Success Sleeping twins together at 14 months?

amd1982 · February 2014

Hi ladies. I'm sorry I am not an avid poster or responder, life has been pretty crazy lately with the twins starting to walk, working full time and also getting the surprise of a lifetime that we are expecting number three in 5 months! Our twins have slept apart in separate rooms pretty much since 4 months old. Dd had a hard time falling asleep and ds was a bear if awakened by her. So we felt it best to separate. Now fast forward to 14 months. We had kind of a crazy January and February with the stomach flu and a regular old flu (diarrhea etc) so they regressed a bit in terms of sleeping. They were doing really well before at night. Usually sleeping 7pm to 6am or maybe a little earlier or later depending on the morning. Now we are having some issues with both waking in the he night. I'm at the point where I say if they aren't poopy or pukey they should be able to go back to sleep on their own. Dd is the worst! Standing in her crib from midnight to almost 2am banging on the side of the crib just screeching. Ugh. Anyway DH and I think it might be time to put them in the same room and let me cry it out together. It seems like a lot of the time when they are waking and crying, they just want DH or I as a security blanket. They grab onto our shoulders really hard. Wondering if maybe this would be a good time to have them get used to each other as a little security at night? Any though or advice to doing this? I'm waiting for another crib to come in since we need one anyway, that way I don't have to put dd in a pack n play in the nursery. She sleeps so much better in a crib. Any advice would be awesome. Thanks!

raraavis28 · February 2014

When I took my boys for their 12-month checkup I mentioned to the pedi that they're going through a very clingy phase, and she told me it was "very normal" b/c at this age, and over the next few months, they are starting to recognize themselves as separate people from me, and this realization is kind of scary for them. She told me to expect some more night wakings and separation anxiety during the night b/c of this, but to just stay consistent in whatever bedtime procedures I have (don't do anything new, like try to bring them into bed w/ me if I haven't done this before etc.) and to just ride it out. Sure enough, L has recently started waking up in the motn....sometimes just once, sometimes as many as three times! I try to take it on a case by case basis. Sometimes he just fusses and gets himself back to sleep (I'll listen outside his door until he settles back down), but if he's just getting himself more and more worked up and I'm afraid he'll wake N, I come in and rock him quietly in the glider until he settles back down, then I lay him back down and slowly leave.

So I guess my advice would be to try to just be consistent and see if you can ride this phase out (sickness etc. also makes it hard). I probably wouldn't try anything super new right now, unless you're planning to sleep the twins together anyway when the new baby comes. Even then, I might also try to wait a little bit to see if the night-wakings settle down a bit. Good luck and hang in there!!

amd1982 · February 2014

Thanks marchesa! That's nice to hear that your pedi says that. Very interesting and helpful. I do plan on sleeping them together and am hoping they can look to each other for some comfort at night. So far they're sleeping in the same room and had minimal crying going down. We will see!

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