Family fun on weekends

Re: Family fun on weekends

• EVA116 member

  March 2014

  We try to do at least one thing. Some weekends are tough cause it is the only time we can get stuff done.

  

   

  

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• MrsT0514 member

  March 2014

  I mean, I try to get DH to understand that DS is getting to the age where its important to at least get him out of the house for an hour or 2...just enough to stimulate him and entertain him for a bit, even something as simple as walking around the mall or going for a drive and then out to lunch.
  
  DH doesnt seem to be getting my point though. He agrees with me in theory that we should do more family stuff together, but then he doesnt follow through. He seems to think its silly for all of us to pack up and go out to the store/restaurant/mall etc when there are things at home that need to be done. Which I partly get (he works long hours during the week, so weekends ARE his only time to get stuff done around here), but i feel like there should be a happy medium somewhere.

  

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• olp920 member

  March 2014

  I feel the same way. I go nutty just sitting around the house, and housework is the last thing I want to do, unless my son is sleeping. I only see him for about 2 hours a day on weekdays, and he is home with my mom instead of at daycare. So I feel like we all need to get out of the house all the time. DH would be happy to stay home all the time and just throw sesame street on... and we do fight about it, too. 

  
  

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• Whenigrowup member

  March 2014

  We mostly do chores and catch up/veg, but we TRY to do one thing that is fun together, even if it's just going out to the park or to let DD ride her trike.  Last weekend we only managed to go to the store together, but even that can be fun since she doesn't usually get to go with both of us.  

  
  

  I used to go to work one day each weekend, and I've stopped doing that so that I can have some more time with DH and DD.  So, if there is a weekend when we can' t go do something together, at least I'm home and not working.

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• Drea926 member

  March 2014

  I agree with you 100%. DS just turned one a few weeks ago and we usually try to do something at least once a weekend. It's not anything crazy, it's like what you suggested, go out to lunch or walking around a few stores. I like to get out too - I'd get stir crazy if I stayed in all weekend!

  

     
  

  
  

  
  

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• MrsT0514 member

  March 2014 edited March 2014

  olp920 said:

  I feel the same way. I go nutty just sitting around the house, and housework is the last thing I want to do, unless my son is sleeping. I only see him for about 2 hours a day on weekdays, and he is home with my mom instead of at daycare. So I feel like we all need to get out of the house all the time. DH would be happy to stay home all the time and just throw sesame street on... and we do fight about it, too. 

  
  

  drives. me. bonkers.

  I feel like I could have written this myself (the only difference is that I only work Pt, whichmakes staying thw house that much harder, as we do enough of that during the week!)
  
  This is exactly where we're at right now. Dh has been eating all the crackers lately. Or maybe part of it is that AF is in town for me...that combined with cabin fever makes me one cranky bitch for sure.
  

  

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• MrsT0514 member

  March 2014

  @CtGirl30 & @Spooko I'd like to get into that type of routine as well, but MH is an admitted introvert and hates dealing with crowds of people, which can make outings with him especially frustrating. He'd rather just stay home and throw on Disney Jr. While he does stuff around the house..which is what we're kind of disagreeing on. I feel like he needs to put his own annoyances aside (general public/crowds) and set aside more family time.

  

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• klondikebar member

  March 2014

  We go out as a family or DH will takes the kids by himself. The kids are in sports so we attend games. When we are at home, well play games, go outside, have movie night, cook together etc. We don't do any housework on the weekends.
  

       
  

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• MrsT0514 member

  March 2014

  CTGirl30 said:

  MrsT0514 said:

  @CtGirl30 & @Spooko I'd like to get into that type of routine as well, but MH is an admitted introvert and hates dealing with crowds of people, which can make outings with him especially frustrating. He'd rather just stay home and throw on Disney Jr. While he does stuff around the house..which is what we're kind of disagreeing on. I feel like he needs to put his own annoyances aside (general public/crowds) and set aside more family time.

  Crowds irritate me, too, but I do it for DD's sake. She has a lot of fun at these outings so I suck it up :-)
  

  My sentiments exactly! I try to get DH to understand that no one particularly ENJOYS fighting crowds out in public places (myself included), but DS is so much happier/content to just be out of house and taking in different surroundings instead of being cooped up in our tiny house all day.
  

  

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• angelashly member

  March 2014

  It is usually me taking her out. This winter has been tough, but I take her to the library every weekend she loves it. She also does grocery shopping with me.
  
  Summers are usually better because we do cookouts and hang out outside. My So is also anti crowds plus he gets bored quickly. Family time is one of our biggest issues.

  
  

  
  
  

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• theimpossibleastronaut member

  March 2014 edited March 2014

  we usually do household chores and errands. We play with DD around the house and sometimes meet friends for play dates. We both work, so most of our big chores/errands get pushed to the weekend.
  
  Edited to add: we get home about 1 1/2 hours before DD goes to bed, so there isn't much time to do chores on week nights after she goes to sleep that could wake her (like vacuuming, etc.)

  
  

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• Breakfast4dinner member

  March 2014

  Our weekends vary but we get out at least one day if not both. My DH works one weekend day each weekend; whichever day that is we normally play at home together until he leaves then DS and I go do something. We live in STL so there is a lot to do no matter what the weather. We typically see some group of family each weekend and may have a friend play date too. I get stir crazy pretty easily so getting out is a must.

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• MrsT0514 member

  March 2014

  Yep, I took DS to the mall today and we rode the carousel...on the way home he fell asleep in the car and is now flipping out bc I tried transferring him to the crib.
  
  Looks like afternoon nap is a bust today.

  

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• MrsT0514 member

  March 2014

  But at least it got us out of the house for a bit!

  

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• Spin313 member

  March 2014

  In the spring/summer/fall, we do things outdoors (parks, walks, community events) but winter is kicking our butts. Unless we have bad cabin fever, we stay indoors. Occasionally we walk around a mall or take a family trip to the store, have a movie night...
  
  DH takes both kids to the Lowes build and grow clinics, though, so that's their bonding time and my quiet time.

  
  
  
  

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• RondackHiker member

  March 2014

  We try to do at least one thing a day, especially if dh is home since he so rarely is. If dh is studying or busy, DS and I go alone. Dh has taken DS alone when I've been super sick.
  
  We'll get things done during nap, with DS's "help" in the afternoon or while cooking dinner, or after bedtime. Chore charts help. We are all happier if we get out... And we don't always do crowded things. We'll hike or go to a new park... Anything fun.

  
  

  
  

   

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• RondackHiker member

  March 2014

  Like mbenit... I'd go alone if he won't go with you.

  
  

  
  

   

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• ShakeyJakey member

  March 2014

  I try to do something one day of each weekend or alternate weekends of fun vs chores. Next summer we're getting a children's museum and aquarium so I'm excited about that.

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• MrsT0514 member

  March 2014

  Thats the biggest thing I've found as DS is getting older...everyone is happier when we get out of the house. Even if only for an hour. The winter is tough bc we're forced to either be stuck in the house or stuck in a crowded public place.
  
  I cannot wait until this cold weather is gone! I love being outside and I'm sure DS will be walking by spring/summer so we'll be able to go to the park/beach/playground instead of dealing with big crowds at indoor public places. I just wish DH was more interested in being out and about...but he is definitely a homebody.

  

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