I have a strange famliy dynamic. Mom and Dad were divorced long ago, Mom is not in the picture at all, and Dad is remarried. I like Dad's new wife, but her family is a little strange and we are not that close. I am expecting my 2nd baby and my dad really wants to throw me a shower. I already told him no once and now I am 6 weeks from my EDD so I thought I was in the clear. Then yesterday all of the sudden he says "I really want to throw you a shower. Give me a Sunday in March that will work for you", as if this is no longer a request but something that is happening no matter what. He wants the shower to be a family shower with his wife's family.
First of all, I don't want a shower. We are capable of buying what we need and already have most of it (first child is 8 so some things did have to be replaced). Second of all, I don't want a shower with his wife's family, and I don't want my dad planning a shower for me - he knows nothing about planning any sort of party to begin with, nevertheless a baby shower. By the time he could pull something together I will likely be less than a month from delivering and my first kid was 3 weeks early so it just seems pretty late to be doing this now.
My dad is super sensitive, so I need to tread lightly with him to avoid hurting his feelings. What can I suggest that is Dad-friendly in lieu of a shower? In other words, a girls' day out or tea or whatever will not really work. If anyone thinks I really need to just suck it up and play along with this, let me know, but I don't think that is the case. If I can't come up with any ideas, I am going to just have to tell him flat out "No" (which again, I have already done once), and that's not going to go over well either.
TIA!
Re: Don't want a shower - need advice on what to suggest instead.
And he asks waht you have planned? "I'm just busy w/ a number of different things.". You don't have to give details. Because when you're 9 months PG, sitting on the couch in your PJs because you just don't want to do anything else is "plans" to me.
I like the post-baby BBQ idea too.
Thanks for the suggestions. I know he wants to do something as this is a big deal for him, and these are good alternatives.