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tealowl · February 2014

DO TELL.

tealowl · February 2014

Rolling Stones are the fucking worst.

MeggoWaffles · February 2014

I don't get it when people say they aren't finding out the sex of the baby because they "want to be surprised." Not that I'm judging team greens - more power to you. But its about WHEN you are surprised, not whether you are surprised. So when people get all judgey about me finding out the sex of the baby, and say "Don't you want to be surprised?" my response is "I will be. At the ultrasound."

tealowl · February 2014

MeggoWaffles said:

I don't get it when people say they aren't finding out the sex of the baby because they "want to be surprised." Not that I'm judging team greens - more power to you. But its about WHEN you are surprised, not whether you are surprised. So when people get all judgey about me finding out the sex of the baby, and say "Don't you want to be surprised?" my response is "I will be. At the ultrasound."

I agree that the surprise is good both ways. I'm Team Green, but the only reason I say that 'we want it to be a surprise' is because the REAL reason we're not finding out tends to confuse family members or make people roll their eyes, and it bothers/upsets me.

Being a feminisit, I don't want to subject my unborn child to social gender norms before it's even born - if I find out its a boy or a girl, they become a 'princess' or a 'little man' and I'll get bombarded by either all pink or all blue items or clothing. I just want my pregnancy to be a pregnancy. I have neutral items and clothing picked out already. I have pink activity toys and mats handed down to me and I'm totally okay with them being pink and being used for a boy. It's important to me and S/O, but when I try to explain myself some friends or family roll their eyes at me, and it just hurts my feelings.

*steps off soapbox*

salsy2012 · February 2014

trawas01 said:

I think every person on my BMB who has told the girl who wants to be friends with the old high school friend convicted of child pornography charges that this is big of her, or admirable or anything else positive are friken nuts.

Who would want to rekindle a friendship with someone like that? Much less consider having them around their child?

Yup.

likeanoldtimemovie · February 2014

tealowl said:

Rolling Stones are the fucking worst.

You are dead to me.

tealowl · February 2014

trawas01 said:

I think every person on my BMB who has told the girl who wants to be friends with the old high school friend convicted of child pornography charges that this is big of her, or admirable or anything else positive are friken nuts.

Who would want to rekindle a friendship with someone like that? Much less consider having them around their child?

What the what?!

tealowl · February 2014

likeanoldtimemovie said:

tealowl said:

Rolling Stones are the fucking worst.
You are dead to me.

I'm dead to about %75 of my friends for this too!

Emerald27 · February 2014

trawas01 said:
I think every person on my BMB who has told the girl who wants to be friends with the old high school friend convicted of child pornography charges that this is big of her, or admirable or anything else positive are friken nuts.

Who would want to rekindle a friendship with someone like that? Much less consider having them around their child?

I don't get this at all. I wouldn't want to speak to/see/know or even acknowledge someone who did something so deplorable. Whether I had children of my own or not! And having children, I can't imagine befriending someone and letting them be within a mile of LO. No no and no.

Rocknroll64 · February 2014

You don't have to tell anyone if you find out the sex early.

Also I'm team Green because personally, I think finding out the sex via ultrasound is kind of anticlimactic. To me, it just seems much more special to find out after the throws of labour and delivery and to hear those words "It's a boy" or "it's a girl" along with my baby's first cries.. I dunno it makes sense to me.

Nothing wrong either way just explaining my decision to wait.

IvyMagic828 · February 2014

Rocknroll64 said:

You don't have to tell anyone if you find out the sex early.

Also I'm team Green because personally, I think finding out the sex via ultrasound is kind of anticlimactic. To me, it just seems much more special to find out after the throws of labour and delivery and to hear those words "It's a boy" or "it's a girl" along with my baby's first cries.. I dunno it makes sense to me.

Nothing wrong either way just explaining my decision to wait.

This is why we are team Green as well. We want to be "surprised", but at delivery. To us it's a much more special and unique circumstance than finding out at the anatomy scan. To me, the comment that you'll be surprised no matter when you find out so that's no reason to wait is not valid, because the circumstances of when you find out are different and affect the decision to be team green or not. For some of us, it does matter. And if you'd rather know ASAP, then that's fine by me.

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