability to be present for your family's needs (Doesn't sound like it is).... doesn't cost you money... I don't see an issue.

Why exactly does he find it weird?

Cuz it's their dog and they should be doing these things. Not me. Which I get, but they work full time. Keeping up with a groomed yorkie is hard.

secretsout · March 2014

I don't think it is weird. If you like to do it, and it helps them out, and isn't hurting you financially or anything, then why not. I think it's nice of you. I might find the frequency a bit much, but my dog doesn't need a lot of brushing/combing.

Would he think it weird if you so something like mow their lawn for them, or if they babysit your kids? Is it specific to the dog, or because he thinks it's weird to help your family?

nanabanana06 · March 2014

jsgrl613 said:

I don't think it is weird. If you like to do it, and it helps them out, and isn't hurting you financially or anything, then why not. I think it's nice of you. I might find the frequency a bit much, but my dog doesn't need a lot of brushing/combing.

Would he think it weird if you so something like mow their lawn for them, or if they babysit your kids? Is it specific to the dog, or because he thinks it's weird to help your family?

No, just the dog. I do my moms hair too, but he doesn't find that weird. He does find me going to her house to clean is weird though. I only do that when someone like Nanny is coming to town though and Mom would totally come help clean my house in return.

angelashly · March 2014

Helping parents if you have time and want to help is never weird in my book

flyingsaucer · March 2014

It's been your dog since you were 15. So, not weird

jesuisfatiguee · March 2014

Another vote for nice and not weird. Also that your SO is jealous of the dog.

nanabanana06 · March 2014

mbenit4 said:

It's a nice thing to do. What's weird for me is you saying "they work full time!" I mean they have the time. Working full time doesn't mean you don't have time for things like this. They just don't do it cause you will.

Yeah. I get what your saying. I only said it that way, becuase they are normally too busy during the days to take Gimli to groomer drop offs. Since they work early ish hours. Plus, you guys are right. If I didn't do it the dog would never go to the groomer. My SO just doesn't understand these things. He doesn't do these types of things for his family.

Monkeybabe · March 2014

Team not weird.

ASmallWonder · March 2014

I'm team not weird but I also agree with @mbenit4 Working full time doesn't mean they can't care for the dog (find a groomer that has Saturday hours - it's what I've always done!) but that's not the point of your question, I know. I don't think it's weird that you love your parents and love the dog and can do this for them. If it was taking away from you taking care of something in your own life or they were mad if you couldn't continue it for some reason, that would be wrong.

Right now it seems like everyone is ok with it but your DH so too bad, so sad for him :-p

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