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One & Done: Only child
Lilmrslay
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Intro
Lilmrslay
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Hi
I only just discovered this board after looking for a place I can reach out.
Not sure if I'm in the right place for my situation though. My husband and I have a 7 month old little girl and recently it was decided we would be one and done. This is not a decision I would make if it were completely up to me. I understand my husbands reasoning, but 90% of the time my heart is breaking over the decision.
To put it in context I'll explain more. We are considered of advanced age as parents. I am nearly 38 and my husband is 48. It took us 2 years and the loss of 2 babies to get to our beautiful little girl. During pregnancy and delivery we also nearly lost our sweet angel so we consider her an absolute blessing and are so very grateful for her in every single moment.
My husband has a son who is 9 (and a 21 year old in the UK). I have been with him since he was 10 months old and for a long time thought he would be our only child. Then I realised after healing some of my own childhood stuff that I desperately wanted to be a biological mum.
So, now my husband feels that we are done having 'our' babies. We have two kids and he is concerned about being an old Dad (he's a total big kid and doesn't look his age at all) and finds that he feels pulled in two already with wanting to give all his time to both kids.
I look at my baby girl and adore her so much and can't believe she's here and ours, and then my heart starts burning to do it all again. To be pregnant, to have a newborn, and to have another little soul to share my love with. And then my heart breaks because I know my husband is set on his decision and I do respect him for it.
Anyway, that's my LONG and detailed intro but I wanted to give some background in case I'm in the wrong place and this is more a board for those who are happy and sure about their OAD decision.
I only just discovered this board after looking for a place I can reach out.
Not sure if I'm in the right place for my situation though. My husband and I have a 7 month old little girl and recently it was decided we would be one and done. This is not a decision I would make if it were completely up to me. I understand my husbands reasoning, but 90% of the time my heart is breaking over the decision.
To put it in context I'll explain more. We are considered of advanced age as parents. I am nearly 38 and my husband is 48. It took us 2 years and the loss of 2 babies to get to our beautiful little girl. During pregnancy and delivery we also nearly lost our sweet angel so we consider her an absolute blessing and are so very grateful for her in every single moment.
My husband has a son who is 9 (and a 21 year old in the UK). I have been with him since he was 10 months old and for a long time thought he would be our only child. Then I realised after healing some of my own childhood stuff that I desperately wanted to be a biological mum.
So, now my husband feels that we are done having 'our' babies. We have two kids and he is concerned about being an old Dad (he's a total big kid and doesn't look his age at all) and finds that he feels pulled in two already with wanting to give all his time to both kids.
I look at my baby girl and adore her so much and can't believe she's here and ours, and then my heart starts burning to do it all again. To be pregnant, to have a newborn, and to have another little soul to share my love with. And then my heart breaks because I know my husband is set on his decision and I do respect him for it.
Anyway, that's my LONG and detailed intro but I wanted to give some background in case I'm in the wrong place and this is more a board for those who are happy and sure about their OAD decision.
TTC Since March 2010 - 2 angel babies - BFP December 12 EDD 12 Aug 13
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