Don't know if I'm just over thinking things..

ajb19 · February 2014

So I'll be 8 months on Thursday and I just really want all of this to be over. I don't know if I don't like being pregnant in general or because of all the bullshit I've had to go through. I'm single, but sort of taken as well. That father and I are trying to work on things, I guess. Things started off really bad during the beginning of the pregnancy. The father and I dated for almost 5 years, broke up last January, then started talking again. During us talking again he was dating someone else. Yeah, so one thing led to another and BAM I'm pregnant.

A whoooole lot of crap started up after that between him and I, and along with this other girl. Finally he broke it off and we've been seeing each other. I'm at his house 3-4 days a week, he tells me he loves me, that he wants to be with me and so on. But I'm so afraid he's just doing this because of the baby. I have asked him up front before and he's told me he wants to work things out. There was a time I even tried breaking if off and he didn't want to.

I don't know if I'm just over thinking things or if there's things hidden behind all of this that I'm ignoring, just not completely. I want to be a whole family. I know I could raise this baby by myself with him in the picture, but that's not what I want. I want all 3 of us together. One of my main problems with it all is he won't officially ask me to be his girlfriend and that's what scares me the most. If I ask him why he get's upset and tells me he's not ready. I sort of understand because we have a lot we need to work on, but I just don't feel appreciated that I'm carrying his child and I'm on introduced pretty much as Baby Mama around people. It makes me feel degraded. Ugh. Just really needed to vet

MinnesotaMomma91 · February 2014

Im not in the mood to blow smoke up peoples asses today so here it is.

We cant tell you if your over thinking it or not. I cant tell you why hes upset. Im not a mind reader. Also are you in high school that you need to be officially asked to be boyfriend and girlfriend. Bf and i have been together for a year and there was never a conversation about are we boyfriend or girlfriend.

Also you were broken up after fuve years he was seeing someone else. Give him some time to be ready to get back together with you cause obviously there is a reason you two broke up.

jennkg3 · February 2014

Honestly, I doubt you are over thinking it imho. You truly feel either he doesn't want to be with you or maybe you don't want to be with him. I'm starting to find people, myself included, who hold on to the ideology of a perfect family are ignoring what they don't want to see. You need to be honest with him and if you can't be well then yeah there is a problem. it's just really easy to make excuses or ignore things. If you don't feel he is treating you right he probably isn't.

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