for those that are still BFing

sarahandeddiejune212008 · March 2014

I have been trying to wean Avery for awhile. I've been trying don't offer/dont refuse. She constantly asks. I'm beyond frustrated. She still nurses 2+ times at night and several times during the day. If I refuse she throws a major tantrum and doesn't stop crying until I give in. At this rate she will literally be nursing until she goes to college! Someone please tell me I'm not alone.

aylafsu88 · March 2014

I still nurse but only at night before bed. I have tried to stop that session and wean completely but LO is not having it. I try to rock her/hold her and she flips out. She pulls at my shirt, tried to nurse through it and cries/screams. I only let her nurse for 5ish minutes and she is fine with that. I am not sure how I am going to get rid of the session. The weird thing is I travel for work 1 night every couple of weeks. She will go down fine for my H but if I am in the house she refuses without nursing.
When I weaned during the day I cut out one session at a time for a week or two. Then moved on to the next. Maybe something like that would work? It can be a big adjustment if you are stopping cold turkey. For the MOTN sessions I had H get up with her. It took a week but she stopped waking as much and started sleeping 5+ most nights. She still gets up at night but wil sleep longer stretches now which has saved my sanity.

sarahandeddiejune212008 · March 2014

She doesn't nurse on a set schedule so it's hard to cut out one session at a time. She will take naps or go to sleep at night without nursing for everyone but me. DH works nights, so I'm on my own to deal with night weaning.

versed · March 2014

I'm nursing both boys now. We night-weened when DS1 was 14m old. I needed the extra sleep being pregnant. We used Dr Jay Gordon's method, and it worked extremely well for us.

https://drjaygordon.com/attachment/sleeppattern.html

For the rest of the pregnancy, we practiced don't-offer-don't-refuse, and it worked. We were down to probably 4x just during the day (wake up, nap, snack, bedtime).

However, once DS2 came, my big boy wanted to nurse anytime the baby did. He was possessive of boob and got mad when it wasn't his turn. I didn't say no to him, but I couldn't handle nursing both boys every two hrs.

For my own sanity, I had to start saying no. Now, he only gets to nurse when he wakes up and before brushing teeth. He's gotten a lot better at hearing no and is okay if I say he needs to wait until after dinner. We also practice count-down where I start counting back from ten and he has to get off before one. He then gets a high-five and goes about his day.

Sorru for the novel. It gets easier! We even have some days where he forgets to ask for some,- and we go with it.

sarahandeddiejune212008 · March 2014

I think the count down idea is great. Maybe I can slowly shorten her sessions and she will eventually give them up all together. I've joked with DH that I'm going on a solo vacation so that she will wean.

I'm mostly frustrated because she is fine if I'm not around, but the second she sees me she is crying to nurse.

versed · March 2014

The countdown has really been a lifesaver. Sometimes he's done before I'm done, and that's great. Most times, I'm done first so we count down. Sometimes I'm done at two minutes and sometimes ten. I like that he understands countdown means all-done

APendola · March 2014

We still bf. She does drink a lot of WCM from a sippy cup now as well as water...but she will throw a fit if I don't let her nurse when she wants to and it's really hard to get her to go to sleep without nursing first.

grimesk12 · March 2014

When I'm at work I still pump one time bc Mira will only drink breastmilk or water. When I'm home she nurses when she wakes up, before nap and before bed. She normally nurses 2x MOTN. Since she's been teething she's been nursing more. I go back and forth on wanting to wean her which is why I haven't yet.

sarahandeddiejune212008 · March 2014

grimesk12 said:
When I'm at work I still pump one time bc Mira will only drink breastmilk or water. When I'm home she nurses when she wakes up, before nap and before bed. She normally nurses 2x MOTN. Since she's been teething she's been nursing more. I go back and forth on wanting to wean her which is why I haven't yet.

I also have mixed emotions about weaning. I feel I'm ready, but knowing she is probably my last makes it hard. I'd be okay with continuing if she'd night wean and get on a set schedule. As it stands right now she wants to nurse if I sit down.

Tink522 · March 2014

I am in the same boat. He is fine with everyone else but when I am around all he wants to do is nurse. Josh also throws an absolute fit if I try to refuse.

OkieMama · March 2014

I am 99% certain I have no milk left, and haven't for some time, and my child still won't wean. I'm no help here.

sarahandeddiejune212008 · March 2014

I've thought about trying to naturally dry myself up. I may go that route in a month or so.

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