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6 month old and now pregnant with TWINS....What do I do?! HELP!!!!????

jml2ndjml2nd member
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I'm just shy of being 28 years old.  At 22 I had a miscarriage [with my now husband], tried forever to conceive, gave up.....Then we finally [while not trying] conceived our daughter last year.  Sick during the whole pregnancy, developed preeclampsia around month 5-6, was put on bed rest at home, that lasted almost 2 weeks and then I was admitted into the hospital for 7 days before my protein got so bad they took her by C-section at 34wks/5days.  Perfectly healthy, never had to go to the NICU! 



Needless to say, we were NOT planning on having another for a few years....was put on birth control, used condoms........and low and behold, 3 positive tests later, we're expecting again!  Went to the ultrasound recently to determine how far we were and it showed that we are 2 months and expecting TWINS!!!!!!!!!!!!! 



We are scared out of our minds with the realization that if they're born early like our 1st, then we could have 3 kids under the age of 1!  We're scared of not knowing if we'd have to quit one of our jobs, we're scared about finding a babysitter, we're scared about how we're going to do any of this......most of all, we're very scared about my health!!!!!!  It was even brought up if we should even go through with it?!



Our family doesn't know yet...........and I need some advice because I'm going insane keeping everything locked up inside of me!



Anyone?!?!?!?  HELP?!?!?!?!?!

 

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Re: 6 month old and now pregnant with TWINS....What do I do?! HELP!!!!????

  • TheDairyQueenx3TheDairyQueenx3 member
    Congratulations? I'm sorry?

    I'm really not sure how to respond to this or what advice you are looking for. Maybe if you could be more specific in what sort of advice we could give?


    Together 6 wonderful years.
    TTC #1 18 months 1 loss DX unexplained IF-- BFP July 2009-- ITS A BOY
    TTC #2 3 years and 3 losses DX PCOS -- BFP April 2013-- TWIN BOYS!
    ~DS1-Feb 2010~ 
    ~DS2&3- Nov 2013  {7 weeks early}~ TTC #4~
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  • KatieGummowKatieGummow member
    You can do it! People have triplets and quadruplets all the time. It will be so hard having one mobile baby and two infants, but unless you are concidering adoption you will just have to make due. Day care could be helpful for at least your 1-2 yr old.

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  • LeoLaurenLeoLauren member
    I'm in a similar boat. My son will be 15 months when my twins arrive. We've decided not to think about it and go day by day. When the time comes, we'll manage. I was like you the first month though...completely panicked (I even named them the OMG twins) but our new strategy is working and calm has been restored. Also, we told our families that we were preg but we haven't told a soul that it's twins. Thats added to our serenity too. Take a deep breath and read the crap out of the multiples board and you'll be fine. I stalk the 3 under 3 board too. That also helps. Just remember that these babies are a gift. Your LO will love having siblings to play with!
    Me: 34 - low ovarian reserve
    DH: 40 - no issues  

    3 failed IUI's 

    IVF #1 3/12 - 13 eggs, 9 fertilized,  2 transferred (1 grade 2 blast, 1 early blast), no frosties, 3/30/12 - 9dp5dt spotting, BFNs

    IVF #2. 7/12 - 18 days of stims, 3 mature eggs, 3 fertilized (ICSI), 3 transferred (9, 8, 7 cell) on day 3.  First beta - 8/21/12 = 105, beta #2 - 8/23/12 = 268, beta #3 - 8/30/12 = 2,352. 2nd u/s - 9/4/12. Baby Boy born 5/1/2013.

    IVF #3 Now (12/13). AMH is very low - 0.19. ER (12/5) 12 eggs, 10 mature, 7 fertilized using ICSI. 3 transferred (8,8,8 cell - all grade 2) on day 3. First beta - 12/21/13 = 126, beta #2 - 12/23/13 = 400, beta #3 - na (office was closed for new year's). First sonogram - TWINS aka OMG! -  


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  • Wishing35Wishing35 member
    I have 6 month old twins and I'm pregnant again so I will have 3 under 2 as well. You may not experience pre e or have to go on bed rest , plenty of women go full term with twins. You are in shock right now that's normal. Take a breath and try to just take one day at a time. Think of all the exciting positive aspects of having 2 new beautiful additions to your family!
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  • LeoLaurenLeoLauren member
    LeoLauren said:
    I stalk the 3 under 3 board too.

    sorry - I meant two under two board.
    Me: 34 - low ovarian reserve
    DH: 40 - no issues  

    3 failed IUI's 

    IVF #1 3/12 - 13 eggs, 9 fertilized,  2 transferred (1 grade 2 blast, 1 early blast), no frosties, 3/30/12 - 9dp5dt spotting, BFNs

    IVF #2. 7/12 - 18 days of stims, 3 mature eggs, 3 fertilized (ICSI), 3 transferred (9, 8, 7 cell) on day 3.  First beta - 8/21/12 = 105, beta #2 - 8/23/12 = 268, beta #3 - 8/30/12 = 2,352. 2nd u/s - 9/4/12. Baby Boy born 5/1/2013.

    IVF #3 Now (12/13). AMH is very low - 0.19. ER (12/5) 12 eggs, 10 mature, 7 fertilized using ICSI. 3 transferred (8,8,8 cell - all grade 2) on day 3. First beta - 12/21/13 = 126, beta #2 - 12/23/13 = 400, beta #3 - na (office was closed for new year's). First sonogram - TWINS aka OMG! -  


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  • LittleLady77LittleLady77 member
    Congratulations momma. Your worries are totally normal. Many MoMs freak out when they first learn they have two on board, it's normal and you have every right to worry. It's hard. That being said, it's also a wonderful blessing. Give it some time to let everything sink in.

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  • VeryBlessedMomVeryBlessedMom member
    Let it sink in. I'm trying to hang in there til 28 wks (3 days away) with triplets right now & will have 4 u 17 months. Just need extra help and time will go by.
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  • oughtonkoughtonk member
    Definitely try not to stress out and let things sink in.  I was in shock for 2 weeks and ran through all of the "how are we going to do this," once I sat down and thought about it realistically I realized we had it under control and we would make it work.  You're in shock right now, it's a lot to take on when it's one baby, now there's two.  Think of the positive side, you're children will all be close in age that they'll be close and play with each other, grow up and truly had strong sibling bonds.  Your friends and family will be there for you and help you out through the journey.
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  • kgs0505kgs0505 member
    The shock part is completely normal.  But like everyone else said, you just do it.  Try and adjust to the idea you are having two more first.  Then worry about the jobs, daycare arrangements etc.  You can totally do it.  It'll be okay.  Also think about family or friends who could be willing to step in and help out.  Also, people will ask you if they can help in any way, don't tell them no!  Have a list of things you need help with, grocery shopping, holding babies, laundry, dishes, watching #1 while you take a nap, etc.  Also, start talking with your local MoMs club.  They are helpful and great local resources.

    TTC since May 2006. After 3 failed Clomid cycles, 2 failed Injectibles/IUIs, 2 failed IVFs and 1 failed FET, we moved on to adoption! 

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  • TobieRoseTobieRose member
    It will definitely be hard ... but you will be okay! My twins were born when DS1 was 19 months, so I have a bigger gap than you will, but I can relate to an extent ... my twins are now 3.5 months old, some days are good and some less so, but we are getting by! :) 

    In addition to getting family members on board to help out when the babies come I would highly recommend looking into hiring a postpartum doula if you can afford it. I had one for the first month and a half and it was SO helpful! 
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  • whitehousemwhitehousem member
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    Shock is totally normal in the beginning. I cried and shook uncontrollably for days when we found out it was twins and this was a planned pregnancy. DD will be 23 months when my twins arrive. That's a bigger gap than you will have but I can honestly say she is more work now than several months ago, so maybe you will have an advantage in the beginning before you truly have a crazy toddler running around? The logistics are tough... Car, stroller, etc. but you will figure it out. I haven't been through it yet but I know it will be hard in the beginning. We have zero family here to help but they will come and stay to help for several weeks when the babies arrive. Look into a mommy's helper who can maybe come a few hours here and there or take #1 out to do activities. Or a daycare a few days a week for #1. Take help when it's offered. Contact your local MOMs group (mine has a consignment sale a couple times a year where I'm going to get the extra baby gear I need). You will survive... Just prepare yourself as much as possible and know it will be tough. But what a crazy blessing after trying for all those years :)
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