T & P's please

TheLittleRedM · March 2014

DH and I have been having issues for awhile now and in the last couple weeks it's gotten...not great. We're good at pretending things are okay for the most part (read: we don't talk about our fights) but today was basically the last straw.

Basically, it boils down to his PTSD and it finally sinking in that he is dealing with depression and it's not whatever excuse he's been giving himself the last few months.

He's finally decided that he needs to talk to our marriage counselor about getting private sessions and even finding some anger management courses because his anger is getting out of control. He gets shaky from getting angry so easily and today he threw a toy down and thank god it didn't go near Noah who was sitting in front of him but it scared Noah into crying even harder.

He's also struggling more and more with going out of the house. Even the dog park, which use to be safe place for him, is no longer something he's comfortable doing and he gets anxiety over it.

Anyway, I guess what I'm asking is some thoughts and prayers be sent his way while he works this out.

I've looked into various animal therapy programs and I'm seriously considering seeing if he and his doctor feel like he is a good candidate for TADSAW which is a program that works with active duty and vets suffering with PTSD, other mental issues, and physical disabilities and trains them up with a dog (either one in the home or from a shelter) so that they have a service animal. Luckily for us, there is a program in place back home that works with TADSAW.

jennipalmer · March 2014

My thoughts are with you and happy he is wanting to seek help

ljs4117 · March 2014

I'm sorry

I do not have PTSD (just depression here! Lol) but wanted to say from my POV that it's so amazing that you're being such a great support for him and that you're taking him getting help seriously. He is a lucky man! I hope that he responds to whatever method you all decide to go with well and that you both get some relief.
Remember we are always here to support you. I hope we hear some positive updates in the future!

stephyfaith · March 2014

Prayers for you guys!

TheLittleRedM · March 2014

Thank you so much ladies

I'm hoping that he gets the thumbs up from his doctor to apply for the service dog. I really hope that if he gets it and gets accepted that our bigger dog (his dog) can pass inspection to be trained as his service animal since he's already bonded with her so much.

jackson290721 · March 2014

I'm so sorry! Giant hugs!

I would encourage him to talk to someone in his unit. So many people suffer from PTSD, it's not at all uncommon. It helps to have someone to talk to that has been through the same kind of stuff.

I'm so glad he is willing to seek private counseling. That is a huge step.

I hope he can find ways to work through this. I hope you both come out of this stronger together.

Giant hugs! PTSD is an awful mind fuck.

summerchild · March 2014

Thoughts and prayers your way!

LauraB1016 · March 2014

Thoughts and prayers. PTSD is an awful thing and I am so glad that he is willing to get the help of an individual counselor.

hollandmama · March 2014

I'll remind you in my prayers. You are a great wife and I am sure you will work things out

the program sounds really interesting, I hope he gets the green light.

fabk · March 2014

Big hugs! Thinking of you guys!

atlvol · March 2014

T&P! I'm glad that he is seeking help.

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RoRo10733 · March 2014

Hugs and thinking of you!

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Thinking of you all.

Pink724 · March 2014

Thinking of you both.

TheLittleRedM · March 2014

Thank you ladies.
@etoille She is 2 at the end of the month. We actually discussed it and we aren't sure she'd pass because she is super timid even in familiar surroundings with new people.
@robynloureed I've looked into that, and told him it may be an option if he's interested since there are two programs within two hours of where we will be back home but he said he's more interested in the dog thing, not that I'm surprised lol