Rant / Vent - bad day

Marigold6912 · March 2014

I just need to vent for a moment because I am really frustrated at how inconsiderate others can be sometimes. I will be married two years soon and all I ever hear from everyone is "when are you going to get pregnant?" "What are you waiting for?" "Don't you want to have a baby?" Is it just me or do others not consider that you may have been trying to do just that the past two years and it hurts every time someone brings up the fact that you are not indeed pregnant. Sorry ladies for the rant just having a bad day

jencity9 · March 2014

Yeah sometimes it's surprising how much people don't realize what they're doing. I'm sorry you're having a bad day. I have been there! And still am sometimes lol. It's crazy but I used to tell people I just wasn't even sure if that's what I wanted even though in actuality I wanted it more than anything!! Now I'm honest though.

Marigold6912 · March 2014

Yeah I haven't really been open with anyone yet besides a close friend and my mother. Tomorrow we have our first appt with an RE so I'm hoping we receive some help that will put us in the right direction!

EssJayCee · March 2014

I'm so sorry you are feeling pressure around you. It can be hard not to want to punch people in the ute when they ask questions like that

I've been having a bit of a down day, too... hopefully we both pull out of it soon!

Sigh202 · March 2014

Hugs. Depending on how irritating the question is I respond that my womb is not a topic open for discussion or say that we will have kids 9 months after I get pregnant. We've been married 8 years, it's fairly obvious that we are having issues.

dltst37 · March 2014

These questions definitely sting. One positive thing about IF is that it has helped me to realize that I have no idea what someone else is going through so to keep my mouth shut.

kaynix21 · March 2014

Ugh sorry people are making you feel so crappy.

GL at your appt!

hope2bmom83 · March 2014

I have thought so hard about coming "out" for this very reason. DH had 2 cousins married the same year as us. They both now have babies, and both couples are at least 5 years younger than us. DH made me go see the most recently born baby back around Christmas. While we were there DHs aunt (the mother of the cousins and gm of the babies) said when are you two going to have a baby. I said oh I don't know maybe sometime next year. Aunt then says, "well you better get at it hes what about to be 34 hes probably shooting blanks." Yes Dear Aunt because no man over the age of 35 can procreate right? It is so frustrating. Oh well what are you gonna do. If anything we can all say we know IF has made us some strong bad ass women!

Kam10 · March 2014

hope2bmom83 said:

If anything we can all say we know IF has made us some strong bad ass women!

I completely agree with this statement. Although I would never wish IF on ANYONE, I can say that because of it I have become a more courageous, strong, understanding, bad ass woman! Too bad not everyone understands and we have to hear stupid comments all the time.

So sorry you had to deal with inconsiderate people OP.

tklouda · March 2014

I totally feel your pain! It happens to me at least once a week. One day I will just scream "WE ARE TRYING!!!!" Haha!
Last week I came home and burst into tears (thanks, artificial hormones!) because after my furnace went out one day, a co-worker said I'd be popping out a baby nine months from that day after such a cold night. My first thought was "nope, according to my BBT, OPK and CM I'm not ovulating," and then I thought how envious I was of people who don't have to keep track of that kind of stuff...
I usually am not this sensitive, but I think the pressure just cracks you every once in awhile. I'm so thankful to have you understanding ladies to talk to!

theholmanherd · March 2014

Our 2 yr anniversary was in November, and we are in a small town going to a church locally. EVERYONE asks us when we are going to have kids and then proceeds to tell us it's good we're waiting because we should have a house or whatever first.

We are saving for a house and we've been trying for over a year. BUT thanks.

pennyorthmann · March 2014

Hi, I'm new here and I just wanted to say I feel for you. I usually tell people bluntly I have trouble with it, then I add that I don't want to talk about it and I've never had a problem with that response. People usually just say they're sorry and change the subject.

Marigold6912 · March 2014

Thank you so much for the responses (sorry I just got a chance to log on now and check). Our first appt went well, we both need to go for bloodwork and my DH has to repeat his SA. If his count comes back as low on this test then we have to discuss options. We are thinking most likely IUI which is what my ob/gyn and the urologist had suggested as well as the RE depending on our results.

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