still bf.....

nschuetz01 · March 2014

Lo is 17 months old and still bf. My views on breastfeeding have changed a lot over time. I used to think Bf once they could ask for it was ridiculous so 1 year was my cut off. Needless to say my opinion has changed. Ds still nurses about 6 or 8 times in a 24 hr period. When can I expect this to lessen? Also, what age did your lo's self wean or when did you start momma led weaning? TIA!

ilovedesi · March 2014

My DD has weaned herself down to two times a day (around 8 am and right before bed), she's 15 months. We were doing 4 until about a year but we cut out the MOTN feeding and she weaned herself from the other one (a mid day feeding) I think each kid is different and if you want to let him wean himself it just might take a little longer. I think if 6-8 times is too much for you it wouldn't be horrible to cut out a few of those and start giving him snacks at the times he would usually nurse.

kjsmith9 · March 2014

We're down to 2x per day at 15 months - right when she wakes up, and right before bed. She STTN 90% of the time, but if she wakes in the MOTN I'll let her nurse because she goes back to sleep faster. Like PP, we weaned from 4 sessions per day to 2 sessions around 12 months - I helped it along just a bit, but she wasn't really phased.

I'm in no rush at the moment to get rid of these last 2 sessions, but I will be away from her for 3 days in early May and I'm not sure what to do leading up to that... I don't want to force her to wean, and I admit that I'll be a little sad if those 3 days apart are what ends it for us...

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pb_bride · March 2014

DS turns 16m next week. He is down to just 1x a day for the past month. I plan to wean him completely next week.

We have been on schedule nursing for a long time, and I started weaning him at 10m. Basically, I dropped 1 session each month. At 10m he was dropped to 5/d, the at 11m down to 4/d and so on. I met some resistance when we went from 3 to 2 so I went back up to 3 for a few weeks and tried again. Because it has always been on schedule, DS doesn't really ask or demand it ( except when I first dropped him down to 2).

I do think 6-8x a day is a lot, but if you don't mind it at all, then by all means continue.

Friend of mine started to resent the frequent nursing sessions her son demands (same age as my DS). She has been working very hard, holding her ground in recent weeks so they ar down to 2-3/d. When he demands, she offers an alternative snack. She also makes sure they are out of the house as much as possible because he requests less when they are out and he is distracted. She said if they just sit around in the house, he will still ask for it like every hour!

Jackiemxoxo · March 2014

DD only nurses before bedtime now which has been happening for about a month. Before that it was 2x a day, morning and night. With her, i notice that it was more me offering then her actually asking. She usually nursed before naps and bed so it kind of became a routine. I kind of just cut it out when I didnt want to nurse her to naps anymore and it didnt seem to bother her. I just make sure she has enough during meal times which seems to help the most. I think it depends on the kid on how you go about cutting down as well as how often the momma feels like nursing a day. I would say that if you want to lessen it, then try replacing it with a snack or other activity. Also, snuggling can be just as comforting if that is what lo is needing.

raeah219 · March 2014

I'm one of those mamas that forced her baby to wean at 12 months and now I deeply regret that choice. I was being pressured by friends and family that he was "too old". He wasnt ready at all and it shows. He is 15 months now and he still comes up to me when he is stressed, tired, or bored and sucks on the tops of my breasts which hurts like hell and leaves red hickies on my chest. My FI says I need to stop letting him do that, but I feel so much guilt for cutting him off b4 he was ready. My only advice is to let your baby lead this process. I also had TERRIBLE and PAINFUL engorgement because I rushed it. Next time around, if there is a next time, I will let my baby take the lead.

twinmama920 · March 2014

At 17m my twins are nursing 4x per day. 6-8 seems like a lot to me. If mine sign for milk when we are out or if I can't drop what I'm doing and nurse them they do well if I offer water or a snack or some sort of distraction like a book. I am not looking to wean anytime soon but I don't worry of we miss a session when we are out or at a play date. I would offer a snack and see how LO does with that.

sunnyday016 · March 2014

My DD weaned at about 19m. It was a combination of her dropping nursing sessions on her own and me encouraging her to wean by not offering. The last two months of our nursing, she was down to 1-2x per day (morning & before bed). The last month was just the morning session. We stopped completely when I went on vacation for 5 days without her. We were both ready.

skibunny59 · March 2014

I am still nursing too and DD will be 2 in 3 weeks. I also used to think breastfeeding a toddler was "weird" and "creepy" until now. I never pictured myself nursing a toddler and yet here I am. I do still enjoy but I did have to cut her back because she was still nursing a lot.

She nurses 3 times a day. Once in the morning, when I get home from work, and before bedtime. She used to nurse like 6-8 times. We just recently night weaned. I would love to get it down to just once per day.

It's hard because I keep getting pressure from family to wean. I'm ready to cut back just not completely wean. Also, I don't think they understand that weaning is not something that can be done overnight.

vintagejjane · March 2014

DD still nurses from about 4-6 times each day still at 21 months. I just started implementing "Don't ask, don't refuse" and we'll take it one day at a time. I'm not in a rush for her to stop, but I would be okay if she stopped soon.

nschuetz01 · March 2014

I think a lot of ds's 6 to 8 feedings are more me offering rather than him asking/demanding. He knows how to sign for it, but doesn't do it often, mainly mornings and before sleeping. Forever he gets very sassy/naughty when her is tired so I will offer him milk at times like this. I guess if I just tried to only give him milk when he asks that would be a start. Thanks ladies!

skibunny59 · March 2014

vintagejjane said:

DD still nurses from about 4-6 times each day still at 21 months. I just started implementing "Don't ask, don't refuse" and we'll take it one day at a time. I'm not in a rush for her to stop, but I would be okay if she stopped soon.

How is the "don't ask, don't refuse" going for you? I feel like DD would nurse all day long if she wanted to (and she'll be 2 in about 3 weeks.) I'm like you in that I'm not in a rush for her to stop but I would be ok if she stopped soon. I found that I had to start refusing in order to have her decrease nursing. She was starting to become very demanding with the nursing. Now we nurse 3 times a day but there are still other times when she will demand it (usually if she's tired).

this decaf life · March 2014

DD isn't very interested in nursing anymore at 14 months, she only BFs 3-4 times a day but she doesn't really demand it, I think she could easily be down to 2 feedings and be fine with it.

URMySunshine77 · March 2014

this decaf life said:

DD isn't very interested in nursing anymore at 14 months, she only BFs 3-4 times a day but she doesn't really demand it, I think she could easily be down to 2 feedings and be fine with it.

How is she taking the sippy, Decaf? DS never asks to nurse, but I know that he still enjoys it. We are at 4 times a day and one dream feed.

I don't want to move towards weaning until he is better with his sippy.

bubble520 · March 2014

my LO is 13.5 months and I don't see self weaning anywhere in our future (or mommy weaning)... on the weekends we nurese about 7-10 times depending on the number of night wake ups... during the week its more like 4-7...

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