This isn't something that someone said to me directly, but I used to work as a cashier at Whole Foods and one of my supervisors came over one day and kinda pulled my shirt down. The aprons we were had a tendency to make them slightly ride up. I asked her what she was doing and she told me someone had complained that my back fat was showing....WTF people?! Do you have nothing better to do with your time than go to customer service and complain about my back fat??
My Mom keeps reminding me that with her 3 kids and when my sister was pg with her 4 kids, they never got big bellies. Well they both are much heavier than I am when not pg. I am built like my dad so I am tall and lean so pg, my belly seems pretty big. It just always feels like she is judging me because my belly is more pronounced.
Checking back in late to the party, but by "more pronounced" I'm sure you also mean that you look much cuter!
All the examples of things rude people say about names are exactly why we are not sharing our name with anyone (including family) till she is born. I don't want to hear it. Hopefully no one has the balls to say something then!!
From a very passive aggressive woman at church who doesn't like me:
"Congratulations on your baby! I didn't know until recently that you were pregnant. I mentioned to someone that marriage is really agreeing with you since you've really been packing obn the pounds."
All of this with a shit eating grin on her face. Every time she opens her mouth I have to resist the urge to punch a grandma.
(ETA her.. She is the grandma.)
People like her continue to behave like that because they believe they can continually get away with being passive aggressive. I would call her out on her shit with an up front "it's rude to discuss my weight at all, let alone with other people." Also, I am really snarky this late in my pregnancy so I might make a point to discuss at length how the book of Romans addresses gossip.
I wish I could be snarky on the fly! I never think of clever comebacks until I'm retelling the story later.
I've learned to just smile at this lady and hold it in. She just wants a reaction, and I refuse to bite. Total witch though. I'm sure she'll give me LOTS of parenting advice in the future, maybe I'll be good and snarky by then. I've got lots of ammo for her in that category as long as I can conjure it up in the moment!
Even though I pretty much feel like I'm the size of an RV, I guess most people still can't tell I'm pregnant.
Yesterday I had my scrubs on at work and a patient's family member reached out and poked me in the belly with her index finger, ET style. I think she was trying to figure out if it was shirt or stomach. I just looked at her and gave her kind of a weird smile and then she asked, "You got a little something going on in there?"
I just said yes and kind of kept on going. It was very weird. Not once during my last pregnancy did a stranger touch me.
If someone said this to me, there's a chance I would seriously not get it and try to ask clarifying questions back, and/or just about fall over laughing.
Really soon after my son was born and we took the baby for a walk, some rando in the parking lot congratulated my husband and said something like "That baby is definitely yours; he looks just like you." Um, thanks?
Also, I fell down last Friday when we got the latest round of Epic Snow (and I'm fine! and the baby's also totally fine!) and since then DH is constantly, constantly telling me to not fall down. It's kind of sweet, but also super irritating. I'm trying to be careful, honest, but it's winter in the Mid Freaking West. Ice happens.
All the examples of things rude people say about names are exactly why we are not sharing our name with anyone (including family) till she is born. I don't want to hear it. Hopefully no one has the balls to say something then!!
I understand people have their own opinion but seriously they don't have to be so rude. Like we are all intitled to name our children whatever we want and I don't see the bad in that. I should of just kept mine a secret until she's born if I would of know how rude and disrespectful people are. Like I'm sorry if the name I picked out isn't common enough for you or spelled the way you like it. I'm sure your daughter will have a lovely name : ) and idk why but your post made me smile after having to read so many negative comments about my daughters name. Thank you darling!!
Like you wouldn't want to know if you were spelling your child's name in a way that phonetically made no sense?
You are "intitled" to name your child whatever you want. I'm the first one to like unique (or youneek) names (see screen name), but you can't just make up a spelling and expect people to pronounce it the way you want.
FTR, I don't think anyone was rude, we were just simply pointing out that it would likely be mispronounced.
So all my associates at work are starting to waddle at me littleally when I walk they say waddle waddle ..
My boss one night said I'm just gald your still walking around I figure on a month or so we'll have to get a crain to get you up put of the chair after break ...
Are you sure you are going to make it until May you're so big now ?
A man at the restaurant I used to work at looked at me and asked when did that happen? I said oh about 7 months ago !
And DHs step mom at Christmas telling me that Xavier LO's middle name sounds a little Black ??!!!
And still my favorite my grown daughter's ( she's 21) boyfriend ( they live together 2hours away from me ) telling her I didn't need anymore kids since I don't take care of the one I got already !!!! Umm she's an adult and you moved her out of my house not my job anymore to give her money to live on !
So all my associates at work are starting to waddle at me littleally when I walk they say waddle waddle ..
My boss one night said I'm just gald your still walking around I figure on a month or so we'll have to get a crain to get you up put of the chair after break ...
Are you sure you are going to make it until May you're so big now ?
A man at the restaurant I used to work at looked at me and asked when did that happen? I said oh about 7 months ago !
And DHs step mom at Christmas telling me that Xavier LO's middle name sounds a little Black ??!!!
And still my favorite my grown daughter's ( she's 21) boyfriend ( they live together 2hours away from me ) telling her I didn't need anymore kids since I don't take care of the one I got already !!!! Umm she's an adult and you moved her out of my house not my job anymore to give her money to live on !
That HAS to be violating some kind of HR policy. I mean come on!! People are ridiculous!
So all my associates at work are starting to waddle at me littleally when I walk they say waddle waddle ..
My boss one night said I'm just gald your still walking around I figure on a month or so we'll have to get a crain to get you up put of the chair after break ...
Are you sure you are going to make it until May you're so big now ?
A man at the restaurant I used to work at looked at me and asked when did that happen? I said oh about 7 months ago !
And DHs step mom at Christmas telling me that Xavier LO's middle name sounds a little Black ??!!!
And still my favorite my grown daughter's ( she's 21) boyfriend ( they live together 2hours away from me ) telling her I didn't need anymore kids since I don't take care of the one I got already !!!! Umm she's an adult and you moved her out of my house not my job anymore to give her money to live on !
That HAS to be violating some kind of HR policy. I mean come on!! People are ridiculous!
She was joking and I can't be to mad since she is also helping throw my shower and made the garter and bouquets for my wedding while on lunch and breaks Monday night while we worked! We are a close knit group on that shift and I expect this from them and don't worry I give it back so I need to be able to take it ... The only one that really bothered me was my daughter's BF. I raised her by myself never tell me I don't take care of her. I still pay for her health insurance and her phone.
Uhg, I have one that just happened (in front of my whole office).
So one of our employees is from China and he went to China for 3 weeks to see his extended family. He brought back lots of yummy treats to share with the office, including these delicious seasoned Nori chips. I ate a bunch of them yesterday (I was one of few people in my office that actually liked them).
So this morning when he gets in and I walk into the front office area he asks me in front of everyone "So Rachel, how many seaweed snacks did you have yesterday? Like all of them?"
Yeah ... definitely didn't even eat half of them, and it's not cute to point out all the food a pregnant woman eats to embarrass her. You try GROWING A HUMAN without consuming extra calories each day. And Nori chips are freaking healthy snacks at that.
So all my associates at work are starting to waddle at me littleally when I walk they say waddle waddle ..
My boss one night said I'm just gald your still walking around I figure on a month or so we'll have to get a crain to get you up put of the chair after break ...
Are you sure you are going to make it until May you're so big now ?
A man at the restaurant I used to work at looked at me and asked when did that happen? I said oh about 7 months ago !
And DHs step mom at Christmas telling me that Xavier LO's middle name sounds a little Black ??!!!
And still my favorite my grown daughter's ( she's 21) boyfriend ( they live together 2hours away from me ) telling her I didn't need anymore kids since I don't take care of the one I got already !!!! Umm she's an adult and you moved her out of my house not my job anymore to give her money to live on !
That HAS to be violating some kind of HR policy. I mean come on!! People are ridiculous!
She was joking and I can't be to mad since she is also helping throw my shower and made the garter and bouquets for my wedding while on lunch and breaks Monday night while we worked! We are a close knit group on that shift and I expect this from them and don't worry I give it back so I need to be able to take it ... The only one that really bothered me was my daughter's BF. I raised her by myself never tell me I don't take care of her. I still pay for her health insurance and her phone.
Oh, ok - gotcha! That's good you give it right back to them then Sucks about your daughter's BF. People are unbelievable!
I have an ongoing work related one. The desk opposite me is vacant, so it's used as a snack area. Every time someone brings in snacks I hear "don't put them near Amy! They won't last". It's practically every day. Oh and guess what, I hardly ever touch their damn snacks. I've got enough food of my own hidden in my drawer, and I don't share!
09/23/11 - Married DH
04/01/13 - BFP at 4wks
05/30/13 - MMC - BO @ 12wks 5d
08/29/13 - BFP @ 4wks 4d
09/17/13 - 7wks 2d - Normal HB Detected! Baby measuring perfect for dates and positioning!
10/23/13 - 12wks 3d - Perfect NT scan! HB 167 & baby wriggling, waving & yawning!
12/17/13 - 20wks 2 d - We're having a beautiful baby girl! Go Team Pink!
05/03/14 - Bobbie Gloria was born at 39+6 weighing 6lb 14oz!
Ooh! this just in from my 9 yr old son as I asked him to clean his room after school today- (he's in a bit of a mood in the mornings) "All you care about mom is a clean house! You don't even LOVE us or care about us, or dad, and probably not even Sawyer when he gets here! You're just having another baby so you have ANOTHER slave to boss around and clean up for you! that's why you want a baby, not to love but to CLEAN!"
Yes hun, I am having another baby, going through 9 mos of hell, 12 or more hours or labor, committing myself to a year (or more) of little to no sleep, becoming a mombie, poopy diapers, etc etc etc.. JUST so that when he turns about 9 yrs old I can fight with him every other day about doing the one or two basic chores he has to do *facepalm*
Too funny!! That's exactly why I plan on having kids. What kind of grown woman is expected to wash dishes anyway?
Ooh! this just in from my 9 yr old son as I asked him to clean his room after school today- (he's in a bit of a mood in the mornings) "All you care about mom is a clean house! You don't even LOVE us or care about us, or dad, and probably not even Sawyer when he gets here! You're just having another baby so you have ANOTHER slave to boss around and clean up for you! that's why you want a baby, not to love but to CLEAN!"
Yes hun, I am having another baby, going through 9 mos of hell, 12 or more hours or labor, committing myself to a year (or more) of little to no sleep, becoming a mombie, poopy diapers, etc etc etc.. JUST so that when he turns about 9 yrs old I can fight with him every other day about doing the one or two basic chores he has to do *facepalm*
Too funny!! That's exactly why I plan on having kids. What kind of grown woman is expected to wash dishes anyway?
Right? DH and I have been talking all winter about how great it'll be once LO is old enough to help shovel snow.
My boyfriends sister: do you have a name picked out yet? My boyfriend: Kenzye Boyfriends sister: hahaa kenz-yieee! I don't like it, poor child Me: (eye roll) [wanting to slap her]
Ummm how do you pronounce that name?
Like Kenzie/Kensie but it's spelled with a Y instead of an I. Kinda like Mckenzie but without the Mc. If that makes sense
My oldest daughter's name is Kynzee. Everyone always adds the Mc despite not having it in her name so be prepared.
So all my associates at work are starting to waddle at me littleally when I walk they say waddle waddle ..
My boss one night said I'm just gald your still walking around I figure on a month or so we'll have to get a crain to get you up put of the chair after break ...
Are you sure you are going to make it until May you're so big now ?
A man at the restaurant I used to work at looked at me and asked when did that happen? I said oh about 7 months ago !
And DHs step mom at Christmas telling me that Xavier LO's middle name sounds a little Black ??!!!
And still my favorite my grown daughter's ( she's 21) boyfriend ( they live together 2hours away from me ) telling her I didn't need anymore kids since I don't take care of the one I got already !!!! Umm she's an adult and you moved her out of my house not my job anymore to give her money to live on !
My boyfriends sister: do you have a name picked out yet? My boyfriend: Kenzye Boyfriends sister: hahaa kenz-yieee! I don't like it, poor child Me: (eye roll) [wanting to slap her]
Ummm how do you pronounce that name?
Like Kenzie/Kensie but it's spelled with a Y instead of an I. Kinda like Mckenzie but without the Mc. If that makes sense
My oldest daughter's name is Kynzee. Everyone always adds the Mc despite not having it in her name so be prepared.
Wait, what?
09/23/11 - Married DH
04/01/13 - BFP at 4wks
05/30/13 - MMC - BO @ 12wks 5d
08/29/13 - BFP @ 4wks 4d
09/17/13 - 7wks 2d - Normal HB Detected! Baby measuring perfect for dates and positioning!
10/23/13 - 12wks 3d - Perfect NT scan! HB 167 & baby wriggling, waving & yawning!
12/17/13 - 20wks 2 d - We're having a beautiful baby girl! Go Team Pink!
05/03/14 - Bobbie Gloria was born at 39+6 weighing 6lb 14oz!
My boyfriends sister: do you have a name picked out yet?
My boyfriend: Kenzye
Boyfriends sister: hahaa kenz-yieee! I don't like it, poor child
Me: (eye roll) [wanting to slap her]
Ummm how do you pronounce that name?
Like Kenzie/Kensie but it's spelled with a Y instead of an I. Kinda like Mckenzie but without the Mc. If that makes sense
My oldest daughter's name is Kynzee. Everyone always adds the Mc despite not having it in her name so be prepared.
Andplusalso, our point is that phonetically, it's incorrect.
Went to a ceremony today and the guy that sat next to me said hi and asked if I recognized him (we have briefly met at a couple meetings in the past) I said yes. He then proceeded to tell me something along the lines of "he definitely recognized me because I'm as big as a house"... Thanks guy. >:P
I was standing in the office yesterday with 2 other people who are pregnant also, but they are due in June. One is my height and size (our colleagues call us twins), and one is teeny and could basically fit in my pocket.
At least 4 people who walked by us looked at the teeny one and said "Oh, your bump is just so cute!" Then they would notice me and my "twin" and say things like "I mean, you're all beautiful, but look how little she is!"
So after my trip to Wal-Mart I thought this belonged on this thread..
What about "the way people look at you" ?
As of the past couple weeks I've been getting a lot of dirty looks.. they don't say anything but they look at me horribly. This old couple in the waiting room at the lab yesterday were staring at my belly with the worst disapproving faces ever. Everytime I'm at a store it's the same thing.... they look at my husband then at me then at my belly... it's a very wtf moment in my head.
I wonder sometimes if it's cause I look underage.. I'll be 25 when LO is born but I've been told I look 16 sometimes.. and DH is 31... so I imagine that's why I get dirty looks..
It's driving me crazy.. I wish people would give me happy smiles and what not but eh what can you do?
My DH and I are 26 and are having our second child. A lot of people think we are teens though... Especially my husband. He was recently working with a new woman at his work who he barely knew and she was asking how old our DS is. He told her DS would be 2 years when the baby was born. She said, "wow, you do know how babies are made don't you?" He awkwardly laughed and then she said again, "no really, you do don't you?" No duh! The only thing I can think is she thought he was way younger than he is... But really... In this day and age I'm pretty sure most teens know how babies are made! Haha
My boyfriends sister: do you have a name picked out yet? My boyfriend: Kenzye Boyfriends sister: hahaa kenz-yieee! I don't like it, poor child Me: (eye roll) [wanting to slap her]
Ummm how do you pronounce that name?
Like Kenzie/Kensie but it's spelled with a Y instead of an I. Kinda like Mckenzie but without the Mc. If that makes sense
My oldest daughter's name is Kynzee. Everyone always adds the Mc despite not having it in her name so be prepared.
Andplusalso, our point is that phonetically, it's incorrect.
Person talking to me:"Are you finding out if it's a boy or girl?" Me, happily: "Nope! We won't know until it comes out!" Person: "Oh, well, I could never do that. I'm just such a planner. I'd really want to know." Me: "I don't mind not knowing." Person: "The suspense would just kill me! Do you actually know and you're just not telling anyone? [wink]" Me: "No, we really don't know." Person: "Sure.... [wink]" Me: .... -------------------------------------------------------------------------- Me: "Well, we're actually planning on using cloth diapers." Person: "Hahahahahaha. Yeah, right. We'll see how long that lasts."
Person: "So what names are you thinking?" Me: "Well, we're thinking Joseph or Joe for a boy...." Person: "Joe??! Why don't you name him something else." ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------- And finally.... a conversation with my mom:
Mom: So what names are you thinking? Me: Well, maybe Violet for a girl. Mom: Violet? Like the flower? You could use Rose. Or Daisy. Me: Yeah, I just like Violet. Mom: How about Rose? -----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------
So after my trip to Wal-Mart I thought this belonged on this thread..
What about "the way people look at you" ?
As of the past couple weeks I've been getting a lot of dirty looks.. they don't say anything but they look at me horribly. This old couple in the waiting room at the lab yesterday were staring at my belly with the worst disapproving faces ever. Everytime I'm at a store it's the same thing.... they look at my husband then at me then at my belly... it's a very wtf moment in my head.
I wonder sometimes if it's cause I look underage.. I'll be 25 when LO is born but I've been told I look 16 sometimes.. and DH is 31... so I imagine that's why I get dirty looks..
It's driving me crazy.. I wish people would give me happy smiles and what not but eh what can you do?
I get the same. DH and I are a baby faced 27 & 29 and we dress young, which doesn't help. Most people think we're about 21-23. We also live in an area where the average age to start a family is around 35 (lots of career women around here), so we genuinely look like teen parents and the looks we get reflect that. Never mind that we've been together 10 years, are both uni educated, have good jobs and a mortgage. People make so many assumptions based on appearances. I've even caught people looking at my hand for a wedding ring.
09/23/11 - Married DH
04/01/13 - BFP at 4wks
05/30/13 - MMC - BO @ 12wks 5d
08/29/13 - BFP @ 4wks 4d
09/17/13 - 7wks 2d - Normal HB Detected! Baby measuring perfect for dates and positioning!
10/23/13 - 12wks 3d - Perfect NT scan! HB 167 & baby wriggling, waving & yawning!
12/17/13 - 20wks 2 d - We're having a beautiful baby girl! Go Team Pink!
05/03/14 - Bobbie Gloria was born at 39+6 weighing 6lb 14oz!
Person talking to me:"Are you finding out if it's a boy or girl?" Me, happily: "Nope! We won't know until it comes out!" Person: "Oh, well, I could never do that. I'm just such a planner. I'd really want to know." Me: "I don't mind not knowing." Person: "The suspense would just kill me! Do you actually know and you're just not telling anyone? [wink]" Me: "No, we really don't know." Person: "Sure.... [wink]" Me: .... -------------------------------------------------------------------------- Me: "Well, we're actually planning on using cloth diapers." Person: "Hahahahahaha. Yeah, right. We'll see how long that lasts."
Person: "So what names are you thinking?" Me: "Well, we're thinking Joseph or Joe for a boy...." Person: "Joe??! Why don't you name him something else." ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------- And finally.... a conversation with my mom:
Mom: So what names are you thinking? Me: Well, maybe Violet for a girl. Mom: Violet? Like the flower? You could use Rose. Or Daisy. Me: Yeah, I just like Violet. Mom: How about Rose? -----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------
Because of my mom, I get nervous telling people this one's middle name. A.) Because no one knows how to pronounce and B.) My mom's says "I don't like vaux. You have this pretty girl name and then a middle name that makes her sound like a villian. I still like your first pick anyways. " and she continues to remind me how she "still likes our first pick"
So tonight I met up with a group of friends for a bachelorette party at a local restaurant. I was just meeting them for the dinner portion of the evening. I walked into the restaurant and the hostess said, "omg like don't have your baby here in the restaurant!" Umm yes I'm huge, but not that big. Then because no one was there yet she told me I could go have a drink in the bar then proceeded to laugh and say well, I guess not. Ugh I was disgusted. While I waited she asked if I was having a boy or a girl , I said one of each and she said oh I just knew you were having twins you're huge!! Some people have no filter.
So after my trip to Wal-Mart I thought this belonged on this thread..
What about "the way people look at you" ?
As of the past couple weeks I've been getting a lot of dirty looks.. they don't say anything but they look at me horribly. This old couple in the waiting room at the lab yesterday were staring at my belly with the worst disapproving faces ever. Everytime I'm at a store it's the same thing.... they look at my husband then at me then at my belly... it's a very wtf moment in my head.
I wonder sometimes if it's cause I look underage.. I'll be 25 when LO is born but I've been told I look 16 sometimes.. and DH is 31... so I imagine that's why I get dirty looks..
It's driving me crazy.. I wish people would give me happy smiles and what not but eh what can you do?
Just to offer a different perspective, it might not be about you specifically. You never know what people have gone through in their own lives that might trigger when they see you. I tried writing out some of the issues I've encountered, but I think this article from Still Standing Magazine does a pretty great job at summing it up:
My belly is round.
My baby is moving, healthy, and growing inside.
It was a long time coming after a hard battle with infertility.
The fear is still there after 12 losses and scary uncertainty.
I am happy, hopeful, and excited.
Looking to the future with plans, dreams, and hope for him.
And I see you.
I recognize that glace, that look you put my way.
I can see the pain, sadness, and anger.
I am so sorry.
I recognize that look, I’ve seen it on my own face.
I’ve given the same glance, filled with pain, sadness, and anger.
Not that long ago. To women carrying a life inside them. No mistaking it.
I wish I could hug you and tell you I understand.
I understand.
Pregnancy after infertility and multiple loss can be a strange situation. I want to celebrate and be happy, but fear and anxiety holds me back. I want to shout from the roof tops that a rainbow baby is entering the world and enjoy this, but part of me feels wrong about doing so.
I have been that person giving the glace to a seemingly unaware pregnant woman and wishing things could be different for me. I have been angry and upset that everyone around me seems to be pregnant and unaware of just how quickly things could turn.
I wish I could convey with a quick look that I am not taking this for granted, that I understand how painful it can be to look in my direction, and that I hope with all my being that you can be here one day too.
People keep telling me "any day now!" How about a few months from now. Most people assume I'm about to pop and when they find out I'm due the end of May they are shocked and ask if it's twins! The say strange things like " you're huge!" Thanks?!!! This is like a daily event. 6 people stopped me in the food store yesterday!!! (One lady giving out samples gave me a bigger piece of pineapple upside down cake. I liked her!) I've only gained weight in my belly so I think it makes it look bigger. I'm measuring exactly on point!!!
Just got a new one yesterday... I went for a pedicure and I'm sitting in the chair and the technician points toward my belly with the nail file and says "you have a baby in there". I looked back at her deadpan and said "no I'm smuggling a watermelon." she didn't find it amusing... either that or with the language barrier she didn't get it.
The set up: Yesterday after church, Beb's running a muck around the church hall, I sit down and my mom is "watching her". I look up and Beb's reaching for something on the food table while my mom is chit chatting. I waddle over to address the situation, conversation follows:
Mom: oh, this is my daughter. This is [women at church].
WAC: to me - your daughter is a doll.
Me: thank you
WAC gives my mom inquisitive looks and points at my belly, my mom says yes she's expecting, turns back to me
WAC: I wasn't sure if you were pregnant or just fat.
WTF lady??? Not something you say to anyone, ever. Pregnant or not.
I was stunned. Good thing my kid took off so I could chase her and not answer.
Had a throw-back SPS moment reminder today. When I was pregnant with DS1 I was super emotional (usually never cried before) and I'd just need to cry sometimes. My H got super concerned/borderline angry because he was convinced that I'd somehow hurt the baby if I cried too much. I had to explain to him that if pregnant women crying caused health concerns, the human race would have died out long ago.
Contrast that with today (3 years later, pregnant with baby #3), DH hears me ranting upstairs about taxes and silently brings up 2 rice krispie treats to make me feel better. Now he's shoveling all of the snow around my car. :x
I got a new one today; at work I was talking to a woman I don't know very well and I said something about being 7 months pregnant and she looked me up and down with a shocked look on her face and said "Wow by looking at you I thought you were supposed to have had your baby by now."
Ugh got so pissed at my coworker today I immediately thought of this thread to post on. I was in court and we walked out together to the elevator. At the same time a father and his 5-ish daughter approached the elevator. No one pushed the button and it was like a game of chicken going for the button. It was 4pm, we are swamped and I have 0 patience so in pushed the button. My coworker freaked out "omg she wanted to push the button!" dad didnt say anything and girlie wasnt making any movements to push it. So coworker follows up by saying to dad, "I'm sorry, she doesn't have any kids yet and didn't realize pushing the button is such a big deal." Btw this lady is like 34 and doesn't have any kids either. Ugh I was livid.
Re: Sh*t people say...
People like her continue to behave like that because they believe they can continually get away with being passive aggressive. I would call her out on her shit with an up front "it's rude to discuss my weight at all, let alone with other people." Also, I am really snarky this late in my pregnancy so I might make a point to discuss at length how the book of Romans addresses gossip.
I wish I could be snarky on the fly! I never think of clever comebacks until I'm retelling the story later.
I've learned to just smile at this lady and hold it in. She just wants a reaction, and I refuse to bite. Total witch though. I'm sure she'll give me LOTS of parenting advice in the future, maybe I'll be good and snarky by then. I've got lots of ammo for her in that category as long as I can conjure it up in the moment!
Also, I fell down last Friday when we got the latest round of Epic Snow (and I'm fine! and the baby's also totally fine!) and since then DH is constantly, constantly telling me to not fall down. It's kind of sweet, but also super irritating. I'm trying to be careful, honest, but it's winter in the Mid Freaking West. Ice happens.
You are "intitled" to name your child whatever you want. I'm the first one to like unique (or youneek) names (see screen name), but you can't just make up a spelling and expect people to pronounce it the way you want.
FTR, I don't think anyone was rude, we were just simply pointing out that it would likely be mispronounced.
Mommy to my sweet boy, JG, born May 15, 2014
Baby #2 due 4/26/16!
Mommy to my sweet boy, JG, born May 15, 2014
Baby #2 due 4/26/16!
09/23/11 - Married DH
04/01/13 - BFP at 4wks
05/30/13 - MMC - BO @ 12wks 5d
08/29/13 - BFP @ 4wks 4d
09/17/13 - 7wks 2d - Normal HB Detected! Baby measuring perfect for dates and positioning!
10/23/13 - 12wks 3d - Perfect NT scan! HB 167 & baby wriggling, waving & yawning!
12/17/13 - 20wks 2 d - We're having a beautiful baby girl! Go Team Pink!
05/03/14 - Bobbie Gloria was born at 39+6 weighing 6lb 14oz!
Really? He sounds like a real stand up guy!
That One Gal From Alaska
09/23/11 - Married DH
04/01/13 - BFP at 4wks
05/30/13 - MMC - BO @ 12wks 5d
08/29/13 - BFP @ 4wks 4d
09/17/13 - 7wks 2d - Normal HB Detected! Baby measuring perfect for dates and positioning!
10/23/13 - 12wks 3d - Perfect NT scan! HB 167 & baby wriggling, waving & yawning!
12/17/13 - 20wks 2 d - We're having a beautiful baby girl! Go Team Pink!
05/03/14 - Bobbie Gloria was born at 39+6 weighing 6lb 14oz!
Me: "I AM extremely pregnant now."
No patience. None!
Mommy to my sweet boy, JG, born May 15, 2014
Baby #2 due 4/26/16!
I was standing in the office yesterday with 2 other people who are pregnant also, but they are due in June. One is my height and size (our colleagues call us twins), and one is teeny and could basically fit in my pocket.
At least 4 people who walked by us looked at the teeny one and said "Oh, your bump is just so cute!" Then they would notice me and my "twin" and say things like "I mean, you're all beautiful, but look how little she is!"
Gee. Thanks.
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Me, happily: "Nope! We won't know until it comes out!"
Person: "Oh, well, I could never do that. I'm just such a planner. I'd really want to know."
Me: "I don't mind not knowing."
Person: "The suspense would just kill me! Do you actually know and you're just not telling anyone? [wink]"
Me: "No, we really don't know."
Person: "Sure.... [wink]"
Me: ....
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Me: "Well, we're actually planning on using cloth diapers."
Person: "Hahahahahaha. Yeah, right. We'll see how long that lasts."
Me: "Well, we're thinking Joseph or Joe for a boy...."
Person: "Joe??! Why don't you name him something else."
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And finally.... a conversation with my mom:
Mom: So what names are you thinking?
Me: Well, maybe Violet for a girl.
Mom: Violet? Like the flower? You could use Rose. Or Daisy.
Me: Yeah, I just like Violet.
Mom: How about Rose?
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Welcomed our rainbow baby 5/20/2014! It's a girl!
I get the same. DH and I are a baby faced 27 & 29 and we dress young, which doesn't help. Most people think we're about 21-23. We also live in an area where the average age to start a family is around 35 (lots of career women around here), so we genuinely look like teen parents and the looks we get reflect that. Never mind that we've been together 10 years, are both uni educated, have good jobs and a mortgage. People make so many assumptions based on appearances. I've even caught people looking at my hand for a wedding ring.
09/23/11 - Married DH
04/01/13 - BFP at 4wks
05/30/13 - MMC - BO @ 12wks 5d
08/29/13 - BFP @ 4wks 4d
09/17/13 - 7wks 2d - Normal HB Detected! Baby measuring perfect for dates and positioning!
10/23/13 - 12wks 3d - Perfect NT scan! HB 167 & baby wriggling, waving & yawning!
12/17/13 - 20wks 2 d - We're having a beautiful baby girl! Go Team Pink!
05/03/14 - Bobbie Gloria was born at 39+6 weighing 6lb 14oz!
My belly is round.
My baby is moving, healthy, and growing inside.
It was a long time coming after a hard battle with infertility.
The fear is still there after 12 losses and scary uncertainty.
I am happy, hopeful, and excited.
Looking to the future with plans, dreams, and hope for him.
And I see you.
I recognize that glace, that look you put my way.
I can see the pain, sadness, and anger.
I am so sorry.
I recognize that look, I’ve seen it on my own face.
I’ve given the same glance, filled with pain, sadness, and anger.
Not that long ago. To women carrying a life inside them. No mistaking it.
I wish I could hug you and tell you I understand.
I understand.
Pregnancy after infertility and multiple loss can be a strange situation. I want to celebrate and be happy, but fear and anxiety holds me back. I want to shout from the roof tops that a rainbow baby is entering the world and enjoy this, but part of me feels wrong about doing so.
I have been that person giving the glace to a seemingly unaware pregnant woman and wishing things could be different for me. I have been angry and upset that everyone around me seems to be pregnant and unaware of just how quickly things could turn.
I wish I could convey with a quick look that I am not taking this for granted, that I understand how painful it can be to look in my direction, and that I hope with all my being that you can be here one day too.
DS1 - 7/2011, DD 12/2012, DS2 - 4/2014, MMC - 12/2015
This is like a daily event. 6 people stopped me in the food store yesterday!!! (One lady giving out samples gave me a bigger piece of pineapple upside down cake. I liked her!)
I've only gained weight in my belly so I think it makes it look bigger. I'm measuring exactly on point!!!
Co-worker: “Wow! You have really gained weight in your face!”
As I think "Thanks…. That will totally distract me from thinking about the cellulite all around my knees for a while."
DS1 - 7/2011, DD 12/2012, DS2 - 4/2014, MMC - 12/2015
Thanks for making me feel huge, lady.