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Just got back from the RE...

ikrystalikrystal member
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Well... I knew FET was way less complicated than a fresh cycle... but I didn't realize how soon we could do this.  My OB said we should wait for 3 cycles to go by (which could have been a year from now), but they said ultimately it was up to my RE.  And my RE (who is close with my OB) said 3 cycles was totally unnecessary.  Thank. God. 

We are looking at a FET in April (the earliest we can do it, at my OB's preferences) or the latest, May.  They drew blood today and I get the results tomorrow, which should tell us when we can start.  I am terrified.  But I keep thinking that I need to go back and get these little embryos that are like Conner and Benjamin's other "twins."  Conner and Ben were also due in May, but the c-section would have been at the end of April.  I think an FET will help me get through what should have been their birthdays.  We are transferring only one this time, to lessen the risks of anything and everything (our OB, MFM, and RE all agreed on this as well).  If it does not take, we are thinking of transferring two again the next cycle.  I am a mess.  I want my Conner and my Benjamin.  But that was not an option for me.  I am a mother, thanks to Conner and Ben.  But I have the overwhelming urge to parent a child.  I am hoping this works... I can't lost another baby.  I've already lost two.  

I think this may have been the messiest writing I have ever done but my brain is just a mess right now. 
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  • stefugestefuge member
    I'm glad the appointment went well, and that they aren't making you wait a year!  Hope everything looks good with your bloodwork!
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  • Maybe JoleisaMaybe Joleisa member
    I'm glad your appointment went well. I can identify with all of the feelings you expressed, particularly those driving you to return for Connor and Benjamin's siblings. Big hugs to you!

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    IVF # 1(July 2012) = BFN
    IVF # 2 (November 2012) = BFP (MIssed MC D&C @ 8w3d on 1/10/13)
    IVF # 3 (June 2013) = BFN 
    IVF # 4 (September 2013) = BFP Fraternal twin boys! (Loss at 21w6d due to IC on 1/26/14...devastated.)
    3/21/14--TAC (transabdominal cerclage) w/Dr. Davis in NJ
    IVF # 5 (May 2014) = BFN
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  • kflynn81kflynn81 member
    I totally understand you're feelings in moving forward.... It's so difficult Maybe we'll be FET cycle buddies :)
    Me: 33, Endocrine issues & FVL       DH: 32, Nothing 
    NTNP 2009-2012         TTC since 2012:
    • Clomid, 2 IUI cycles, and 5 IVF cycles = BFN
    • FET #1   August 2013 = BFP!     EDD 5/11/14
    • Jack dx at 19w1d with Dandy Walker on 12/16/13
    • Severe Pre-e /HELLP set in Jack born sleeping at 20w1d on 12/23/13
    • FET #2 --July 2014  BFP!  ---  EDD  4/5/15

    Jack has handpicked his sibling up there :)

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  • kflynn81kflynn81 member
    ** your

    Sorry... Mobile bumping :)
    Me: 33, Endocrine issues & FVL       DH: 32, Nothing 
    NTNP 2009-2012         TTC since 2012:
    • Clomid, 2 IUI cycles, and 5 IVF cycles = BFN
    • FET #1   August 2013 = BFP!     EDD 5/11/14
    • Jack dx at 19w1d with Dandy Walker on 12/16/13
    • Severe Pre-e /HELLP set in Jack born sleeping at 20w1d on 12/23/13
    • FET #2 --July 2014  BFP!  ---  EDD  4/5/15

    Jack has handpicked his sibling up there :)

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  • ikrystalikrystal member
    kflynn81 said:
    ** your Sorry... Mobile bumping :)
    Haaahahahaha can I just say that I love that you corrected yourself??
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  • mmsweeney1mmsweeney1 member
    I'm glad you got some promising news. I understand the mixed feelings, but hopefully getting pregnant again will help to ease the ache in your heart!

    first son stillborn 7/20/13 at 39 weeks due to Acute Fatty Liver of Pregnancy
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  • kflynn81kflynn81 member
    ikrystal said:
    kflynn81 said:
    ** your Sorry... Mobile bumping :)
    Haaahahahaha can I just say that I love that you corrected yourself??

    I have an English degree...it bothered me, LOL!!
    Me: 33, Endocrine issues & FVL       DH: 32, Nothing 
    NTNP 2009-2012         TTC since 2012:
    • Clomid, 2 IUI cycles, and 5 IVF cycles = BFN
    • FET #1   August 2013 = BFP!     EDD 5/11/14
    • Jack dx at 19w1d with Dandy Walker on 12/16/13
    • Severe Pre-e /HELLP set in Jack born sleeping at 20w1d on 12/23/13
    • FET #2 --July 2014  BFP!  ---  EDD  4/5/15

    Jack has handpicked his sibling up there :)

    My blog about IF and loss ... Kate's IF Blog

            Lilypie Angel and Memorial tickers 

                                                      

                                                                              Lilypie Pregnancy tickers


                  Anniversary





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  • schulme2schulme2 member
    I'm glad it went well and you'll get to start so soon!
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  • kz's_girlygirlkz's_girlygirl member
    I totally understand your feelings. We didn't have any embryos to freeze so we are doing another fresh cycle and ER will be within days of Jesse's EDD. I'm hoping it will bring some positive energy our way- and I hope the same for you!

    FX everything comes back good with your bloodwork and there are only good things in the horizon <3
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    Lap in 2012 to remove large unresolving cyst discovered endo and double lobed ovary.
     6 Gonal-F, Cetrotide, HcG, Crinone IUI cycles= All BFN,
    1st IVF w/ICSI- June '13 Antagonist: Gonal-F, Menopur, Ganirelix, HcG, Estradiol, Crinone= 7 retrieved, 4 mature, 1 unfertilized, 2 abnormally fertilized, 1 normally fertilized.  2DT of only embryo and our miracle BFP.
    Our beloved baby boy was born sleeping Oct. 13, 2013 due to pROM/IC/Uterine infection.
    2nd IVF w/ICSI- Feb. '14 EPP/lupron/antagonist: Estrace, lupron, HGH, Gonal-F, Menopur, HcG, PIO, lovenox, doxy/dex.=21 retrieved, 16 mature, 15 fertilized!!  5dt of 1 blast/ 6 frozen. BFP!  Beta 1 9dp5dt:83.9  Beta 2: 11dp5dt: 145.2  Beta 3  14dp5dt: 497  Please be our sticky rainbow baby!

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  • ikrystalikrystal member
    kz's_girlygirl  - Thank you.   I know a lot of people dont think this, but sometimes I think there might be symbolism behind EDDs and moving forward with other cycles. Best of luck with your egg retrieval. 
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  • OutOfStep81OutOfStep81 member
    I'm glad you'll be able to move forward on everything so soon. Hope your blood work comes back good and everything goes smoothly for you.

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  • barelybarely member
    I'm so sorry to here about your losses. Glad to hear that you are moving forward. Good luck!
    TTC since 5/13
    BFP 1/23 
    MMC 3/4
    D&C-3/12 
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