Ahhh! Overwhelmed with emotion!

PennyLane26 · February 2014

AF arrived today which means my first FET cycle is officially underway. I feel like I want to pee my pants with excitement AND throw up because of anxiety.

WTF. Actually, IF brain tells me I can't even use that term because for the IFer it doesn't apply to this situation. IF has even gone so far as to take even THAT simple term away from me. FU. That's better.

Started Estrace and baby aspirin, heading to RE on Saturday for initial bw and looking ahead to a transfer on Sunday 3/16.

Now here's a question unique to IF mamas. What to do with G on transfer day? Children are not allowed to attend the procedure (understandably). DH and I want to keep this cycle between just us, so what excuse do I give my mom to babysit? What the heck would we need to do on a Sunday morning? I thought of telling her we were going for brunch in the city, but I'll most likely be wearing a chic yoga pant… not gonna fly. Any ideas? I feel bad lying but if it's not successful I don't want to get anyone's hopes up. The other option is have DH stay home with her and drive myself to and from transfer alone. Not sure I'm on board with that. WWSAIFD??

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CarrieB. · February 2014

Good luck w your FET.

We also wanted to keep things quiet about our FET and didn't want to disrupt DD1's day, so DH stayed home w her and I went alone.

Mnerani · February 2014

Yay!

I haven't been in your same sich, but I probably wouldn't want to go alone (if you're overwhelmed with emotion now, think about transfer day!). Could you wear a comfortable skirt or dress instead of yoga pants, so that you look more brunch-esque? I have a couple of skirts that might as well be yoga pants, in terms of fit and comfort.

luvboston · February 2014

Tell her you were invited to a friends house adults only

JBDamonM · February 2014

Good luck Penny!!! i am already totally overwhelmed thinking about number 2 so I can't even imagine how you are feeling.

Two questions: is your DH allowed in the transfer room and do you take valium pre transfer?

My DH is not so it would be an easy decision to leave him home with LO (although he is such a girl I guarantee he'd get upset about this and refuse!)..... but I take valium pre transfers so I wouldn't be able to drive myself.

What about just telling your mom you guys just want to take a few hours to yourself to re-connect? No further details? Otherwise do you have a sitter you can pay? As far as I am concerned if you are paying someone - no need to explain anything!

trigirl79 · February 2014

DH will prob stay home for most everything. No advice really but I am with you on the emotional roller coaster

kmc84 · February 2014

Good luck!!! I don't think you should go alone. Can you say that you are booked for a couples massage? That should account for enough time to cover you.

ccam · February 2014

We are keeping TTC #2 between the two of us as well. My transfers have always been during the week so we just sent DS to daycare or my sister in laws just like we normally would. If it were on a weekend, we would probably have my IL's watch DS for a few hours and just fib about where we were going. I would want DH with me and he wants to be there, too. We don't have a babysitter that we could pay, or we'd do that. If you're worried about what you're wearing, I'd just get dressed like your normally would to go to brunch. Maybe do leggings and a sweater so you're still comfy??

TJ1979 · February 2014

OMG yay! GL and I'm so excited for you!
I'd say just ask for the help. No excuse is needed. Just say hey, can you watch LO for a bit?

queenbone · February 2014

GL!

I think the couple's massage cover is a good one. Or maybe going for a hike?

Mayzie15 · February 2014

I'm excited for you but totally get all the emotions it's a lot . We will be doing this in a couple of months and we are having a sitter watch DS for the same reason don't want to explain. I would want MH with me during transfer just for the support.

imoverit · February 2014

GL mama. So exciting!!

e74 · February 2014

GL. Is there a babysitter you could pay? We kept some of our cycles a secret too and I hated coming up with an excuse...

jessica_gail2 · February 2014

Holy smokes I totally missed this earlier! I'm so freaking excited for you.

Can't believe it's time!

I echo PP - I don't think I could go by myself (it's also a 2 hr drive one way for me though). Has G spent the night with grandparents before? Maybe she could do that and y'all have a relaxing day on Sunday? Or maybe just that you all want a relaxing day to yourselves. I don't blame you for wanting to keep it a secret at all.

Good luck!! Keep us posted!

mdiblasi10 · February 2014

Very exciting!!! Good luck!!

mcgeeva · February 2014

Good luck! Def tell your mom that you have brunch! I would want DH with you since it's an emotional experience.

PennyLane26 · February 2014

Thanks girls! After all that, spoke with my nurse and they are recording CD1 as the 27th for scheduling purposes and we won't be transferring until the 18th - a Tuesday! Much easier.

LeoLauren · February 2014

GL!!! FWIW, I went by myself with this last transfer and it took all of 5 minutes. I was also way less stressed bc I had a cute little boy to come home to which made all the difference from the first two transfers.

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