Ugh, I have a dilemma, y'all...

Re: Ugh, I have a dilemma, y'all...

• iamapixie member

  March 2014

  I mean, there's no reason why your DH wouldn't trust that it was his. I say roll with it and decide what to do when the baby comes if it really looks like the best man. Good luck!

  
  

   

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• kitara64 member

  March 2014

  I am going to say that you are going to have to be honest with DH.  What you did was wrong and you need to answer to that.  You are bringing a baby into the world.  That baby deserves to know who its father is and your husband deserves to know if that baby is his.  Good luck to you.

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• Meery82 member

  March 2014

  So what you're saying is that you cheated on your husband at your wedding and got knocked up by the best man? I'm sorry, but I'm going to have to call bullshit. This is MUD. And, on the off chance that it's not, well then... JER-RY! JER-RY! JER-RY!

  

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• Meery82 member

  March 2014

  Or maybe Maury. "DH, you are NOT the father!"

  

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• Mizoo member

  March 2014

  I don't know if I believe this, but if it's real you need to tell your H.  If you got pregnant new years eve, you'd be around 10 weeks along now.  When was your last period?
  

  

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• rlyttle member

  March 2014

  MUD!! If you got pregnant on NYE you would be around 10 weeks along. When did you get that positive test?

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• MrsSinner402 member

  March 2014

  iamapixie said:

  I mean, there's no reason why your DH wouldn't trust that it was his. I say roll with it and decide what to do when the baby comes if it really looks like the best man. Good luck!

  
  This is the worst advice, ever. Make him think it's his the entire pregnancy and then see if it looks like the best man? You're absolutely cruel.

  
  

  
  

  
  
  
  

  

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• alis grave nil member

  March 2014

  Thank you, iamapixie and kitara! Guys, I came here just asking for advice because I don't know what to do. This is a really tough decision for me and I just want to do what is best for my baby! For those asking my last period was 12/16, but I didn't think anything of it when I skipped it in January, my periods have always been ridiculously irregular. Plus, we moved into our new house that we just bought and I was SOOO stressed out. Then when it didn't come in February I was freaking out a little bit, so I took a test. I've known for a couple weeks, I just didn't know who to talk to and then I found this board. I still act normal around DH so that he doesn't know. :-/ Any SERIOUS advice would be appreciated...

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• alis grave nil member

  March 2014

  and I'm TOTALLY starting to show, so he's definitely going to know soon!

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• cMichelle0423 member

  March 2014

  alis grave nil said:

  and I'm TOTALLY starting to show, so he's definitely going to know soon!

  Considering your uterus is basically still behind your pubic bone, I'm going to go ahead and say you're totally not showing.

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• Emerald27 member

  March 2014

  So you got married but didn't have ANY sex with DH around that time? Just his best man? I mean, isn't it very likely that DH is actually your baby's father?
  
  In case this isn't MUD, if I were you, I'd come clean now. A marriage must be based on trust, and your DH deserves your honesty. Don't you respect him enough to give him that?

  
  

  
  

  

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• CNJ4EVA member

  March 2014

  alis grave nil said:

  and I'm TOTALLY starting to show, so he's definitely going to know soon!

  If there was doubt before, there can be none now. MUD.

  
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• alis grave nil member

  March 2014

  Emerald, I did have sex with DH 2 nights later, so could the baby still be his? Because that would be a HUGE weight off of my shoulders!

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• MrsSinner402 member

  March 2014

  alis grave nil said:

  Emerald, I did have sex with DH 2 nights later, so could the baby still be his? Because that would be a HUGE weight off of my shoulders!

  
  How can you be so ignorant and misinformed about pregnancy? Quit making shit up.

  
  

  
  

  
  
  
  

  

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• AggieBeth06 member

  March 2014

  This is either MUD or you are seriously not the brightest crayon in the box.

  
  

  

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  Later diagnosed with Hashimoto's Thyroiditis, possible link to HELLP.

  PG#2 M/C 3/14 - Surprise BFP 2/13. Beta's doubled every 52 hours from 3w5d-5w5d
  Viable pregnancy scan at 5w5d; 2nd u/s showed 2 days of growth in 7 but a HB of 120
  3rd u/s on 3/10/14 had no HB and baby had only grown 7 days over 14
  D&C 3/17/14 - complications - DX Retroflexed uterus, multiple tears to cervix

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• RondackHiker member

  March 2014

  How do you end up hooking up with someone else at your wedding reception? I'm not a clingy person and was basically attached to dh the entire night, since it was, ya know, our wedding.
  
  I could imagine jumping into a closet with my new husband, but can't imagine being trashy enough to think hooking up with his best friend is a good plan. I assume this is made up.

  
  

  
  

   

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• Everyusernameistaken member

  March 2014

  On a different note, I'd suggest changing your profile pic if that is actually a picture of you (and if your screen name is similar to your real name, I'd change that, too). The Internet is a very public place and you are posting some VERY personal, sensitive information.

  
  

   

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• AggieBeth06 member

  March 2014

  If by any chance you were drinking when this happened, you might have more problems then you think.

  
  

  

  PG#1 - 3rd cycle BFP. Team Green. HELLP syndrome @ 34 weeks.
  Later diagnosed with Hashimoto's Thyroiditis, possible link to HELLP.

  PG#2 M/C 3/14 - Surprise BFP 2/13. Beta's doubled every 52 hours from 3w5d-5w5d
  Viable pregnancy scan at 5w5d; 2nd u/s showed 2 days of growth in 7 but a HB of 120
  3rd u/s on 3/10/14 had no HB and baby had only grown 7 days over 14
  D&C 3/17/14 - complications - DX Retroflexed uterus, multiple tears to cervix

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• barely member

  March 2014

  This cannot be real....

  TTC since 5/13

  BFP 1/23 

  MMC 3/4

  D&C-3/12 

  Currently NTNP

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• victoria+james member

  March 2014

  If by chance this is real... go to your doctor for a dating ultrasound. That will give you an approximate conception date.
  
  Bottom line. You need to tell your husband about cheating. A marriage based on lies isn't much of a marriage.

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
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• MrsSinner402 member

  March 2014

  AFwifelife said:

  Everyusernameistaken said:

  On a different note, I'd suggest changing your profile pic if that is actually a picture of you (and if your screen name is similar to your real name, I'd change that, too). The Internet is a very public place and you are posting some VERY personal, sensitive information.

  Google image search is awesome
  

  
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• Everyusernameistaken member

  March 2014

  Also in all seriousness if this is for real you should probably get tested for STIs, you really don't want to pass those on to your H. Hopefully your prenatal testing will/has included at least some common STI testing, but I'd be frank with your Dr about the situation to see if you need extra tests.

  
  

   

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• Puppies+Rainbows+Unicorns member

  March 2014

  Think I saw this movie. Let me guess, the wedding was in Vegas and the two guys different races?

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• atmaloney member

  March 2014

  If he doesn't divorce you over this, I'm sure hell end up divorcing you over something else. You sound like a piece of shit.

  Baby Maloney due 8-3-14!

  
  

  
  

  
  

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• kami09 member

  March 2014

  Her screenname is "Ali grave nil"...like from pretty little liars. This is definitely a joke.

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• Everyusernameistaken member

  March 2014

  kami09 said:

  Her screenname is "Ali grave nil"...like from pretty little liars. This is definitely a joke.

  And her avatar is David Lynch's daughter.

  
  

   

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• cMichelle0423 member

  March 2014 edited March 2014

  I wonder if all the trolls had a meeting and decided to stir shit up this weekend. It was finally getting quiet on the tri boards...

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• Empireceo member

  March 2014

  I like that in your OP you're not totally proud of banging the best man. But kinda.

   
  

  

  

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  March 2014

  

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• WashingtonQueen member

  March 2014

  cMichelle0423 said:

  I wonder if all the trolls had a meeting and decided to stir shit up this weekend. It was finally getting quiet on the tri boards...

  My theory is that it's a bunch of bored and lonely women from babycenter.
  

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