When did you know you really wanted a baby

guzqui · February 2014

Hi! I'm new here and this is my story.
I got married 2 years ago and we always talked about having babies but we wanted to wait for the right time. I'm 31 and my Husband is 32.
I had surgery in November an ovarian cyst was removed. Since then, because of all the cancer tests before the surgery and the possibility of never having kids, I started thinking that maybe it's time to start trying. I'm healthy now and, the doctor only removed the cyst, he did all the fertility tests and I'm perfectly fine.
But I can't get babies off my brain!
Anyone has a similar story?

Helenahhandbasket · February 2014

I don't really have a similar story-- I just woke up one day and it was like a light switch had gone off in my brain.

Good luck to you!

terraignota · February 2014

Helenahhandbasket said:

I don't really have a similar story-- I just woke up one day and it was like a light switch had gone off in my brain.
Good luck to you!

Kind of the same here. I've always known I wanted children eventually but only in the last couple months did I suddenly feel like....BAMM it's baby time! Doesn't mean our lives are ready so we're not actively trying yet, but getting there. Congrats on the clean bill of health and good luck to y'all

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dogperson11 · February 2014

We've been married 4.5 years and had decided to wait a few years before having kids. My baby fever started about 2.5 years ago. I knew we were ready when we BOTH felt like someone was missing from our family during events (holidays, vacations, etc). We BOTH felt ready and excited for a new adventure.

If you're not sure you are BOTH ready I would suggest sitting down with your husband and creating a list of goals you'd like to accomplish before having children. They can be financial, emotional, career, travel, etc.

The most important part is that you and your husband are BOTH ready.

guzqui · February 2014

Thanks! Yes I talked to my husband and we both feel we want children soon. We are just not sure about the money part because it can be very expensive. I'm starting my own business and he's looking for a better job. So we won't start trying now but maybe early next year.

SmileyJay · February 2014

The same as dogperson11 - over the last year it has started to feel like someone is missing. We love our life as it is but we have so much spare time and are yearning to parent. We are going to start ttc in this May after a big trip we are taking is out of the way. If I get pregnant quickly, we will be married almost 4 years by the time a baby comes and I will be around 25/26. I am glad we waited a few years and have saved money, bought a house, finished college, etc. I have also worked hard to get a good job with a flexible workload that will be great for adjusting to parenthood. Our original plan had us waiting a few more years to have children, but 2012 and 2013 were really good years and an increase in our income and a few other events has allowed that time line to move up considerably.

Ducktale · February 2014

When my friends started having babies and I saw them become parents and fell on love with their kids . I was in denial that I was in that stage of life but eventually the idea grew on me.

guzqui · February 2014

None of my friends have kids! I was the first to get married and they are all still single. It's strange because we now have extremely different lives.
My brother has two girls though and I'm godmother to one of them. But I rarely get to babysit...

carabassa27 · February 2014

I knew I really wanted a baby at 16. Maybe earlier. I remember holding my baby brother just after he was born and I was about to turn 12. He was so warm, and heavy, and it was like a switch had been flipped inside me. I was like "NEED. THIS."

The baby fever never went away. In my late teens/early twenties I regularly had pregnant dreams. Sometimes I was pregnant, on a delivery bed, and holding a baby.

So, I've basically always known I've really wanted a baby. And now I've just been waiting for the right time logistically. I finished college, got married, am finishing my master's, husband is done with his schooling, and financial stuff is working out. H is ready too, so we'll start trying in a couple months.

NerdyLucy · February 2014

Helenahhandbasket said:

I don't really have a similar story-- I just woke up one day and it was like a light switch had gone off in my brain.
Good luck to you!

Same. It happened early last year. DH is the one that actually said we should start TTC though. He brought it up with me in December, and I then found that he was feeling it too.

purple_2012 · February 2014

I've always wanted children. H and I knew we would wait probably wait until around our 2 year wedding anniversary. Baby fever kicked in around October when I was planning my cousin's baby shower. I am so ready for children, but H isn't quite there yet. I know he wants them based on some things he'll say. (Like being worried that one of siblings will steal the name that he wants to use because its a family name). So H and I will probably wait a few more months before we start to actively try.

CowgirlK39 · February 2014

I never liked kids when i was younger but mostly because I had no experience with babies. I was the youngest of all the "kids" (cousins, sibling, etc) and so i never had anyone younger in my life. Then when I was working in retail, I saw how kids behaved in stores and vowed I would never have any. But one day I was talking to some older women and they were telling stories of labor, delivery and parenting and i felt weird. I realized i would be missing out on a huge portion of life if I never had kids. Then I met DH, who loves kids, and realized he was the other half of the equation.... another person who saw things the same way I did and agreed on how children should be raised.

The thing that got us to go off BC and start getting serious was my SIL having her baby. We realize that something was missing and when we get to see our neice, that void is filled. My cousin also had a baby boy and he is just perfect to the point where I do not want to let him go when I have him. Instead of dreading being around kids, now I secretly wish we had one with us when we do certain things.

ETA: words, because they are difficult by this time of the week

pettycrocker · February 2014

I didn't know I wanted kids at all until I had a daughter. Then I really wanted her to have a sibling. If you and your SO are ready, then go for it.

mylittlesunshine · February 2014

I was ready shortly after DH and I got married. However, he was still in law school and we were in a small apartment. We both wanted a home of our own and have solid jobs (at the time he was in school I worked a low wage job).

At times it was hard, but I was so happy we waited and soon after we started TTC I got pregnant with DD1.

GoonieGal85 · February 2014

The hubby and I will be married 1 year on March 17. Baby making has been on my brain for about 6 months now. Really the past 4 months since the hubby got a new, better paying job. I've been off BC for about 4 months. No luck yet. I'm almost 29 and he's almost 31. So I'm trying to get started!!!

guzqui · February 2014

My husband and I really enjoyed reading all the replies!!!. I never put much thought in TTC until I started considering it. We will wait until we have the income we want and I loved the idea of having a trip before TTC. So I think I will start planning that trip soon.

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