I’m in a bit of a light hearted pickle and I want to know what you ladies would do if you were in a similar situation.
My youngest sister is getting married at the end of September and last night we went shopping for her dress. She picked one (first time looking!) and decided to have an impromptu bridesmaids dress outing. Long story short she picked the dress she wants us to wear and everyone in the bridal party ordered their dress… except me. I’m going to be doing my first IVF cycle this April. If everything goes well my RE is estimating ER and ET will be mid-April. Should I order the dress in the size I currently am or go for a bigger size? I don’t want to jinx myself and just assume my first IVF cycle will work, but I also don’t want to be stuck with a dress that’s too small should I miraculously get pregnant. If the April IVF cycle did work (thanks to IF I’m a pessimist and doubt it will work on the first try) I would be roughly 23-25 wks along. The sales lady said I they can alter a dress down 2 sizes max. I also thought about waiting until the last minute to order the dress, but was told there is no guarantee it will not be discontinued by then.
What would you do in this situation?
Re: what is an bridesmaid with IF to do?!
I personally would order my current size. If I got pregnant, I'd deal with it then. In the grand scheme of things, it doesn't matter what you wear, so if it ends up not fitting, I'd hope your sister would be understanding and allow you to pick a dress off the rack that does fit.
dx: Unexplained IF
TTC since May 2011, 1 year trying, and then 3 TI, 2 IUI = BFN
IVF #1 (May 2013): Antagonist Protocol:
24R, 18M, 15F w/ICSI; 5dt of 2 early blasts, no frosties = BFN
IVF #2 (August 2013): Lupron Stop Protocol:
28R, 23M, 15F w/ICSI; 5dt of 1 partially hatched blast, 7 frosties = BFP
EDD 5/23/14, blighted ovum (6w6d), D&C (8w6d)
FET #1 (April 2014): transferred 2 5d blasts = BFP
C.J. born 01/09/15
***EVERYONE WELCOME***
TTC since mid-2011---Husband and I both late 20's---
Laparoscopy, hysteroscopy and dye test in Sep 2012- moderate endometriosis removed---
Diagnosed with unexplained infertility---
Clomid cycle 1 in Feb 2013- BFN---
Clomid cycle 2 in Mar 2013- BFN---
IVF #1 in May 2013- BFN---
IVF #2 in August 2013-BFN---
Endometrial biopsy identified high natural killer cells---
FET #1 in Oct 2013-delayed---
FET #1 in Nov 2013 with Intralipids-BFN---
FET #2 in January 2014- BFN---
IVF #3 in March 2014 (new doctor new plan)-BFFN
IVF #4 in June 2014 (last cycle with own eggs)- BFN
IVF #5 in September 2014 (with donor eggs)- BFP plus 6 frozen blasts
http://tryingtoconceiveafamily.blogspot.com.au/
May Emerald / August Shooting Star / October Precious Pumpkin / November Harvest Hopeful / January Snowdrops / March Shimmering Shamrocks / June Bugs
IVF #1 Oct 2013- cancelled
IVF #2 Mar 2014- success.... baby girl born 11/28/14
FET #1 Mar 2016- baby boy due 12/16/16
I feel like I'd go up at least one size....
TTC since 08/2012
DX: DOR
I found out the absolute latest I could order the dress and did it 2 sizes bigger than I would have. Unfortunately it didn't work but if this second IVF works I will still be glad I ordered it bigger.
The dress she picked was chiffon and very flowy so that works well for my situation. If this one doesn't work I will feel pretty depressed when I see that huge dress... but its just one more sh*tty thing to add to the why IF sucks so much.
Maybe you can order the dress directly from the company and not a bridal vendor? Or call the company and see what they say? They might be more willing to work with you.
Good luck!
Dx: Unexplained Infertility, probable endometriosis
Feb-April 2013: Femara + TI: BFN
May - September 2013: Follistim + Ovidrel + IUI#1-4 = BFN
IVF # 1 November 2013: transferred 1 perfect blast = BFN
IVF # 2 April 2014: Endo scrape, transferred 2 blasts = BFP!! (first ever!), CP
FET #1 June 2014: transferred 2 blasts = BFFN
New Dx: Repeat Implantation Failure
IVF # 3 November 2014 = BFP!! Beta #1 9dp5t 272 Beta # 2 11dp5dt 626
It's Twins!
*everyone welcome*