Mixed feelings about Circumcision..

HareemVaiyani · March 2014

So DS is 10 weeks old tomorrow and is due to be circumcised on Sunday. I saw a you tube video on the procedure last night and I am completely traumatized. I am Muslim by faith so its kind of compulsory in my religion for boys to have it done, but I know a lot of people do it otherwise too, I just don't know why. It just seems like torturing your baby for no apparent reason. I just don't know what to do or how to feel better about this whole situation. Perhaps if I knew why people go for this procedure for reasons other than religion, I may feel better..

notkateanymore · March 2014

Perhaps you should look for the old topics where we discussed this at length...

insertclevername · March 2014

I agree with using the search option or lurking a board that is having the discussion are your best options. Rice cereal, solids and sleep training are the current debate topics.

MaryJones02 · March 2014

Here's a great website with all the information you need:

https://www.quranicpath.com/misconceptions/circumcision.html

Allah created all human perfectly. There is no need for circumcision - indeed it is very harmful to the child.

In numerous Verses of the Qur'an, Allah tells us that He has created everything, including human beings, in the most perfect form. In the following verse, Allah explicitly states this with regards to the human creation:

"We have indeed created man in the 'best of moulds'." (Qur'an 95:4)

This means when a baby leaves the mother's womb, he or she is in the most perfect of shape down to the finest detail. Nothing needs alteration. With regards to the development of the baby, Allah states the following:

"Then We made the sperm into a clot of congealed blood; then of that clot We made a lump; then we made out of that lump bones and clothed the bones with flesh; then we developed out of it another creature. So blessed be Allah, the 'Best of all Creators!' " (Qur'an 23:14)

Notice that Allah states that He is the best creator - the resulting completed creation of the baby is thus in its optimal form.

In another verse, Allah states:

"The work of Allah who has 'perfected everything' (He created)." (Qur'an 27:88)

Also in three other Verses, in relation to human beings, Allah says the following:

"The One Who has 'perfected everything' He has created and began the creation of human beings from clay" (Qur'an 32:7)

"Allah is the One who made the Earth a habitat for you, and the sky as a structure, and He designed you, and has perfected your design." (Qur'an 40:64)

"Allah created the heavens and the Earth for a true purpose, He designed you, and has perfected your design. You will all return to Him." (Qur'an 64:3)

insertclevername · March 2014

I just realized that my first sentence in the above post is a grammatical nightmare. I don't care and am leaving it like that. My brain really has atrophied. By the time DS2 is one my brain will probably be the size of a birds.

2010weddinggal · March 2014

Op may I ask why you waited so long to get your lo circumsied?

mrsbamtastic · March 2014

^^ that was my question, too. It's a personal decision. Whatever you choose will be right. Whether you base your decision on science, faith, or simply what you think is best for your child, you will make the best choice. Get all the information you can and go from there.

HareemVaiyani · March 2014

This is going to be a rushed post I cant stay on my laptop very long and mobile bumping isn't my friend, and my LO is very colicky and very clingy!! We left it so late because he was really weak and dehydrated the first couple of weeks of his life. At 2 weeks there was that trip planned for the USA (couldn't really get out of that one either, long story.. might get the chance to share it sometime). Since we have been back we have been focusing on getting his weight up and I was waiting for my mum to come and stay with me so I can focus on the baby when we did go for it finally (she was on holiday and I felt like I would not have been able to cope on my own). I am sorry for not going to the old threads and I don't really mean to start a new debate here either. I just felt so over whelmed so I thought I share how I felt that's all. I do know how ever that DH is not going to budge on the matter and I will just have to convince myself to be a stronger person.

Apologies for grammar errors too.

mamaj1220 · March 2014

I don't know if this will make you feel better but we had DS done and he didn't cry. I was worried about it too and he did way better than I did!

HareemVaiyani · March 2014

Really!? That does make me feel better!! Thanks :d

BootsOrHearts · March 2014

Here's a good article about it. There's really no convincing medical reason to do it, so it's a matter of religious custom or personal preference, like you want him to look like Dad.

https://www.parents.com/baby/care/newborn/circumcision/?page=2

myeverything1203 · March 2014

I'm an MA and have helped the Dr with a couple of circumcisions...it isn't that bad (obviously it's sad...Bc they are crying and want their comfort zone...mom). They get numbed up and while the Dr does their thing we feed the babies sugar water...really the only reason they cry is Bc they are with strangers and their arms/legs are strapped in so they don't kick. it is a personal decision...but it really isn't "torture".

HareemVaiyani · March 2014

Thanks ladies my mind is somewhat at ease for now. Perhaps I should have stayed away from you tube..

thegosiers · March 2014

HareemVaiyani said:

Thanks ladies my mind is somewhat at ease for now. Perhaps I should have stayed away from you tube..

This. And avoid Dr. Google.

Chichigo · March 2014

thegosiers said:

HareemVaiyani said:

Thanks ladies my mind is somewhat at ease for now. Perhaps I should have stayed away from you tube..

This. And avoid Dr. Google.

These statements are the best advice ever.

penelopemaria · March 2014

I can give you my personal experience. When I was pregnant my DH and I agreed we would circumsize LO. When he was born however I too looked at YouTube videos and was horrified. I talked to my doctor and he said there is no medical reason and there appears to be a big shift away from circumcision in this generation. He says about 1/10 of his new babies are circumsized now. He also said he has seen some nasty complications from the procedures (rare). Therefore my DH and I decided not to do it.

That being said my cousin is a nurse and she circumsized her LO as she had seen men who become unable to care for themselves develop nasty infections and need to be circumsized at 60,70 or 80 years of age. Hopefully you'll be able to decide what's best for you and your LO.

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