First week troubles

inluv4life2 · February 2014

It's our first week home. I'm tired, struggling with BF and SO cranky. I straight up screamed at my DD for trying to hug me when I was nursing. I've never spoken to her that way and I felt AWFUL. I apologized to her and explained that nursing hurts really bad at first and any touching is very ouchie. She said she understood but I still feel awful. UGH! I hope I can get the BF down and get some freaking sleep soon. (PS I'm pumping now or I would be asleep.)

Anyone else feel like a jerk to their older kiddos?

shellbell3845 · February 2014

No older kiddos to deal with, but I can see where dealing with two and keeping everyone happy would be so, so hard. Hugs to you.

My biggest problem this week is figuring out how to wake LO up to eat. He just had two sips and is out cold. Cue crying mama.

MamaAllison · February 2014

Right there with you and we're a month out! Yesterday DD1 put her hand on my boob and put all her weight on it. I burst into tears it hurt so bad! Then my husband came and yelled at her, I'm yelling, "She didn't mean to!" Then she's hitting me (?) and kicking my husband and crying, wouldn't apologize, had to go to time out.... It was ultimate parent fail.

amerk1107 · February 2014

I was feeling that way about BF too till I got some nipple shields now I feel like I can do this EBF thing

Sorry that I have no advice on dealing with older kids and a newborn as I'm a FTM but, I can imagine. Just remember to breath and try to rest when you can.

sandraanddrew · February 2014

Yeah I feel like like a horrible mom at times with DS. DH just went back to work this week so it was my first time along with both kids. I feel like I've spent 75% if the week yelling at DS for one thing after another. Jumping on the couch while I'm sitting with DD , chasing the cats, throwing good during mealtimes, the list goes on and on. Fortunately, I don't think it's having any lasting effects because he still wants me above DH all the time.

Don't worry, this parenting gig is hard. You're doing the best you can. It takes time to work out how to handle multiple kids. It will get better!

slwprincess · February 2014

Yes :-(. It's hard to explain but I kinda go mama bear on them when they get too close to LO. I'm bummed b/c we had planned special outings for tomorrow (me and DD and DH and DS) so they could have some alone time but now I've got strep throat! Just have to remind myself that this is a short phase in life and they will be fine.

keags5496 · February 2014

Hugs mama! It is super hard finding that balance. We're close to a month in and I feel like we're finally figuring it out. You will settle in to a routine and everyone will adjust. When I have guilty moments I keep reminding myself that I was 4 when my mom brought home my sister and I don't remember any of it.

TessyMessy · February 2014

Yes I'm right there with you too! We are almost 6 weeks in and I had a major mommy meltdown last night and made DS1 cry. Unfortunately LO's cranky time of day is when DS1 gets home from school and I'm trying to make dinner. By this time of day I'm tired (because no sleep) and have little patience left. I feel bad for DS1 because he's not really being bad, just an obnoxious 6 year old boy with a lot of energy. I am hopeful that things will improve when LO starts STTN and the weather warms up so DS1 can run around outside. But until then I'm not cooking dinner anymore! Too much work.

sprashley · February 2014

Right there with you - we came home on Tuesday night and while BF is going 'ok' it is definitely not painless. Anyway, so after LO was up last night nursing/fussing on and off she finally fell asleep around 1 am. Around 1:30, DD2 came in our room and said she was thirsty and needed water.

I handed her the (full) water glass from my bedside table and she dropped it right into the bassinet, soaking everything. LO was actually next to me at the time so she didn't get wet, but now I had nowhere to put here. My reaction was less than empathetic (it was an accident) and poor DD2 is so sensitive she was really upset about it and was crying hysterically. I still feel bad. But this incident resulted in LO waking up again and me being up until 3 or so. ugh.....

sdlaura · February 2014

Yep, 18-month-old DD wants so badly to be close to her brother, but doesn't understand how to be gentle at all, which has resulted in me being unreasonably mad at her when she accidentally touches her brother too hard. It's difficult to juggle!

magentawarped · February 2014

We're almost four weeks out, and I'm still struggling with this. It'll take a little while to really get into a groove, I'm sure...just hang in there!

msenginerd · February 2014

(Hugs) I'm struggling finding a balance too. I feel like taking care of a newborn is easier this time around. But everything else is more complicated. My mom has even been here helping out all week. She left today. I'm nervous about how things will be now.

inluv4life2 · March 2014

Thanks for the words of reassurance everyone. It helps to know I'm not alone.

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