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Ahhh! Overwhelmed with emotion!
PennyLane26
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AF arrived today which means my first FET cycle is officially underway. I feel like I want to pee my pants with excitement AND throw up because of anxiety.
WTF. Actually, IF brain tells me I can't even use that term because for the IFer it doesn't apply to this situation. IF has even gone so far as to take even THAT simple term away from me. FU. That's better.
Started Estrace and baby aspirin, heading to RE on Saturday for initial bw and looking ahead to a transfer on Sunday 3/16.
Now here's a question unique to IF mamas. What to do with G on transfer day? Children are not allowed to attend the procedure (understandably). DH and I want to keep this cycle between just us, so what excuse do I give my mom to babysit? What the heck would we need to do on a Sunday morning? I thought of telling her we were going for brunch in the city, but I'll most likely be wearing a chic yoga pant… not gonna fly. Any ideas? I feel bad lying but if it's not successful I don't want to get anyone's hopes up. The other option is have DH stay home with her and drive myself to and from transfer alone. Not sure I'm on board with that. WWSAIFD??
ETA date
dx: MFI 0% morph & low count. Occasional Anovulatory cycles.
TTC #1
- IVF #1 4/21/12 - c/p
- IVF#2 8/1/12 - BFP! DD arrived 4/10/2013.
TTC #2
- FET #1 3/18/14 - BFP! DS arrived 11/19/2014.
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Re: Ahhh! Overwhelmed with emotion!
We also wanted to keep things quiet about our FET and didn't want to disrupt DD1's day, so DH stayed home w her and I went alone.
I haven't been in your same sich, but I probably wouldn't want to go alone (if you're overwhelmed with emotion now, think about transfer day!). Could you wear a comfortable skirt or dress instead of yoga pants, so that you look more brunch-esque? I have a couple of skirts that might as well be yoga pants, in terms of fit and comfort.
Anovulatory cycles, increased Synthroid Diagnosed Sep 2010
1 Clomid/Ovidrel BFN May 2011
Natural cycle Aug 2011 BFP M/C 4 Weeks
1 IUI Sept 2011 BFP M/c 7 weeks
Provera Dec 2011 BFP M/C 3 Weeks
IVF March 2012 BFP m/c 4weeks 5 days (IL, Prednisone)
IVF#2w/DS July 2012 MEGA FAILURE BFN (IL, Dexamethasone)
Diagnosed No real HLA Match, DQ Beta Triad, High TNF, Low NK Cells
Oct 2012 Natural Cycle m/c 4wks (Lovenox, Prednisone)
Went to Beer Center- high tnf, low lad, implantation failure
Jan 2013 BFP
Humira,LIT,Prednisone, Lovenox, IVIG, Baby Aspirin
Miracle Born August 2013 Premature
Yours doesn't have to be a sad story
Good luck Penny!!! i am already totally overwhelmed thinking about number 2 so I can't even imagine how you are feeling.
Two questions: is your DH allowed in the transfer room and do you take valium pre transfer?
My DH is not so it would be an easy decision to leave him home with LO (although he is such a girl I guarantee he'd get upset about this and refuse!)..... but I take valium pre transfers so I wouldn't be able to drive myself.
What about just telling your mom you guys just want to take a few hours to yourself to re-connect? No further details? Otherwise do you have a sitter you can pay? As far as I am concerned if you are paying someone - no need to explain anything!
"I won't give up on us, even if the skies get rough, I'm giving you all my love, I"m still looking up."
TTC #1 since August 2011 MFI Diagnosis - April 2012
IVF #1 - July 2012 - Stims start 7/2, ER 7/12, 20 retrieved, 16 mature, 13 fertilized!
ET - 7/17 - 1 blast transferred. Beta - 7/26 273, Beta 2 7/30 - 1143. Beta 3 8/6 - 11,597
12/25 - Santa tells us "IT'S A GIRL!" EDD - April 4th
Our Little Easter Bunny has arrived!
Molly Mildred born 03/31/13
TTC A Sibling....... FET #1 11/14/14, Transferred one beautiful blast
Remaining four frosties arrested due to "embryologist error"
Plllllleasssee stick little icicle.....Beta 11/23...BFN
Starting ALL over with a fresh IVF cycle
Stims start 11/28/14, ER December 10th, 13 eggs retrieved, 11 mature, only 4 fertilized
1 Blast Transferred on December 15th..... Beta Christmas Eve... Please Santa, bring me a baby!
Beta #1 345.....Beta #2....750/ First U/S 1/13/15/HB 131....EDD 9/2/2015
Me:34 Type 1 Diabetes, Ankylosing Spondylitis, Hypothyroid DH:35 Perfect
DX: Unexplained IF
Many IUI's with various meds all BFFN
IVF #1 11/11 canceled due to OHSS
IVF #2 Feb/March 2012 ET of 2 on day 3 4/7 BFP! 5/1 u/s blighted ovum
IVF #3 July 2012 ET of 3 on day 3 7/24 BFP!
Healthy baby girl born at 36w4d on 3/9/13
TTC#3
IVF #5 June 2018- PGS planned, no surviving embryos
IVF #6 August 2018- ET of 2 on day 3 - Chemical pregnancy
IVF #7 August 2019-....?
We are keeping TTC #2 between the two of us as well. My transfers have always been during the week so we just sent DS to daycare or my sister in laws just like we normally would. If it were on a weekend, we would probably have my IL's watch DS for a few hours and just fib about where we were going. I would want DH with me and he wants to be there, too. We don't have a babysitter that we could pay, or we'd do that. If you're worried about what you're wearing, I'd just get dressed like your normally would to go to brunch. Maybe do leggings and a sweater so you're still comfy??
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Trying for #1 since May 2010 l DX ~ Unexplained Infertility June 2011
IUI #1&2 = BFN; IUI #3 = BFP, m/c @ 6 weeks
November '11 ~ IVF#1 ~ ER 11/18 (29R, 17F) ~ 5dt of one beautiful blast on 11/23 = BFP!!
Beta #1 9dp5dt = 116, P4 = 28 ~ Beta #2 13dp5dt = 700 ~ Beta #3 20dp5dt = 9500, P4 = 26
1st u/s 12/27 - hb of 156!! EDD 8.10.12
**TEAM GREEN!**
Sweet baby boy born 8.18.12
Trying for #2
FET #1 - October '13 - c/p l FET #2 - December '13 - cancelled
l FET #2.2 - 1.30.14 - BFN
~ More testing - hysteroscopy, endometrial biopsy & more b/w - all normal / negative~
Surprise BFP while waiting on FET #3 ~ beta #1 500; beta #2 1600; first u/s 4/3 - measuring 5w5d, no hb yet!; 2nd u/s 4/10 - hb 132, measuring 6w6d - EDD 11.29.14
**TEAM GREEN!**
Beautiful baby girl born 11.24.14
I'd say just ask for the help. No excuse is needed. Just say hey, can you watch LO for a bit?
IUI#2 Femara/Ovidrel (cd 5-9) = BFN
IUI#3 Femara/Ovidrel (cd 3-7) = BFP!
beta #1 11/23 = 270, P4 = 75
beta #2 11/28 = 2055
Our daughter E was born 7/29/2012!
Surprise, our 2nd daughter P was born 5/22/14!
Me 38 MH 41 - TTC since June 2010 - dx with Severe MFI. Straight to IVF with ICSI. IVF #1 - ER 06/13/12 - 9 Eggs Retrieved - 4 ICSI'd - only 2 fert. 06/15/12 - 2DT - 3 cell & 6 cell with fragmentation. Beta 06/29/12 - IVF #1 = BFN. 07/20/12 - WTF Appt -Told by our RE to quit IVF. Second Opinion from RE is good. IVF#2 - November 2012. Estradiol Pills Started 11/6. Stims start 11/16. ER 11/26 - 7 eggs retrieved - all mature. 4 fertilized with ICSI. ET 11/29 Transferred 3 embryos. Beta is 12/10. 1st Beta 81 2nd Beta 160 and 3rd beta 360!!! First U/S 12/21/12 - We saw one beautiful gest. sac. 2nd U/S is 01/04/2013 - H/B 183 02/05/13 - NT Scan - everything looks good and IT'S A BOY! Aiden was born 08/20/2013.
IVF #2 is in progress. ER was 05/12/14 - 11 eggs retrieved, 8 fertilized with ICSI. ET was 05/15/14 - we transferred 3 embryos as we did on the cycle my son was conceived. We were able to freeze 3 embryos. Beta is scheduled for 05/26/14. 1st beta - 111. 2nd beta - 159 didn't double
3rd beta Friday 5/30) - not a lot of hope left. Beta # 3 is 247 - probably ectopic. Beta # 4 is 813 - possibly vanishing multiple sydrome? 06/05/14 - 5w4days - first U/S - we see a gestational sac and yolk - still have hope! 06/17/14 - 7w1day - U/S and saw and heard the heartbeat - Finally! 06/27/14 - 8w4days - Baby and heartbeat look and sound great 
EDD 02/01/14 and It's a boy!
"Everything will be okay in the end. If it's not okay, it's not the end."
I echo PP - I don't think I could go by myself (it's also a 2 hr drive one way for me though). Has G spent the night with grandparents before? Maybe she could do that and y'all have a relaxing day on Sunday? Or maybe just that you all want a relaxing day to yourselves. I don't blame you for wanting to keep it a secret at all.
Good luck!! Keep us posted!
TTC #2
Married: 5/09 ~ TTC Since: 10/10 ~ PCOS ~ Progesterone from 10/10 - 2/11 ~ HSG on 3/18 - Clear ~ Started Metformin 1000mg & Clomid 50mg 2/11 ~ Metformin upped to 1500mg 4/6 ~ 6/7 Now going to SG and put on Clomid, Ovidrel, Gonal F, Prometrium, Estrace ~ IUI #1 7/2 = BFP!!!!!! March 6th our little man was born.
6/17/13 - Ovidrel, Follistim, Prometrium ~ IUI #1 7/2 = BFP! March 17th our St. Pattys day baby arrived
10/29/17 - Started process for IVF, got pregnant & miscarried a 2nd time since summer. 2/22 started stims - Menopur, Gonal F, Cetrotide - retrieval 3/6 - , PIO, estrace 3xday - FET 4/18 = Beta 1: 616; Beta 2: 1342 = BFP