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Freaking out!

nicolette314nicolette314 member
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I had a stillborn 10 years ago and now I'm 6 weeks along with what I am hoping to be my miracle baby.  My new OBGYN just received my records from the previous pregnancy and now they want me to see a High Risk Dr.  I am so scared I will lose this baby.  Is it normal to feel this frightened and stressed out?  This Dr.'s appt can not come soon enough!
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  • JessicaG220JessicaG220 member
    First of all, congrats on your pregnancy. Secondly, as someone who has also experienced a stillbirth, I am super anxious and nervous, too. Totally normal. My best advice is to try and relax and take things one day at a time. Wishing you h&h 9 months!

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  • nicolette314nicolette314 member
    Awe thank you JessicaG220!! 
    :)

    I never thought these boards would help as much as they do!  As unfortunate as it is, it's nice to know there are people who can relate.  My husband just doesn't understand the very emotional side to it all (that's not saying he isn't supportive though, cause he is great!).

    Happy, healthy 9 months to you too!!!  Congrats!
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  • mtaylor404mtaylor404 member
    Congrats on your pregnancy! I am very sorry to hear about your previous loss.  I have not experienced a stillbirth, but I have had a loss.  I know that the stress and anxiety is very real.  I hope you get a good high risk doctor and good care.  I hope you have a happy and healthy 9 months.
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  • nicolette314nicolette314 member
    Thank you!!  Same to you! We can do this!!  Stay positive!  Congrats to you as well
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  • salsa_wifeysalsa_wifey member
    Welcome and congrats!!! I have not had your experience but I believe those feelings are normal.  All of us have a fear at some level or another. I can't imagine what you've gone through and I just want to say how sorry I am for your loss. FX on a great appt and a H &H 9 months with a beautiful rainbow baby!!  (((Hugs)))

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  • czarmomczarmom member
    Welcome and congrats!  I'm so sorry for the loss of your baby.   Although I have not been in your exact situation, I have had an early loss and the fear is still there.  However, every week that passes makes is easier and every appointment reassures me that this pregnancy is its own and the past doesn't predict the future.   There are some mantras on this board (if you do a search, you will find them) and they are also very helpful.  

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  • angelsnightangelsnight member
    I'm so sorry for your loss, but congrats on your pregnancy.  My daughter was stillborn last year, so this pregnancy was very stressful, worrying the same thing would happen.  If you don't mind me asking, how far along were you?  For me, things got a lot easier once I passed my loss milestone (22 weeks).  I hope you're able to find peace and enjoy this pregnancy, but please know your fears and anxiety is completely normal.
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  • cawettigcawettig member
    I am so sorry for your loss. I had my daughter born sleeping at 38 weeks 10 months ago. Getting so close to my milestone is driving me nuts. This board has helped me get through the hard pgal times. I hope that it can do the same for you. Lots and lots of T&ps your way for an uneventfull 9 months!

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  • kimmyberly26kimmyberly26 member
    I'm so sorry about your previous loss. I haven't experienced what you have but it is very normal to feel frightened and anxious. This board has helped a lot of ladies throughout their pregnancies. Lots of Ts &PS for a boring uneventful pregnancy.

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  • nicolette314nicolette314 member
    I was 23 weeks along!  So scary! 

    Thank you for telling me about the mantras they do help!

    These boards really are amazing!

    Thank you for the kind words everyone :)
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