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Amber&Reva
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Birth Story----(loss mentioned)
Amber&Reva
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Brynlee’s Birth Story:
Monday February 17, 2014 I came home to Reva doing dishes and making me salmon and pasta for dinner. It was the first day at work multiple people mentioned that I was starting to show. We just found out that we were having a girl Wednesday the 12th.
After eating salmon and watching some TV with Reva I was able to convince her to let me watch the bachelor, which she quickly got tired of and went to bed. After the bachelor I went to bed around 10 pm.
I woke up at 1:43am with liquid through my underwear and pajama pants. I changed and put a pad on and went on google to search “leaking liquid when 18weeks pregnant” google told me not to worry and that most likely Brynlee was kicking my bladder resulting in me peeing. I decided not to wake Reva up but when she got up to go to work around 5am I would check to see if I was still leaking. When Reva got up at 5am I got out of bed and went to the bathroom. I had leaked through the pad my underwear and my pants again.
I told Reva I was leaking and she tried to call the Doctors office but they didn’t open until 9am. She called work and let them know she was going to come in to unlock the door and then have to leave to take me to the doctor. Then she found someone else who was able to unlock the doors for her and by 5:15 we were on our way to the ER.
Once we got to the ER they took me in almost immediately drew my blood put in an IV then we waited. We finally saw the doctor around 6:45 and he got us into get an ultrasound just after 7, it felt like we were finally going to get some answers.
During the ultrasound we saw Brynlee’s heart beating and it was still strong at 160bpm. Reva and I looked at each other and started to cry because she was okay! The ultrasound tech quickly took several pictures and sent us back to the ER. The ER doctor came in said baby is healthy but my amniotic fluid was low. He informed us he didn’t know what that meant and that we needed to go up to Labor and Delivery. Of course the nurse got confused told me to get dressed and gave me directions to our normal doctor’s office and pulled out my IV. We told her that the doctor said to go to Labor and Delivery. She went out to ask him quickly came back in told me that I needed to keep on my hospital gown and that she was supposed to leave in the IV and that transport would move me to Labor and Delivery.
I was transported up to Labor and Delivery they quickly got me into triage and things started happening quickly. They did an exam listened to Brynlee’s heartbeat and tested the fluid coming out of me. Through four different kinds of tests all confirmed that it was amniotic fluid.
Within half an hour the doctor set down the Reva and I and explained the Brynlee wasn’t developed enough to live without the amniotic fluid and we needed to discuss having a baby. We both cried felt confused and completely helpless. Our beautiful baby girl was about to be forced into this world before she was developed enough to make it.
I was moved into my own room and starting 10:30 am Tuesday morning until 10am Thursday morning I was constantly given drugs to force my body to dilate enough to deliver Brynlee. The doctor kept trying to break through my cervix to get the process started but the pain of that was unbearable. They offered and epidural but I refused, I wanted to feel her leaving my body and didn’t want to be numb to any of the process. After two full days of trying to get labor to progress the doctor came in and explained that because my water had broken over 48 hours ago chances of me developing and infection were increasing and we needed to deliver her. After a long 48 hours I finally agreed to an epidural and asked to be able to get up and walk around a little before receiving it. I was up on my feet for a full 45mins just moving around when I felt what I though was her come out of me. Reva ran and got the nurse. She asked if I was comfortable having her deliver Brynlee I said yes. She went to look and it wasn’t Brynlee who arrived but my placenta. We waited for the doctor and within 15 minutes Brynlee had arrived.
I told them if she was still alive I wanted to hold her the second she came out if not then I wanted to hold her after she was cleaned up. Sometime over the stress of the last two days she had passed. The nurse cleaned her wrapped her and a blanket and put a purple hat on her and then Reva and I got to hold our daughter and let her know how loved she is. I thanked her, for saving my life and for arriving before the epidural so that I could be fully there in this moment.
Brynlee protected me and gave her life for me. There was a 50/50 chance that I was going to have to be rushed to surgery after delivery if the placenta didn’t come so I hadn’t gotten to eat anything since Monday night but my little angel Brynlee came out with the placenta.
I spent all day Thursday being pumped full of antibiotics and got released from the hospital Friday. The nursing staff made up a memory box for us (I still am not ready to open it) and a local funeral home is cremating her so that we can at least bring her ashes home.
Brynlee I know you are out there now watching over us. Your mommies love you!
Me: 30 DP: 30
TTC#1
IUI#1 9/26/13 BFN
IUI#2 10/26/13 BFP beta #1 99 #2 456
2/20/2014 Brynlee Madeline is taken too soon at 19weeks she was perfect
IUI#3 6/10/14 BFP beta #1 276 beta #2 722 20w A/S shows we are having a girl
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Re: Birth Story----(loss mentioned)
Me: 30 DW (aka C): 29
Together since 2/15/11 ~ Legally married in NY on 9/29/12
***CP mentioned***
We've been working on baby #1 since July 2013 using Open ID donor sperm. 8 IUI attempts with 5 actual IUIs and one chemical pregnancy. We have one fresh IVF cycle under our belts as well as a FET. I have endometriosis and a uterine septum that was corrected via surgery in November 2013.
11/14/14 - Second HSG shows that tubes are still clear and ute is looking good.
12/6/14 - Started BCPs in prep for IVF #2
12/22/14 - Saline u/s and endometrial scratch (All was clear and OUCH!)
1/2/15 - Began stimming for IVF #2
****All Welcome!****
We are Mommas to four fur babies - 3 dogs and 1 cat.
We're queer. I'm 33, have severe stage 4 endo, and had both fallopian tubes removed. My love ("Manada" on the boards, 32) was diagnosed with diminished ovarian reserve. We did Partner IVF (my eggs, her uterus). We lost our twins Tavin and Casey at 21 weeks gestation.
Our IUIs
with @Manada: IUI# 1-7 (December 2012- September 2013) all BFN. Tried natural, femara, clomid, puregon/follistim, clomid and menopur combo, both the ovidrel and HCG triggers.
Our IVFs:
IVF #1 my eggs November/December 2013: Cancelled IVF due to poor response
IVF #2 my eggs/Manada's uterus January/February 2014
BCPs and lupron overlap Stimmed: 1/22-2/2: Bravelle and Menopur (dosage ranged from B300 and M150 to B375 and M150 to B300 and M225)
2/4 retrieved 10 eggs. Endo was much worse than expected. Only 3 eggs fertilized; February 7 transferred two day 3 embryos, froze one. All great condition.
BFP eve of 6dp3dt; Beta 1 (11dp3dt): 110; Beta 2 (13dp3dt): 175; Beta 3 (15dp3dt): 348; Beta 4 (19dp3dt): 2222; Beta 5 (21dp3dt): 4255
1st ultrasound (3/6 6w 1d): TWINS!!!! Twin A measuring 6w1d with a heartbeat of 118bpm. Twin B measuring 6w0d with a heartbeat of 113bpm.
***July 18, 2014 we lost our beautiful babies at 21 weeks gestation. They were born too early. Tavin Sara T. and Casey Elizabeth T. are beautiful and precious and we will love them and miss them forever.***
FET #1 December 2014
Me: 28 DW: 28
Together since 5/30/02. Married since 8/31/08
IUI#1 - 12/13/13 = BFN
IUI#2 - 1/22/14 = BFN
IUI#3 - 2/21/14 = BFN
IUI#4 - 3/23/14
Married since 6/14/13
EDD 7/1/14 ...MMC 11/22/13...D&C 11/25/13
2nd IUI (clomid+ovidrel) 1/15/14...BFN
7th & 8th IUI (follistim & ovidrel) 6/24 & 6/25....BFN
9 IUIs = 9 BFNs
IVF October 2012: 22 eggs retrieved, 17 fertilized, 5 frozen
ET #1: 1 blast = BFP; Blighted ovum discovered at 7w5d; D&E
FET #1: 1 blast = BFP; Missed m/c discovered at 9w5d; D&E
Karyotyping: normal ~ RPL Testing: normal ~ Hysteroscopy: normal
FET #2: 1 blast transferred 10/25; BFP 10/31!
EDD 7/13/14 ~ Induced at 37w4d due to pre-eclampsia ~ Born on 6/28/14
*Everyone welcome*
Me - 30, My wife - 31 , Together for 10 yrs - Married August 2012
5 medicated IUIs w/ RE (March - July 2013) = BFN
Fresh IVF Cycle in September 2013 resulted in 18 mature eggs, 16 fertilized, 12 made it to day 5. Transfer of 2 Grade A blastocysts on 9/15/13, and 10 embryos in the freezer! *****BFP on 9/25/13 - betas: @10dp5dt = 232; @12dp5dt = 465; @15dp5dt = 1,581 *********William George born June 4, 2014*********First BFP on 1/4/22. Due date 9/13/22.
Me (43) and J (45) - same sex couple. And we don't feel 40+!
June'12 - First RE Visit
Sept. '12 - Tubes removed
Dec. '12 - Donor Egg/Donor Sperm IVF Cycle - 4 good embies!
Dec. '12 - Fresh transfer, BFP! EDD 8/29/13
Mar. '13 - Missed m/c at 16w1d, baby boy stopped growing at 15w4d
Loss due to umbilical cord clot...baby was perfect.
Jul '13 - FET#1 - c/p
Sept. '13 - FET#2 - BFN
Dec.' 2, 2013 - FET#3 with our last chance embie - BFP!!!
Dec' 26, 2013 - hb!!
EDD 8/20/14 with a baby girl!
Little S was born on 8/21/14 - 8lb, 14 oz and 20 inches long.
We live in Seattle and used SRM for our donor egg IVF cycle
Baby Hayden Frances born 12/20/14 at 11:11 a.m... Our perfect little miracle. Here's how we got here:
My lovely wife:
5 IUI's January 2013-June 2013- 3 Cycles with Clomid- BFN
Myself: Genderqueer guy who hopped in the driver's seat of the baby making train
IUI #6- 7/23- Monitored and Trigger on Day 12, with one 16mm follicle and one 18mm follicle- BFN
IUI #7- 8/21- Not monitored, 50mg Clomid- BFN
September and October: Missed Cycles due to vacation and a Half Marathon
IUI #8- Monitored and triggered on day 15, with one 23x18mm follicle- BFN on 11/19/2013
December: Moved onto to see an RE to make a good plan.
IUI #9- 1/1/2014 Natural Cycle, BFP on 1/15/2014, 6W Ultra-Sound Reveals nothing in Gestation Sack... Natural M/C at 7W, 2/3/2014
IUI #10 3/21/2014- Natural Cycle- BFP on 4/1/2014 (please don't be an April Fools. Beta #1 13dpiui- 48, Beta #2 16dpiui- 416, Beta #3 1018...
1st Ultrasound- 4/22/2014- 6w4d HB- 134!
Check out my Blog at: http://pregnantboithinksoutloud.blogspot.com/
Me: 30 DP: 30
TTC#1
IUI#1 9/26/13 BFN
IUI#2 10/26/13 BFP beta #1 99 #2 456
2/20/2014 Brynlee Madeline is taken too soon at 19weeks she was perfect
IUI#3 6/10/14 BFP beta #1 276 beta #2 722 20w A/S shows we are having a girl
Married to my amazing wife 6/12/10
TTC since 6/11
Unmedicated IUI #1 - 6/28/11 - BFN
Unmedicated IUI #2 - 7/25/11 - BFN
Robotic Myomectomy (Fibroid Surgery) - 11/15/11
Unmedicated IUI #3 - 4/24/12 - BFN
Progesterone Supported Leuteal Phase IUI #4 - 6/21/12 - BFP!!
Baby Boy G Born 3/24/13
On to #2, are we crazy?
IUI #1 - 11/28/14 - BFP! Beta #1 (11DPO) 34, Beta #2 (13DPO) 101, Beta #3 (20DPO) 3043
Ultrasound at 6w4d shows a single, fluttering heartbeat. Say hello to Sticky Ricki!
Married in September 2010, started TTC journey November 2012
Me-
7 IUI- 2 CP- 2 BFN
RPL blood work 12/27, showed a balance translocation in chromosome 11;22
Spouse-
PCOS 4 IUI-4 BFN
New Plan: Reciprocal IVF, me as carrier wife's eggs. Just went through insurance and received partial approval, so my part will go through my IVF benefits and wife's part will be out of pocket. Now just finalizing finance plans to cover the oop costs. Doctors office is in process of moving to a new building so there are no IVF start ups until March/April 2015.
Baby Oliver born 11/27/13
TTC stats with donor sperm...
IUI #1 with trigger, 1/4/13 - BFN
IUI #2 with trigger, 2/1/13 BFN
IUI #3 with tigger, 2/28/12 BFP EDD 11/21/13