New Young Mommy Advice

BeauTeeFulMommy · February 2014

I have so much going on I need loads of advice.

1. My BD and I are not really seeing eye to eye. Since I decided to keep my baby he likes to use rude comments to hurt me (i'm guessing). If my back hurts he says "well you brought that on yourself" or the topic of keeping the baby in the first place comes up and I'm all of sudden "selfish". I do not want my child around such negativity, just things he says and do really drives me up a wall. How do I deal with this situation after my child is born?

2. I lost my job in August before I found out I was expecting, it was hell trying to find another one and I haven't found one since. Right now I'm waiting on my pending case for cash assistance (this really until I can get back on my feet). I was thinking after the baby was born I could work back in retail or another job I may find and start my own business ( I'm really good at making party prints). What is your opinion?

3. Stressed!!!! I'm sometimes down and sometimes up...I definitely need help to keep my stress level down and keep depression away. Advice and prayers are so welcomed.

20thirteen · February 2014

Hi and welcome! Kick that guy to the curb for the time being. He may or may not change his mind about the baby after baby is born. For now, lose the negativity. Parenting is hard with help. It's harder without. But it's even harder with someone who didn't want the baby in the first place.

If you start your own business, that would work out so that you could stay home with baby. But there are drawbacks to that. If you work retail, you'll have to find a sitter or a daycare (or both) with the hours to work with your schedule.

While I was pregnant with DD, Bob Marley kept my mood up. I also reminded myself that this was something that was bigger than me and that BD was a douche and immature and why would I want to be with someone who so easily could lie to his parents? I do lots of breathing exercises to reduce stress when I'm feeling an anxiety attack come on, or I play video games. But I'm a bit of an introvert and this board is the most social I get so I'm not so good on what's good to reduce stress. Candles?

MinnesotaMomma91 · February 2014

Ill try to hit this is your bullet points.

1. If your bd cant be supportive dont speak to him unless absolute necissary(sp?) Seak support from family and friends. No you are not selfish for keeping the baby. He is selfish for trying to make you feel bad.

2. There is nothing wrong with using assistance to get back on your feet. Thats what its there for.

3. Take some time for you! You wont have a lot of time for that once your little one gets here.

Welcome to the board!

BeauTeeFulMommy · February 2014

Thank you so much I just needed someone to speak to, I actually feel good now

MinnesotaMomma91 · February 2014

Glad we could help. Were always here

20thirteen · February 2014

Yeah, we're both kind of creepers here. And there are a couple other regulars, too.

MinnesotaMomma91 · February 2014

Perfect gif for this moment @roxalot

20thirteen · February 2014

Absolutely perfect.

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MinnesotaMomma91 · February 2014

I just took it to a new level of creeper @roxalot

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jellybean529 · February 2014

I'm so sorry! That guy needs to go. You brought it on yourself? Yeah last I checked, women weren't capable of asexual reproduction. What an ass.

As far as the depression -- I have lots of experience in that area. Go for walks, if you can. Make sure you're getting enough sleep and eating healthy. Take a prenatal vitamin to make sure you're getting enough nutrients (esp. vitamin D, a deficiency there contributes to depression). And if it gets to be too much, there is absolutely NO shame in seeking counseling.