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GrandSmother

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Got some more knitted sweaters from BD's mom. They're... Interesting... And I had to make sure I went out of my way to thank her because if I don't (you know, because I'm busy taking care of an infant, on my own. Since her son decided to run off), she'll drunk email me again about how I don't appreciate anything.

I try so hard to be as appreciative as she wants me to be but it's so hard. She talks to me about BD and I'm like "um, yeah, please stop." And then she gets upset. I really wish I had never told her and just let the break up be a break up and never talk to that family again!!

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  • 20thirteen20thirteen member
    Haha, she's smothering from FL. She only schedules visits when she's planning on visiting IL. :) but she sends mail almost weekly. I still have to have a talk with her about alcohol and drinking in front of DD, I can't imagine how that convo is going to go but I also need to let her know about how *I* am to be the one to tell her about her father even though I know XMIL is going to flip out with that.
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  • MinnesotaMomma91MinnesotaMomma91 member
    Im sorry you are frustrated. Im not frustrated for bds mom to find out because there is two possible reactions i could expect from her.

    1. Sunning, which if im being honest wouldnt be aweful. That woman is such a drama queen i dont want her drama.

    2. Grandsmothering from oregon. That woman pulls the strings in that family. If she says shun bentley they shun bentley. If she says get visitation they or joint custody she will pay for the lawyer. Would demand skyping and facebooking daily.

    However weve never gotten along evenwhen bd and i were friends. She had to be in control of him and his friends and id shut her down when she tried to control me.
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    Yeah, she wants to Skype and even bought a webcam for me so that she can Skype with DD and thinks I'm lying that I never got it. I never did, and they said they're sending another one... So... That... ~_~
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    Holy god. Bf says well just add bentleys grandma on his skype so that he can say ooh shes not here. She has no skype.
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    Wow. I don't have drunk ILs, but my MIL is a "hand in all her kids cookie jars" type of mom. She likes to stir shit up, but honestly means well. They have showed me a lot of love and support through this. My FIL even said he doesn't care if A gets remarried down the road, I will still be his DIL. MIL with her meddlesome ways, likes to call and tell me what she thinks is wrong with her son. LOL 
    I *may* be moving in with my SIL and I had to set a boundary that MIL doesn't get updates on me and H that SIL may be privy to. Good luck setting your own boundaries.

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  • MinnesotaMomma91MinnesotaMomma91 member
    I like having half a country between me and bds mom. Also, theres not much on my facebook to bitch about.

    Whose that hoodlum with the long hair and the lip ring? Oh you know jist my bf, bentleys sd

    Whose that bitch with half her head shaved? I went to school with her
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    She doesn't ask me about my friends, she has a lot of BD's friends and ex-gf's of his on her facebook.  She did ask me a while ago about a picture of DD with a bib that said "daddy's girl" on it, asking if my BF and I were getting serious. That curbed her from talking about BD to me for a while.  She has met my BF and she seems to like him. I don't think she'll push BD and I to get back together ever, I mean, I hope she doesn't because the whole 4 years that him and I dated, she would approach me and say "you know you can do better, right?".  But talking to me about him at all infuriates me.  I don't GIVE A FUCK. He's a tool and I know he's your son, but he's a piece of shit who, instead of being a man, decided to cheat and run off.  I don't care if we broke up and decided whether or not he wanted to be in her life.  I would've been fine (I hope that isn't a lie) if that was the case.  But no, he began DATING behind my back, and then told me he couldn't be a father, all the while parenting another kid. 

    Sorry, that still makes me mad. I made the decisions I made because I knew he wouldn't fight for anything.  Because in all the 4 years that we dated, the one thing I know for sure, is that kid has no god damn backbone.  He acts all tough and talks about how he can defend himself, but really, that kid folds so easily.  That's one thing I want to teach my daughter.  I want to make sure when she goes off into the world, she's got the skills to stand up and defend herself, and to fight for what is right for her.
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  • MinnesotaMomma91MinnesotaMomma91 member
    Ds grandma didnt like me when him and i were hooking up because i was standing between bd and a reconsiling. Yup, it was all me. Had nothing to do with the other five girls he was fucking and her other boy friends.
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    Yeah, where I live, since BD and I never married, she doesn't have rights until (I believe this is how it read) BD takes a paternity test and is established as the father of DD.
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  • MinnesotaMomma91MinnesotaMomma91 member
    Yeah, since we live states away from each other and they have no relationship with ds there are no grandparent rights.

    I like bentleys paternal grandpa. My friend and i joke aroundthats hes just a hostage. I would love for bentley and his grandpa to have a relationship.

    And to be fair, as far as crazies go bds family isnt that bad. They are safe people with a safe house. I wouldnt be scared for bentley to spend time with them.
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